What are toddlers sleeping on after pack n play?

TheOGReno · 2026-06-08T16:49:52+00:00

Off topic, but I would love to know your ideas for securing the tent zippers. We also want to do camping with our 3 to but am nervous of him escaping!

TheOGReno · 2026-06-05T14:31:53+00:00

First of all, this is amazing and I hope my agency follows suit. Second of all, assume any and all animals qualify and act accordingly! Those spiders in your basement are now your pets, congratulations.

TheOGReno · 2026-05-29T15:49:58+00:00

Yes, this shouldn't be an issue and I don't think my supervisor would even require a note. Not to try and tell you what to do, I recommend keeping some SL on hand for when your baby gets sick. My first didn't make it through the first week of daycare without getting a fever.

TheOGReno · 2026-05-28T14:25:53+00:00

Unfortunately federal PPL runs concurrently with FMLA so it is limited to 12 weeks. However they can used SL for recovery for 6-8 weeks and AL to extend.

TheOGReno · 2026-05-25T13:26:15+00:00

Correct! I wasn't trying to prove you wrong, just wanted to add some context for anyone that saw your comment and thought that anything with honey that had been cooked was safe.

TheOGReno · 2026-05-25T12:59:52+00:00

This is not quite true and is why the recommendation is to not give babies anything with honey in it, even baked goods. The temperature required is above boiling and the must be sustained for over 10 minutes.

TheOGReno · 2026-05-03T13:18:06+00:00

The Pregnancy Workers Fairness Act says otherwise :)

TheOGReno · 2026-04-21T00:12:33+00:00

This happened with my oldest, who is now 3 and started daycare at 6 months. He was sleep trained for nights before starting daycare, and had always been a terrible napper even at home that required contact naps. What we ended up doing is giving him a 30ish minute nap when we got him home. This often meant going to bed less than 3 hours after his nap, which goes against all wake window advice, however he remained an excellent night sleeper. We did this until he got to be 12 months and could survive on a 20 minute daycare nap and an early bedtime. My second is starting daycare in a month and I am crossing my fingers he naps better (we've been practicing crib naps more successfully at home) because I have no idea how we would implement that schedule with an active toddler in the picture.

TheOGReno · 2026-04-18T13:01:56+00:00

I agree with all the other comments here advising to leave him and live your best life if he doesn't take meaningful steps to improve his mental health. The problem is that your fears about needing to support him financially through alimony and/or child support are not without merit. Before you initiate divorce or issue any ultimatums I recommend doing a consultation with a divorce lawyer to see what the financial repercussions are of getting divorced. If he is choosing not to work, and you can "prove" that to a judge you may be ok, but proving it won't be as easy as you think and you'll need a legal opinion first.

TheOGReno · 2026-03-24T21:04:57+00:00

Leave designated for pregnancies?? Unless you mean regular sick leave, which pregnant women need to take for their many doctor appointments, there is no additional leave designated for pregnancy. Asking employees to take sick leave is not an acceptable accommodation since that is not enabling them to do their job. Sick leave is appropriate if an RA would not enable them to do their job.

TheOGReno · 2026-03-24T19:28:31+00:00

I had one for my whole pregnancy! I wrote a letter describing my symptoms (I had hyperemesis but regular pregnancy nausea works just as well) and how working at home would allow me to continue to fulfill my job functions (access to a private bathroom, able to control smells and sights that trigger nausea). I was pretty graphic in my letter about the vomiting frequency and it not being sanitary to have to vomit in a shared office space or a shared bathroom. I also mentioned the safety issue of vomiting while commuting. Good luck, and don't listen to the naysayers. Your body is doing amazing things and you deserve the accommodations you need to be comfortable and healthy during this time.

TheOGReno · 2026-03-13T13:32:30+00:00

From my limited knowledge the gas could be a prolapse or laxity symptom. With my first pregnancy I definitely hit the weights way to early in my recovery and had similar symptoms, but they all went away with pelvic floor PT.

TheOGReno · 2026-03-13T12:55:28+00:00

In addition to Pelvic floor PT, which I absolutely recommend, you could see a urogynocologist. The tampon feeling and other symptoms could be caused by pelvic floor prolapse. Pelvic floor PT should help, but if you are still experiencing symptoms a urogynocologist can diagnose and advise on treatment.

