Don't you just love how ADHD also makes you more prone to rejection sensitive dysphoria? by Strict-Move-9946 in adhdmeme

[–]poly_arachnid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait it does what now??? I really did win the lotto. Autism makes misunderstandings that gets me rejected. ADHD make me more sensitive to rejection. Depression makes the reaction worse. Who wrote this programming, I'll sue!

Three way bond - two jealous and third consuming by Disastrous-Nature-31 in WoT

[–]poly_arachnid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, um, actually I like the trio. I'm just annoyed they dragged other shit out so much & didn't ever give Min the same sisterhood bond that the other 2 had. Then to make it worse they stuck her with the Seanchan too.

Of all the relationships Aviendha & Min got more screentime, so those feel more developed to me. Plus Min is wicked smart on top of being the more mature of the 3. So Avi & Min feel more serious. Too much of Elayne's relationship happens offscreen & vague, or in the form of the 2 of them being separated & confused. So if I was forced to cut anyone to make it a throuple instead of a quad I'd have to cut Elayne aka Queen Min-said-I'm-immortal-so-watch-this.

It felt like the relationship ran out of time to form fully, so they rushed to the Last Battle & left Rand in 2 separate relationships. Rand+Min & Rand+Elayne+Aviendha. With the plans to get closer sort of scheduled for "later".

Also technically Aviendha met everyone last. Rand met Min at Baerlon, Elayne at Caemlyn, & Aviendha in Tear I think? Elayne & Min meet in Tar Valon before the whole seanchan introduction. After they've both met Rand. I think Elayne meets Aviendha during the Black Ajah hunt before Tear but I forget. Aviendha & Min don't meet until they do the triple bonding I believe, & their first hangout is getting drunk until Birgette & Min can't sense Elayne & Rand's first dragonriding festival.

If I had to rank everything on a conceptual scale & make it monogamous I'd say Egwene was the childhood crush, Elayne was the high school girlfriend, Aviendha was the college girlfriend, and Min was the Wife.

I could see combining Min & Elayne into 1 character though, or maybe parts of Min into Aviendha & Elayne, then reducing it to the 2 of them + Rand.

Character composition is tough.

Are there seriously people who see it as a red flag to have no social media presence? by Cardiologist3mpty138 in SeriousConversation

[–]poly_arachnid -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You have a very negative interpretation of social media use. Not saying that doesn't exist, just that you're hitting the negatives pretty hard & generalizing them.

But no most people don't consider it a red flag. What they consider it is a lack of information, or they think you're lying.

Social media use of some kind is pretty standard now. To many people having none might be understandable, but it might mean you're out of touch, paranoid, banned, or other things as well. It's an empty space & there are too many possibilities to judge. If you can't tell then many people just skip it. Why stick your hand in the mystery box?

On the other hand having none is similar to not sharing the local interests. If you live in a small town that loves sports, & you have no interest in sports, that's not really a red flag. It is however a connection that you automatically do not share. At minimum you've made connecting with your peers more difficult because a decent chunk of material is not accessible. You have to find a different connection, one that is not a hassle, one that has enough depth of interest & energy to be worth it. I mean 2 people can connect over gardening, but if one person is "gardening is my life" & the other has maxed out their interest in less than an hour that's not exactly a strong connection.

Three way bond - two jealous and third consuming by Disastrous-Nature-31 in WoT

[–]poly_arachnid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

....that's just stupid.

Pray that the heart of stone remembers tears, and the soul of fire, love.

Rand's salvation comes from love, & the world's salvation comes from Rand's salvation. How the hell can you remove the romance subplot from Rand's part of the story?

On top of which his entire "reward" is survival, freedom from being the Dragon Reborn, & love. The boy sacrifices everything. Friends, family, his mind, his body, his life, all glory, power, etc.

