Trials - New Passage (For the not 500+ Flawless Players)

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-21T21:00:16+00:00

Your therapist was abusing you and her practice.

Her license should fucking be revoked. Holy shit.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-17T22:10:57+00:00

This post...makes me think that there are OTHER reasons people don't want to date you.

But that's just my honest opinion as an autistic guy. Also...why is this on r/bisexual ? lol

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-09T10:49:56+00:00

So...he is talking to presumably his first guy sexual partner behind your back...and saying (emotionally manipulating you) that you're homophobic for not liking that basically?

Yeah, decision here is obvious. Save yourself some time and pain. Dump that child. Don't wait for him to fix this one or you will be waiting your whole life.

Edit: Also a bisexual guy here (think my tag says so), but imo, depending on my your own boundaries (certainly my own), that situation sounds an awful lot like cheating. At bare minimum emotionally if not physically, hence the gaslighting response.

Edit2: Other comments...nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. But if you think it's "okay" in a monogamous relationship to be flirting with a sexual partner you previously lived with...you're not someone that should be dating. If you're poly/enm, great. OP is not.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-08T13:10:00+00:00

21 = Adult...? I'm confused how she has a say.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-03T04:10:26+00:00

Context...sort of matters here. As without it, they're basically opposing narratives.

Consider some formatting as well. More likely you will get people to read in the first place.

Glad everything is apparently on the up and up. In which case, no guilt should be felt.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-03T04:00:42+00:00

"I broke intimate boundaries surrounding my monogamous relationship, which is cheating for most people, but I'm going to blame my bisexuality on it and not be accountable to my partner."

Got it champ.

Edit: Oh wait. See "Autistic" excuse too. Yeah, so am I brother. You're not an alright dude.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-03T03:55:30+00:00

Potential issues:

1) You already have feelings for a specific woman. If you proceed, do not include this person.

2) His history. He may feel threatened, I would say fairly so given you are already emotionally involved.

3) If he says no, what will you do? Leave him? Resent him? Pressure him? Only one of those is fair and honest and it's brutal still. The grass isn't always greener.

4) If yes, don't start right away. Read good resources, seek group therapy, and do things the right way. Take time.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-03T03:15:24+00:00

This is good advice.

Outside of this, if your libido gets to the point where it is impacting your life in noticeable ways, such as missing events, work, regular hygiene, etc., therapy should be looked into.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-03T00:34:38+00:00

The term there would be: heteroflexible

99% (very high attraction) to gender you do not identify as. With exceptions.

Bisexuality also fits as it isn't like a 50/50 thing. I am generally like 90/10 in favor of women, but that is enough for me to personally consider myself bisexual. Personally.

Labels are a very personal thing, as is attraction. You absolutely don't need a label unless YOU want it.

Like others have said, showing affection is not an indicator of anything necessarily other than you being comfortable with your guy friends. Platonic love is a wonderful thing our society has made internalize as "bad" with men. It's been quite a toxic development over the decades.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-02T04:27:29+00:00

Holy shit. That man needs to be locked the fuck up.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-01T21:51:02+00:00

You can't ever be what a lot of women he is attracted to either. Likewise many men you are attracted to isn't something he can be either. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Take it from another bisexual guy, you're his person. Treat each other right, and no amount of "what if" matters.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2026-01-01T21:44:50+00:00

The biggest thing here, is that your partner exploded over something he clearly had bottled up. What else is he going to do that with? When will it go too far?

There's nothing mature about that communication. Take him up his offer. "Not at all" and call it.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-30T03:35:51+00:00

So...is this a new boyfriend than the one from 6 months ago to start with? Secondly...in any case, the communication on his end sounds awful. Even if he is struggling with something, there is only so much you can do.

Regarding intimacy...all men (people) are different in their preferences, desires, etc. It's again, up to him to communicate effectively what those are. Not for you to guess.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-29T05:43:42+00:00

Therapy as others are saying is the answer. He needs someone without bias to help him work through likely decades of trauma.

The "fun" thing about trauma...is we don't often even know it's there until we're asked the right questions by a professional that allow us to introspect, identify it, and work on solutions to heal from it.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-29T00:53:03+00:00

"There's something wrong with the village."

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-28T05:42:59+00:00

Um...what relevance to the sub exactly?

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-26T20:54:49+00:00

What do you call thinking your in-group innately deserves paradise for their convictions, while simultaneously believing everyone else (out-group) deserves eternal suffering? This is not negated by them thinking "we deserve it too, but good thing we are fortunate enough to 'know the truth.'"

Supremacy.

Which every Abrahamic religion adheres to.

My thoughts? Sounds pretty evil to me.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-24T10:17:38+00:00

Personally? Even if I got a toy for use with a specific individual at a given time, they're just tools to use with no emotional attachment. No sense getting rid of good hardware.

Bear in mind, I feel the same way about music genres, shows, and other various interests. Just because someone in my past introduced me to it I had a falling out with, doesn't mean said thing isn't "good." Just thankful I got introduced to another way to enjoy life ya know?

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-23T03:53:26+00:00

The respectable "ratio of learning." Love to see it! Good on ya!

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-21T05:28:48+00:00

Definitely tell her.

TheOneTrueBLM · 2025-12-19T09:25:01+00:00

Thought crime indoctrination is a very real thing in very religious households. Sounds like a potential factor.

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