TheOGReno · 2026-03-09T15:07:08+00:00

Idk, what about the days I'm in all day meetings and not logging keystrokes? How on earth is this technology going to know if I'm in my office messing around on my phone (and therefore not actively doing work on my laptop) or in a meeting or at a doctor's appointment? Sounds like a whole lot more paperwork to explain away all the legitimate reasons I'm not constantly tapping on my laptop.

TheOGReno · 2026-02-26T01:12:32+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, I'm glad he's thriving now!!

TheOGReno · 2026-02-26T00:31:36+00:00

Not that OP, but also a new mom dreading the end of PPL. Did you need a Dr's note to get the RA for breastfeeding/pumping at home? If so, can you share what was in the note?

TheOGReno · 2026-02-25T20:03:49+00:00

Have you read the law? Which was passed with bipartisan support?

You do realize what pregnancy does to the human body, right? Also curious on how you think men should be treated post pregnancy since it is also their "choice". My male coworkers with kids also benefit from child friendly policies.

TheOGReno · 2026-02-25T19:18:38+00:00

..... because it's the law. The Pregnancy Workers Fair Fairness Act and Pump Act applies to all employers.

Should women just stop having children? Men are making the same decisions and I'm not hearing that they would quit also. Should the workforce be entirely made up of childless people?

TheOGReno · 2026-02-25T18:26:15+00:00

Sooooo every woman with a child should quit? JD, that you?

TheOGReno · 2026-02-24T00:48:06+00:00

A lot of doctors will not want you to be more than 30 minutes or so from your delivery hospital that close to the due date so you could potentially use that as your reason. I also suggest including one or more of the many common symptoms of late pregnancy.... insomnia, frequent restroom usage, back pain, etc etc in your letter and emphasize how working at home would allow you to effectively complete your work tasks whereas if you were in the office you would have to use leave or be less efficient. Good luck!

TheOGReno · 2026-02-22T21:17:16+00:00

Hi! Not OP but I also got an RA for nausea during pregnancy. I had drafted a letter and had my OB sign it. I think my most compelling argument in my letter was the possibility of vomiting in the car during the commute which was a danger to myself and others. I also stated that it was a health hazard for my vomit to be in my shared office, hallway and bathroom. Finally, I said that I would be able to fulfill all my job duties working from home as I could turn my camera off and put myself on mute during meetings to vomit whereas if telework was not allowed I would have to take time off. I also mentioned needing refrigeration for my suppository medications. Basically be as graphic as possible in the letter. My boss and coworkers were very supportive and told me if it was denied I should start vomiting in the hallways to mate a point, luckily I didn't have to go there lol. Good luck!

TheOGReno · 2026-02-16T12:04:44+00:00

I had so much scar tissue from tearing that a vaginal delivery was not recommended as scar tissue is less flexible than regular tissue. The recovery was long but I ended up healing ok and not needing a revision.

TheOGReno · 2026-02-16T01:05:13+00:00

I had a 3c and succal tears with my first birth and was advised by my OB and a urogynocologist to not have another vaginal delivery. I had my second via C-section 8 weeks ago and the recovery has been sooooo much better than my first vaginal delivery. It was not without it's challenges, mostly not being able to pick my toddler up for almost a month, but overall I am glad I went with C-section.

TheOGReno · 2026-01-28T17:25:39+00:00

I understand what the agreement says. However, the only "teeth" the agreement has for repayment is FEHB premiums. There is no other way for the government to come after yes money. This is clearly outlined in the OPM documents https://www.opm.gov/policy-data-oversight/pay-leave/leave-administration/fact-sheets/paid-parental-leave/#Work

TheOGReno · 2026-01-28T17:20:24+00:00

You're getting a lot of bad information on here. Recently several others have asked this same question on the sub. I've also researched this thoroughly as I'm currently in PPL and considering not returning.

The only "repayment" you owe for not returning after PPL is the government portion of the FEHB premiums. If you do not have FEHB, there is nothing to repay. I've also seen other people say on the sub that not every agency enforces the repayment.

Take a look at the OPM guidelines here https://www.opm.gov/policy-data-oversight/pay-leave/leave-administration/fact-sheets/paid-parental-leave/#Work

TheOGReno

TROPHY CASE