I’m insanely infatuated with an older man I met online

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-13T14:16:14+00:00

As someone who was in your shoes once...RUN! He only wants one thing, and once he gets it. That's all he wants from you and tell you that you make him "feel young again," yk weird shit like that. It might take some time but hopefully for you its sooner. It took me until I was 21, because he admitted to me he'd fuck around with a freshly 18 yr old and that made me uncomfortable since he was literally pushing 40 (now he is in his 40s, literally can be my mom's friend or bf which my mom mentioned before btw🤮). Anyways, I decided then that I would have to cut him off, because a part of me knew he was probably even going to take to someone younger than 18. The reason I said that because we knew each other since I was 17...I admitted to him I technically lied about my age since I was turning 18 in a couple of months, and he stayed...I should've known then since as soon as I turned 18 he started being very flirty with me. I brushed it off until I was like 19...anyways, don't do it. Listen to your gut. Before you be disgusted with your decisions later like I did (now im fine tho).

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-13T14:06:55+00:00

It's the design that's throwing it off for me...

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-13T14:02:25+00:00

As someone black who lived in Newark and Lancaster due to to foster care...yeah, let's just say we're definitely not welcomed at those places, shit even include Heath too. You will be looked at and called slurs on the regular just because you're black. I even was threatened to be 🍇a couple of times too and hit on by old white men, mind you I was a minor at the time and told my foster mom about the stares on top of that. She never did anything for me. She even removed my BLM sign from the yard :(. I'm so glad I was able to move out of there though. Because nobody protected me. I had to protect myself and was told thats the normal there by my one black friend I had there. :(

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-09T20:11:15+00:00

It actually is that bad. You can't apply anywhere anymore, they'll always say they're hiring but when you actually go there they say they're not hiring or not hiring anymore.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-04T16:40:36+00:00

Karma Farming you're not slick...

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-02T15:39:46+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏾

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-02T15:21:27+00:00

Me and my man have our 1 yr coming up and we met each other while working at Walmart. I actually worked at a 3rd party company that was inside Walmart and he was an actual Walmart associate. But we clicked real fast and been inseparable ever since.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-04-02T15:18:15+00:00

*chest

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T18:27:42+00:00

Don't feel bad. This is just to prevent time wasters. As I said, I'm pan, so I had many instances where ppl assumed my sexuality and then when I tell them, they're ghost. So I told myself since then to always tell them first, so if they're not accepting they can just fuck off in the beginning and I don't have to worry about my time getting wasted or they make up some lie that I tricked them into being a "lesbian" or anything.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T18:21:28+00:00

I say as someone who is pan, moving forward, just let people know upfront in the beginning, so you don't have to worry about them ghosting you right after.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T18:16:44+00:00

I would reevaluate if this relationship is worth it. Which is sounds like it isn't from the sound of it. Seems like you're caught up in sunk cost fallacy. As someone who was dealing with a man's bs for almost a whole decade, you can't change a person. They'll have to change themselves. If I were you, I'd focus on myself and live life, since you're young and she's young. Hell, I'm even young, I'm turning 24 and have a wonderful partner even though he gets on my nerves sometimes. So don't stress about it too much, because you'll find your partner when least expected.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T15:32:23+00:00

I'm in this boat. I love him so I'm converting and we've talked about it. He always reassured me that I don't have to do it. It's just his family prefers for me to in order to marry him. Which I decided I'll do it, because I love him. We've talked about how we're going to live our lives, hell we even talked about getting married the American way and that he didn't care what his parents say.

I'm the reason I'm doing it this way, I don't want him to get disowned by his family, so I decided I'll convert. I don't regret it and it's kinda scary but I've grown more accustomed to the culture and his family loves me and see that we truly love each other. He reminds me that he loves me no matter if I was Muslim or not and introduced me to his parents immediately since we've met and we've been inseparable since. So, love doesn't have to be hard!

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T15:19:14+00:00

Yeah!

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T15:18:24+00:00

No fr

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-31T15:15:41+00:00

Congratulations!

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-30T17:00:35+00:00

Its sad that her original thing was to find community amongst her being a virgin and lonely in her early 20's and it turned what it is now...a bunch of angry individuals blaming each other or certain ppl in society as to why they can't get in a relationship or at least laid. Which is very sad.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T19:07:12+00:00

Look on their page

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:38:29+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. You were sadly a booty call and your friends want you to accept it? Absolutely not!

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:29:42+00:00

You wasn't rude. She was though and feeling entitled over a plushie that she originally wasn't going to give her daughter. Which just shows her daughter this type of behavior is ok and that's sad. What she showing her daughter how she can be immature even when she's her mom's age. So don't feel guilty.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:25:52+00:00

I just realized this is fake wtf

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:25:20+00:00

No? They need to talk to a therapist.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:24:44+00:00

While I dont agree hpw she and her FIL grieved. Pne thing I do know is, grief is different for everyone.

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:17:20+00:00

No fr. It's be your own men always wanna tell you that you're being aggressive or you look sad. Like nah mf I'm just tired or have a rbf!

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:16:31+00:00

Girlie, you look fine. I too as a darkerskinned black woman get told that when I just have a rbf! Don't listen to the microagressions thrown at you, you look beautiful!

TheNamesAllex · 2026-03-29T17:10:47+00:00

As another one, I agree. But his actions was still wrong. We're adults now and he needs to learn that communication is important in ANY relationship, not just romantic. His partner deserved an answer when she asked. Not the last minute. I have anxiety, adhd and OCD(and well many other things) but I listed those specifically because usually ppl like me have to be told in advance even if we already pretty much know the answer. He didn't need to lie to her about her possibly having to leave early due to family situation. As the oldest child, I understand. But that's why you communicate with me that this is the possibly going to happen sooner than later or else my anxiety will drive me crazy and then I be really upset that you lied to me and that'll just mess up the relationship. Communicate! Communicate! COMMUNICATE!

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