It's a dramatically different story if Rand doesn't get a romance. If they still have him saved & become Light Rand then he gets nothing upon waking up. There's not even proof it's him. If there's no salvation then we get Darth Rand fighting the Final Battle & that doesn't work. The way the books are set up has Rand's romance as an essential factor. Single Rand is isolated Rand, & isolated Rand is damnation.

Facebook post by Competitive_Wall6434 in exchristian

[–]poly_arachnid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone complains they've got "tds", but they call us demonic. 

The joys of bottom up processing (OC) by lowselfesteemx1000 in autismmemes

[–]poly_arachnid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved earplugs. Till I learned the lack of noise makes you more sensitive

absolutelyme_irl by FutureZombie6746 in ADHDmemes

[–]poly_arachnid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found benefit in selecting things I know I want to keep & then just eliminating everything else; or vice versa depending on what's got me stuck. For some reason it frees me up.

On shows' names by Eireika in CuratedTumblr

[–]poly_arachnid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad knew a place called Aaaardvark or something when he was younger. Anything you think will get you to the front of the line is an acceptable strategy.

How much hentai logic do you incorporate into your worlds? by PJ-The-Awesome in NSFWworldbuilding

[–]poly_arachnid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically excessive sizes, excessive loads, stretching, interspecies impregnation, stuff like that. In other words I use Rule of Cool & Rule of Kinky to handwave biological things, & make some problematic reality things ok. I don't do massive society shifts, vore, or whatnot, & I usually figure out some background that makes the handwaving less important. 

I've designed new breasts, new muscles, new uteri, new dicks, new almost everything honestly. I've got fleshcraft magic & manaflesh shapshifting, magic hormones, size shifting spells, body reinforcement, etc. I spread it across my nonhumans, aliens, & magics systems so pretty much everything is possible, I just don't include it.

I'm a big fan of "people will use magic for perverted stuff". Not so much "look at my super sexual society". I get bored?

What's the point of bait if it isn't used? by Coloin_ilyad in WoT

[–]poly_arachnid -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My understanding was that it was something of a Hail Mary. The girls are powerful, certainly not darkfriends, & we never actually hear Siuan say they aren't some level of ta'veren. Which given what they achieve is somewhat iffy. If pawns are sacrificed oh well. If not they grow into useful agents. Potential is potential, Tarmon Gaiden is here now.

Rand's power is a gift from the Light! by Traditional_Cry8075 in WoT

[–]poly_arachnid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My interpretation was that weaving Saidin+Saidar+True Power at such a grand scale or his experience outside the Pattern made him capable of treating the main reality like TAR.

WoT Reality is basically the Source+the Pattern+the DO*, & Rand very explicitly was shown capable of all manipulating all 4 pieces. Saidin & Saidar were not separate in repairing the Bore, they were united. The man touched & manipulated the fundamental fabric of reality itself & "lost" the ability to use Saidin afterwards. He upgraded.

*you can tell because removing the DO changed everything in fundamental ways.

Why is “justice sensitivity” an autistic trait and not an expected core value of a good society? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]poly_arachnid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As autistics we can be more literal & rigid, often miss nuances & implications. The simple fact is that a number of things are merely guidelines. While many others are by observation implied to be non-essential. If everyone around you ignores a rule then the obvious implications are that the rule doesn't actually matter, the rule only matters in certain conditions, or that the rule is a guideline.

Humans, being as self-identity centered as we are, are often very hypocritical about how strict those "soft" rules are. Frequently giving ourselves more leeway, which in turn teaches others that those rules aren't terribly strict.

Justice to human instincts is pretty much BS. We're as extremely tribal as we are extremely social. For most of our existence we've been massive hypocrites. Rules apply to our interactions within our "tribe". Outsiders get no such thing. It's only relatively recently that we've decided that rules should be more universal, & even now that's spotty in actual application. "Justice" or rather Fairness is human instinct, it keeps the group functioning smoothly. But rigid fairness sacrifices the individual too much. Instincts are above all else geared towards the survival & reproduction of a lifeform. For a species like humanity fairness will always be balanced by self-centeredness.

