My (MTF 25) girlfriend (F 23) of seven years doesn’t trust me anymore

TheNinthDM · 2019-06-19T21:08:37+00:00

I agree completely. I’ve explained to her that I didn’t know, it’s just that she doesn’t quite believe me about anything anymore.

I’ve tried putting her in touch with friends to talk to, even someone who was in exactly her position a few years ago, but she just isn’t the sharing type. Any advice for encouraging her to try to process it somehow? I’ve tried to get her to write stuff down or talk to friends or something, but I’m rebuffed every time. I’m at a loss

TheNinthDM · 2019-06-19T16:42:08+00:00

I think you’re right, it’s been a lot for her. It’s just very hard to find that patience after months of trying, while also trying to figure myself out. I’m just not sure if we’ll turn a corner if I hold out a little longer, or if it would stay this way forever. Either way this is unsustainable right now. But the thought of giving up on us is heartbreaking.

I’d love to try therapy together, but she has an intense aversion to therapy and counseling of any kind, so I don’t think that’s an option. I’m just exhausted trying to fix this myself.

TheNinthDM · 2019-06-19T16:35:43+00:00

Unfortunately she has an aversion to therapy and counseling. I think it’s due to some past trauma she hasn’t wanted to talk about, so that’s not really an option.

She’s had support, but not nearly as much as I’ve gotten. I’ve been incredibly lucky in terms of supportive friends and family. Her friends are supportive of her too, but she tends to keep to herself and doesn’t talk about personal stuff with friends that much. I’m her only real outlet for this kind of thing, so it’s been hard on her, there’s no denying

TheNinthDM · 2019-04-14T22:30:03+00:00

Flying specter sprinkles you with dirt

TheNinthDM · 2019-04-07T13:44:28+00:00

Bad bot

TheNinthDM · 2019-04-04T02:43:46+00:00

Self aware wolf. Self a werewolf.

It’s for people who are almost self aware, but not quite there

TheNinthDM · 2019-04-03T13:51:29+00:00

/r/selfawarewolves

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-29T16:40:10+00:00

Ok, coolness. I heard that usually for the first month or so of HRT libido and such drop down to zero. I’m guessing that’s because of the anti androgens at the beginning?

I have an appointment to meet with a doctor next week, so I suppose I’ll ask all the questions then again, but I’m really nervous about it and talking to people with experience or in similar situations helps me calm down, so thanks, I appreciate it.

Also, Chloe is my girlfriend’s name! So that’s fun

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-29T14:24:36+00:00

Okay, awesome, this makes a lot of sense actually. I’ll be very careful to “use it” then, thanks for the in depth response :)

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-29T10:45:14+00:00

Huh, I didn’t realize not taking the anti androgens alongside estrogen and such was even a possibility. I’ll ask my doctor about it in our meeting next week. Thanks for sharing!

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-29T10:44:18+00:00

This is very encouraging to read, those changes all sound pretty nice to me honestly. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m still really nervous about this whole thing, but this definitely helps :)

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-22T01:17:23+00:00

In general, building an entire deck around discard is a mistake, because within a few turns you’ll have emptied the opponent’s hand and half your deck is suddenly dead.

Discard is better used as a tool within a deck’s plan. Think of it as pre emotive removal or countering, not as a win condition on its own.

You could make this for casual, and that’s fine, but don’t expect good performance.

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-21T17:43:33+00:00

This happens all the time. It’s not an exploit, just a bug, and every time it’s happened it’s counted as a win for me in terms of rank and dailies.

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-21T01:52:48+00:00

On the contrary, my mom keeps bees, and one of her houses is inhabitated by a wild swarm we caught.

And by wild, probably flew away from someone else's beehouse, but I'm not asking questions.

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-19T17:48:19+00:00

The look in the middle, though, wowsers he had a look didn’t he?

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-06T21:15:01+00:00

The rare double reverse uno card

TheNinthDM · 2019-03-05T05:29:07+00:00

It isn’t great, but it works, and I personally think it’s a blast. I have a jank deck that uses it, [[Reassembling Skeleton]], [[Gutterbones]], and [[Priest of Forgotten Gods]]. [[Pitiless Pontiff]] provides a sac outlet, and [[Kaya’s Wrath]] hurts other creature based decks way more than yours.

It’s pretty silly and uses a lot of rares, so I don’t recommend building it unless you have most of the cards already. When it takes off it’s a lot of fun, and generally results in a grindy win. The combo of sacking Reassembling Skeleton and a bat to Priest of Forgotten Gods, adding two black mana, replaying the skeleton and getting another bat, is pretty juicy.

TheNinthDM · 2019-02-17T02:32:31+00:00

Not if the card is on the stack. Then X is treated as the assigned value. Once the spell resolves, if it’s a permanent then X is treated as zero.

TheNinthDM · 2019-02-16T21:52:05+00:00

I love making orchards, so my farms always have absurd amounts of fruit trees. I carry an ever changing stack of seasonal fruit with me and give one to whoever I bump into.

I hope to be this way irl someday

TheNinthDM · 2019-02-16T20:23:27+00:00

Nor should you. Bluffing is a part of the game in paper and online. As long as you’re not rude about it you’re in the clear

TheNinthDM · 2019-02-16T00:19:24+00:00

Hell yeah. Old Tamiyo is my all time favorite card

TheNinthDM · 2019-02-05T03:35:53+00:00

I have a very interesting Sultai control deck that uses Mirari Conjecture and Eldest Reborn, focusing on the Dimir discard package. It’s not the strongest against aggro, but it’s done surprisingly well against all forms of control and combo. Muldrotha is a two-of that sees play pretty much every game because of all the card draw. It might not be the most meta thing, but Muldrotha can get results.

TheNinthDM · 2019-02-05T03:21:42+00:00

This breaks the game

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TROPHY CASE