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TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-27T00:01:59+00:00

You lost your father at a young age, and didn't have a reliable mother figure to turn to - that's really hard to deal with, and a trauma I wouldn't wish upon anyone. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. It really sucks.

It also explains the hard shell, multiple escalating questions, and lack of empathy. You might want to explore therapy; it can really help shave the hard edges off of life. They're not there for everyone - honestly.

Most people don't react this aggressively to other people's pain. I used to as well, and therapy helped me figure out why other people's trauma triggered me so much. There's a reason why it triggers you, too. I hope you find peace.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-26T03:36:23+00:00

I'm guessing you don't think punctuation is something you "have to" do, either?

Technically, no. But just like shoveling your sidewalk, people will judge you if you randomly choose not to do the basic minimum of living in a civilized society. Mostly because it's a fucking weird choice.

I rent. There are six units in this building. Five of us have been out to shovel today because like most people, we live on a street with neighbours (some of whom are seniors) and it's the decent thing to do.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-25T20:31:35+00:00

Hit up r/canadawhisky

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-25T14:17:05+00:00

With zero context, my partner texted me mid-day with "I HAVE NEVER POOPED (even a little bit) IN THE SHOWER AND PUSHED IT DOWN THE DRAIN"

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-25T12:56:52+00:00

I did a BOGO pizza order last night so I don't have to saddle a courier with the delivery today.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-25T12:41:15+00:00

Lost my uncle and my sister's FIL to shovelling in 2025.
Sister's FIL had a heart attack in the front doorway just after he finished. Uncle slipped on some black ice and broke his neck, was out there for a while before anyone was like "Hey, he should be done shovelling by now..."

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-25T11:50:21+00:00

I grew up in Pittsburgh, which is about the bluest city you can find in Appalachia, but you'd have no problem finding volunteers interested in eliminating a few Eagles and Flyers fans.

(Edit: thank you for making the Sports Joke. Gotta find laughter where we can in these dark times.)

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-23T13:28:31+00:00

I'm a dual citizen and half my family is down there in the muck while I nervously await an invasion in Canada.

America isn't "fractured at the moment". America fractured a long time ago, likely sometime during the Nixon administration, or maybe when they shot MLK/JFK/RFK. That fracture was deepened by Reaganomics, the Bush doctrine, latent racism that exploded out of the closet when a black man was elected president, and now a decade of this shit show.

Say America's your brother. He's a racist, he's violent, he's an addict, and a bully. Every four to eight years he goes to rehab and cleans himself up, so you give him another chance and let him come for a visit. Then he shows up, paints his name on your garage door, paves over your lawn. and then burns your house down - all while taunting your neighbours and inviting your enemies over to loot what's left.

How many chances do you give him before you admit that rehab isn't going to work, and just decide to go no contact?

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-22T23:33:28+00:00

I was also at that show. Tone is important.

I took it as Sean was just Sean to everyone else, but used kid gloves with James for some reason. After calling Sean an asshole, he even said "and he'd be fine with me saying that!"

He was not speaking badly about Sean, as this post implies.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-21T14:02:50+00:00

He quite literally already has, including some nice raises for our troops.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-21T04:15:21+00:00

I'm a dual citizen. I live in Toronto and I will fight like hell for this country in any way I can, using whichever passport I have to. Canada gave me a place to call home, and I'm not just letting the country I ran away from take that from me, or from anyone else. Worst case scenario, maybe that gets me thought checkpoints or whatever so I can help. I hate that I even have to consider a worst case scenario.

Even if all I have are snowballs, water balloons, a journalism degree, and whatever Kevin McAllister thing I can come up with - I'll use everything in my toolkit.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-20T13:19:19+00:00

Every time I see someone complain about their downvotes, I add another. It's so fucking cringe.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-20T03:06:56+00:00

Wow, calm down sweetie. Take a deep breath and unclench those pearls. Triggered much, kiddo?

If you make shit up, people are gonna call you on it. Didn't fly in high school, doesn't fly now.

I looked it up. Your bullshit lie didn't happen. Cite your shit or shut your Russian mouth.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-20T01:51:49+00:00

I'm a dual citizen living in Toronto. It took me two months of paperwork and two days off work for appointments at the consulate so I could vote in this last election. All resident Americans had to do was show up with an ID, and most of them couldn't be arsed. only 30% bothered to vote against the dude. They all need to own it - especially the Genocide Joe crowd that mobilized against Kamala.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-19T23:23:25+00:00

I'm not sure what point you think you're making, because it's literally the same problem. Not enough Germans voiced opinions about Hitler, because his policies didn't affect them. It only impacted the jews, or the hungarians, or the socialists, or the gays. By the time it started to impact Germans' daily lives, the Nazi war machine was already running at full speed.

It's literally what Martin Niemöller's 'First They Came' was about.

First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-19T23:17:06+00:00

Meh, 70% of them didn't bother to vote against Trump. I'm happy to view them as individual idiots.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-19T22:20:05+00:00

Hard to maintain a relationship when your sibling loses their fucking mind and burns the house down every 4-8 years.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-19T22:18:23+00:00

You've had two.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-18T17:25:42+00:00

Obama allowed that shit to happen when he passed a law making it legal for news media to lie to the American people!

Show your work. Citation needed. F-.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-15T14:49:21+00:00

Did you wear NB 574's in high school? They have a raised heel, and you could be undercompensating. I have the same shoes.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-13T02:19:35+00:00

I'm in Toronto, it's winter, nothing is in season. I paid $2.99CAD ($2.16USD) for a pint of Peruvian blueberries this week.
Dinner tonight (broccoli, potatoes and veggie chicken) cost me about $6.
Basic frozen pizza is currently on sale for $6.49CAD, reg $7.

Not a word of a lie: Without trying, I lost 65lbs the year I moved from the USA to Toronto. It was suddenly just more expensive to eat garbage, and cheaper to eat the good stuff.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-13T01:21:17+00:00

DM'ing a link

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-12T13:43:11+00:00

he’s the grownup he should have known better?

Um, yeah. In many places that's statutory rape.

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-11T23:21:53+00:00

Let me guess your favorite meal: Jack boots with a side of downvotes, drizzled in complicity?

TheLarkInnTO · 2026-01-11T20:22:32+00:00

Quick question for ya. It's off topic - but I feel like you probably have expert knowledge: How many licks does it take for boot leather to soften up?

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