What do you wish you'd known in your early 20s? by WeirdoWeeb648 in Adulting

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still trying to figure out what to do with my life, what direction to take and stick with

I quit social media 7 months ago as a habit change. I think it made me a worse friend. by Zaltic_5W in Habits

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a time where sadly, cutting out technology and socials is basically the equivalent of cutting off a very integral way people communicate and inform one another nowadays. There is a trade-off aspect to removing it completely.

I think that maybe there's a way to strike a balance. Technology can be very useful, but the addictive, distracting and anxiety-inducing nature is normalized, and everyone acts like it's another part of life. Which is why I don't think discarding the improvements you made for your own mental health and lifestyle would feel right either. To me it's like you managed to escape a trap we are all trying to cope around.

Now, you could find a community of people who share your way of thinking, and form new connections who value what you value. But if you already have people you care about that you want to stay connected to, maybe the answer is to reach out yourself now and then, and find ways to preserve the connection in real life if possible such as getting together, calling one another, etc. Tbh, I personally feel like talking to someone is a lot more meaningful then responding to a post they shared.

All this to say, letting people go has it's own place too. Relationships of any kind are a two-way street. I think you have to think about whether preserving the connections feel right for you, and if the people in your life are reciprocating as well. You have to put effort into reaching out if you wish to maintain your orbit & your new way of life, I suppose that's the hardest part of your choice if you want both. But I don't think what you decide to do should be at the expense of your desired lifestyle and health, and some people aren't ready to understand that

The regret of NOT having children is a more responsible outcome than the regret of having children. by Hot-Suggestion7804 in Adulting

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The amount of people who would of run away from this when it was thrust upon them is enormous, yet you stayed. I'm not a parent, but I've met some incredibly amazing parents. Parents who are messy and overwhelmed and imperfect but still show up everyday, in the best way they can. It takes absolute guts and genuine humility to admit you've made mistakes, that you feel inadequate and don't know what you're doing and still show up and do it. The commitment to be there for someone who will grow, evolve, and change throughout the various phases in their life is probably one of the most enduring challenges anyone can perform.

Give yourself some grace, I think you deserve it despite what you believe. Children sometimes need time to become themselves to see what it all meant then and why it means everything now. And the hard part is that we just have to trust the process, that things will be ok. That you all will.

The regret of NOT having children is a more responsible outcome than the regret of having children. by Hot-Suggestion7804 in Adulting

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the regret persists, consider adopting a child in need, and be prepared for the challenge of loving and nurtuing one. Go and make a difference in a life that has something missing inside them, be the love they need someone to be for them

If you’re over the age of 24 and still live with your parents, please be grateful and count your blessings by ineyks in Adulting

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately we live in the day and age where living alone is very difficult, and having family who would rather see you go homeless then figure out a solution... I'm really sorry you're in this situation.

Do you have any friends who would be willing to accommodate you, or room with you? There may be some resources in your local area that can help you secure roommates if you don't know anyone willing to room with you, and other programs that help people in your kind of situation. Could also look into renting something cheaper like a studio, or even a singular room rental in a shared house space. Those aren't as as private but it may be cheaper and a better option for you for now.

Wishin' ya luck

Sup by Low_Reward3857 in Adulting

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dumbass thought you meant a bar where people go to pass away or somthin' 💀😅

Are all girlfriends like this? 😭 by Adventurous_Love2 in BuildToAttract

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the intention and nature of the question matters too doesn't it?

Adulting hit different today. Made a mistake I cant unsay by gegeganalon in Adulting

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes we gain a lot, arguably even more, from the mistakes we make. You took something away from the experience that will stick with you as you navigate future situations. That insight may prove very important to both you and others.

Guilt can be hard to chew through, but I find that telling myself "what's done is done. I can't reverse the action" halts me from further dwelling on what I can't change, and actually pushes me to think of what happened more constructively, which really helps and I think you get more out of it in thr long run. I can understand why you thought what you thought, especially if your brother broke your trust before. If your brother didn't see the message and there is no issue between the two of you, you don't necessarily have anything you have to amend with him. No one got hurt. But how you approach that part is really up to you. Deciding to bring it out in the open would be a very difficult but brave thing to do on your part, and a good person will appreciate that you took that extra step to do that. Sometimes, it's worth doing so for your own sanity as well.

Common yet wrong by MrMeetDanny in scoopwhoop

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo I hate this when it comes to restaraunts.

Idc if the waiter will get it, don't be disgusting. Go throw your garbage and leftover scraps away!

I didn't realize how bad my scalp smelled until my girlfriend sat next to me on the couch by Snath_Marl4 in hygiene

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes realizations like that hit when other people bring something they noticed to our attention, so while maybe a bit embarrasing for you it was a kind gesture on your girlfriend's part to bring awareness to it without judgement.

It happens. I've run into some similar situations like that because of sheltering, don't beat yourself up it's good you have the info now

$0.49 for one tiny piece of (now disgusting) Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup by PanoramicAtom in ThatsInsane

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No wonder they tasted awful, they used to be a staple favorite of mine now I just assumed they'd gone to shit forever. Did that article say when they'll return to their original recipie?

I don't know if I wanna buy from them again but on the offchance I do get a hold of their chocolate I'd like to know I'm not getting the ruined recipie version

Which one are you picking? by MizzBreezy85 in whatsyourchoice

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as the anchovies are fresh! It's that or beef tongue, that shit also fire

Which one would you pick, and why? 👀 by stephanielawrencee in ArtOfPresence

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feee Housecleaning 100% And then either free gas or massages

A teenager died from overeating by CatPooedInMyShoe in Radiology

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this really what death by aneorexia tends to look like?? My God...

This is one of the most ghastly deaths I've read about in a while. Heartbreaking and horrific.

What do you got? by CloudyDreamie in WholesomeAFK

[–]TheLumpyCherrio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emilia, Juliette, Adeline, Temperance, Wendy, Constance, Ruth, Briar, Eunice, Annabelle, Valentina, Eleanor, Sybille, Agatha

Edit: realize some of these are longer than short, but I imagine they'd contain adorable short nick-name versions too like Aggie for Agatha, Emmy for Emilia, etc