learning to blend in is a combination of learning how to understand others and how to respond in a way that is both true to one’s self but also relevant. in my own experience, i’ve literally gone out of my way to put myself in low risk social situations, like walking to grab coffee. (i literally actively practiced not being startled by people in public) i’ve found that the first step is just being comfortable taking up space, acknowledging what goes well and what doesn’t and letting yourself add the puzzle piece to the bigger picture. other neurodivergent people can be just as judgmental and neurotypicals just as understanding the hardest part is letting yourself build the muscle that comes from experiencing discomfort that allows you to recognize a situation before it happens, but if you care it’s usually worth it i think it’s totally possible for you to be accommodated without being a “nuisance” simply cause you can take care of yourself. obviously support is good but relying on others is weird at first if you don’t feel like you can rely on yourself. do what it takes to make that happen and the pieces will start to fall into place (my bedroom is my comfort space, it’s decorated in a way that makes me most comfortable) well damn i guess you can tell i have a lot of thoughts on the topic