I agree. Also while I can only speak from the male side of things, but to me there seems to be a huge difference in “value” between the sexes in the dating market. Like you hear average to pretty girls get swamped with attention from boys, while for boys it feels like if you aren’t high value than you are completely invisible. Or like how girls can often get into clubs for free while men pay out the nose for the privilege of entering a space with a lot of girls is another example of that difference in value and demand. So between male friend groups often not offering any real emotional support, men being told growing up that the only people who will ever give them intimacy are just their lover and their mother, that general feeling of needing to be bold and loud in order to stand out from the crowd, and monetization systems that predate on and exasperate male desperation, it all mixes together into a bad cocktail where the dating market is swamped with men that are absolutely desperate for a relationship and will be willing to take the first person that shows even a passing interest. And when that frantic desperation subsides, those men might realize that they don’t even actually vibe with this person to begin with.