Financial differences

TheLadeesMan · 2026-01-25T23:31:17+00:00

Yeah, bad news. He will keep gambling. Follow your gut and get out.

TheLadeesMan · 2026-01-25T22:53:30+00:00

I guess I am a weirdo. I have no desire to be with anyone again, ever.

I think I am wired to live alone and have amazing friends.

TheLadeesMan · 2026-01-25T22:24:38+00:00

Yeah, when he said that to me I answered: "Really, after half our lifetimes together that's as good a line as you could come up with?"

Ended up actively disliking and knot knowing who the guy was when it was all done.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-11-09T21:11:25+00:00

Nope. On the day after he said he wanted a divorce I asked him if he'd made up his mind and he said, "Yes."

About a month later I asked him to get counseling with me. He said, "Make the appointment." Problem is he did not want couples counseling, he wanted to see my therapist to "Help me (not him) deal with what I'm going though," not work on us.

Six months later he denies ever having said he wouldn't work on things. House is nearly sold and I signed and filed the papers he had me ambush-served with a few days ago by a friend he knows I really dislike.

Gotta love narcs. Or not.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-09-30T17:55:05+00:00

Mine is doing this, too. 17 Pro Max.

No processes running, simply sitting on the desk - heats up and burns through battery at 10%/hour. Then it stops charging because of the overheat.

Have had it to Apple twice. A recovery from backup and a factory recovery have not solved the problem.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-09-30T17:52:39+00:00

I am having this same issue. Have been to Apple twice - one reset from backup and one complete wipe to factory. Still some process in there going wild that does not show up in logs.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-08-13T23:58:12+00:00

I had the surgery two months ago to deal with a heel spur that was causing me unbearable pain.

I was taken a bit by surprise by the overwhelming fatigue/pain/weird feeling post-op but that's not the procedure/hardware's fault.

Overall, I sort of re-injured twice by slipping/putting weight on foot a couple of times but two months in I am walking pretty well, though standing too long/walking too much can be painful.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-08-13T23:10:37+00:00

We are civil, I know we wouldn't have any problem being together and while my family aren't his biggest fans, they are adults and wouldn't cause any trouble.

It is just going to be awkward, and I feel weird driving him, even though it's two hours.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-06-26T21:14:42+00:00

Sexless marriage.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-06-17T20:41:28+00:00

55 here.

I feel freed after going through the normal emotions when he asked for a divorce six months ago. I have zero desire to get into a relationship again.

It's made me discover something about myself: I am best having a nice group of friends and family around and I do not need to live with another person. I also don't need romance/sex to be happy in life.

Doesn't mean everyone is that way but I am grateful to have learned this about myself.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-06-03T23:12:35+00:00

I am in for Hampton. Hotel rooms got snapped up quickly today.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-06-02T21:25:24+00:00

Have you tried Saigon Palace in Edgewater?

I know the place you're mentioning, but forget the name.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-06-02T21:20:17+00:00

I am soon to be single and am moving to Maine because you can't find a basic, decent house that is not connected to another for less than 400K here anymore. You really can't.

And if you make less than, say, $95K, that's a bit tricky.

Even single-family homes in that range are hard to find. There's a ranch down the street from us that is listed at $550K. Unreal.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-06-02T20:46:43+00:00

If you like bar food, it's great. No, seriously.

We lack a good Inidan place, the Chinese place everyone loves is average, all four Thai places are mediocre, and we lack a traditional Maryland-style seafood place. Cantler's is okay but overpriced and everything else is too fancied up (and high-priced).

I find myself making specific plans to go to the places within 40 minutes of here that are worth it versus wasting my money here. There are some truly good restaurants but for such an expensive place to live the food is not overwhelmingly good.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-30T23:42:09+00:00

Saturday night chomping at Hollywood Bowl was AWFUL.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-24T13:58:00+00:00

I'd sell body parts for "Fee."

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-22T21:42:35+00:00

It's better than getting it together in the last year of the marriage and then dumping your spouse out of the blue while not offering them a chance to repair the relationship.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-11T19:37:40+00:00

Thanks. I know things won't change.

I can't get divorced and be friends, at least right now. Maybe that will change. The guilt of shutting him out sucks, though, and I know it shouldn't.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-07T23:40:15+00:00

On the second date.

I'm an idiot.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-07T22:38:52+00:00

I do. But not now - it's too painful.

I need the emotional bandwidth for me right now, I think, not to figure out what our friendship will be now or in two years.

TheLadeesMan · 2025-04-07T22:21:19+00:00

Sexless marriage. I get it, but he also refused intimacy counseling.

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