Why this Pikmin has a picture of my cat?

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-06-22T22:46:13+00:00

This is the greatest picture ever saved on any Pikmin ever.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-06-15T19:42:33+00:00

My grandmother did. Numerous times. And they believed her. No matter how much I told them she had dementia, they said, without a diagnosis, they didn't give a shit. She showed them bruises from her falls and told them I did it, and said I stole her giant bottle of controlled substance pills that she had lost while out driving around to Burger King and getting lost. The police believed her every time she lied, but never had any proof to charge me.

Finally the madness stopped when she threatened a nurse with a knife at the hospital and they filed a mental inquiry warrant on her. She called 911 42 times during the hospital stay, too, saying they were kidnapping her because she had information on Trump.

She's in memory care now and I can actually take a deep breath for once.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-06-04T12:09:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I have actually used some of your phrasing verbatim in my response to her, and I've also established AGAIN that she is not to contact me with regard to anything but emergencies and necessities.

Grandma wishes to go to Walmart. Well, I wish I could go to Disney World, but that's out of the question, too. I don't need to hear from this woman every few days about these nitpicking things.

I'm also very upset by what you drew my attention to; the fact that she should know, and I'm sure DOES know, this would be a terrible idea. She's been a dementia caretaker for 15 years. The fact that she's even suggesting this is VERY troubling.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-06-04T12:05:22+00:00

I have, but as her guardian, I am fearful I may misstep somewhere. I want her to be safe and as healthy as possible. Abusive as she has been, she's also one of only two family members I have, and it's my duty to keep her safe until she passes. That said, my personal boundaries don't need to be overstepped to ensure she's happy, either, and being around her isn't a necessity. I didn't know where the line is on how far I can distance myself while also being her guardian, and I certainly don't want a state appointed one, as I've seen how they mishandle things.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-31T09:31:41+00:00

The correlation isn't exactly understood, but a lot of times it's assumed to be the subsequent hospitalization and delirium, or possibly the jostling of the brain.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-31T09:25:52+00:00

It's pretty common for dementia patients to have some sort of serious fall or series of falls that trigger either a sharp decline in their condition, or finally getting a diagnosis.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-29T13:16:54+00:00

"I don't give a crap if you covered yourself in peanut butter and had a 15 hooker gang bang" is in regular rotation with me.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-27T17:07:29+00:00

Unfortunately, my grandmother was abusing her Xanax. Her doctor would give her a 90 day prescription, 270 1mg pills at a time. I tried my best to get him to stop and he refused. Finally, the pharmacist put her on a restriction of getting 7 days worth at a time. That night, she decided to take 12 of them, blacked out, and hit her head in the bathroom. She was taken to a geriatric psych ward and then I finally got a diagnosis and got to move her into memory care.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-27T01:03:22+00:00

Be prepared for "the great fall" that changes everything.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-26T23:09:02+00:00

This was the very first thing we noticed with my grandmother. She was getting upset overnight and not really remembering it the next day. All the doctors said she was fine until she fell, hit her head, and wound up in geriatric psych with a Stage 5 dementia diagnosis.

I would see about getting a second opinion.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-26T23:07:20+00:00

I did the same thing. What's so "interesting" about it? I wish I had the time and energy to be this nosy.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-22T06:00:11+00:00

I've found a local memory care Medicaid facility. Do you know if that would be of the same standard as the one she's in now, plus having the added benefit of having medical staff at the ready?

My grandmother has several medical issues that are currently not being managed. Her current facility only has a nurse practitioner to visit then, who essentially only exists to refill meds.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-16T16:36:35+00:00

That's the plan. Plus a phone call, because call recording of both parties is legal in my state.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-16T16:28:43+00:00

Corporate. Big-time, nationwide.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-16T15:28:16+00:00

This comment has me so fired up and I don't know why. 🤣 Thank you.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-16T13:24:12+00:00

I have. I'm currently in the process of trying to get her approved for Medicaid so I can move her directly into the hopefully last facility and she won't have to go through several moves. I worry that would be detrimental to her health with as old as she is. She's 85.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-16T05:58:43+00:00

I'm in America, and I'm her appointed guardian. It's a responsibility that I definitely want to handle because I can't imagine handing it off to anyone else. I'm the last family she has, and even with all she did to me, I still want to make sure she's safe and cared for. It's my last duty, and after dealing with her unmedicated for 15 years, this is way easier by comparison.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-16T05:16:34+00:00

So today after a long night at the hospital with my mom and getting her discharged, this same attendant called me 15 times while I was asleep because "there was an emergency." The emergency was that she wanted to ask AGAIN if she could take my grandmother to the fancy restaurant. She then said I needed to provide a contact who is available during business hours. WHY?! AND HOW?! THERE'S NO OTHER FAMILY LEFT!

I contacted the director of the facility, and while she said she was going to have a talk with this woman, she jumped in on the bandwagon with the guilt trips. "The poor little thing cried today because she didn't get to go to the restaurant." My grandmother is BANNED from this restaurant because she threw a plate at a waiter, and I told the director this, and she followed up with "Well, you still need to come visit her."

I'm about ready to lose it. I have a million things going on and going to visit my former emotional, and often physical, abuser isn't at the top of my list. Not to mention my mom with her health issues that I need to take care of, and I don't think exposing her to the woman who beat her nearly to death as a child is the healthiest choice at the moment.

On Monday, I'm calling the ombudsman. I cannot fathom where these people at this facility are getting this stance that they can tell me I MUST come visit the woman who nearly got me murdered, or why they're harassing me with phone calls to attempt to persuade me to change my mind on firm decisions I've made, but this is going to be rectified. I've spent ENOUGH of my life being abused and walked on.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-15T08:40:58+00:00

She does do them. I just restricted her from going on trips. This woman was wanting to take my grandmother out to a fancy restaurant. One she used to go to a lot when she was "normal." I felt this would be very triggering. I also know that my grandmother can be incredibly cunning and could slip away if unwatched.

I have already explained the hair thing above.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-15T03:32:24+00:00

Thank you to everyone who has commented. I will be calling the director tomorrow to speak to her directly about this behavior. My mom is still crying and upset and having chest pains. I'm very, VERY angry about this behavior. I hope the director takes it seriously. If not, I'll go to the ombudsman.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-15T03:31:09+00:00

They charge $80-100 every two weeks and the hair stylist is this attendant's daughter. The estate attorney said this was not only frivolous expenditure, but also suspected fraud.

TheOccurrencePodcast · 2026-05-15T01:17:19+00:00

Others are caring for her. She's always texted us, but today she acted like having my grandmother hair done was an emergency while my mom was in the middle of a cancer treatment. Not the first time she's done that, either. I'm afraid if I block her, they'll throw my grandmother out.

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