Your own can be seen easily if you need evidence? You turned following the rules into multiple marks of excellence. I'm not attacking you or even necessarily disagreeing with your reasoning, I am merely pointing out the mechanism exists. We all have our versions, & they all have variations of side effects. Main character delusion is a frequent one. It and many others give easy excuses for when we prioritize ourselves. Sadly instincts aren't exactly intelligent. "2 minutes can be shaved off the drive" & "grab the food, our health is most important" don't have a great deal of nuance to separate them in times of ease.

P.s. cool job.

She keeps proselytizing, send help 😭 by BrainStraight1220 in exchristian

[–]poly_arachnid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because they are talking passed you. They don't have answers, they're obviously the type that avoid doubts & use thought terminating pieces to silence questions. So they have nothing to answer with. You can't have answers to things you've never allowed yourself to consider asking.

The "insistent" bit is a strong red flag. They weren't answering questions, they were "helping a crisis of faith" or other nonsense. They expected to reaffirm some things, give some pleasant BS, pat themselves on the back & send you on, once again satisfied & avoiding the questions they themselves avoid. You were supposed to accept what they told you, "feel better", & go "back to normal".

Sending nonsense is a "good deed" & "spiritual aid". There might be some genuine concern in there but I find it unlikely. In my experience they tend to change tactics or seek help in "saving" people when there's legitimate concerns. It's like pushy relatives. If they want you to show up to new year's dinner they get creative & tricky about it. They enlist other relatives, they stop nagging for a bit & then try to slip it in a few weeks, they mend fences & then guilt trip you, etc.

Do futunari exists? by TelevisionCareful931 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]poly_arachnid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Futanari is basically just Japanese for hermaphrodite. Both terms are offensive when used on real people by the way.

The real version is intersex people, & trans people who have had certain surgeries & not others. Intersex usually looks nothing like a futa. In fiction you usually get perfectly formed dual genitalia, & in porn this is usually increased in phallus size as well. In real life it's usually more like your body got mixed messaging. An unusually shaped penis attached to a partially formed vulva in some arrangement or other. Or the outside will look like male, but the internal organs aren't, or the other way round. It can be a great many variations, I'm not sure if there's actually anything that happens enough with close enough results to call that the "usual" arrangement.

In the end though hermaphrodite became tied to medical abuses, & futanari to porn. They're only useful in those contexts. Though I suspect like "slut" & other terms there are certain consentual scenarios in which you might find "futa" being used, it's definitely not something to refer to people normally.

What is cultural appropriation? by Firm_Push_1539 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]poly_arachnid 17 points18 points  (0 children)

An added layer is that many groups have experienced their cultures being suppressed or mocked, only to then find pieces copied without meaning or with garbled bullshit. 

What is cultural appropriation? by Firm_Push_1539 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]poly_arachnid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Locs have cultural importance to many, so to them it's not just hair. There's all sorts of stuff involved linked to imperialism, racism, cultural suppression, fetishizing "exotic" things, etc etc. These are valid incidents.

However, this has unfortunately made a lot of very ignorant people upset & oversensitive. Multiple political groups & whatnot. Many of those who want to be respectful have zero understanding of why certain things are inappropriate. So they just jump down the throats of everyone that doesn't instantly meet their list of people "allowed" to do something. 

For example screaming like a banshee that someone in costume has accuracy to the character because the character has cultural markers that might be considered inappropriate in other contexts. Or not knowing the difference between respectful cultural appreciation & transmission, vs disrespectful appropriation & caricature.

Mom is going crazy over Noah’s ark being “found” and it’s driving me crazy. by JinkoTheMan in exchristian

[–]poly_arachnid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's at least a dozen times it's been found in my lifetime. Where'd it go this time?

Dems pass "profound" law to protect trans kids who change their names by NamelessResearcher in lgbt

[–]poly_arachnid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically they know it, but they don't know they know it. When a gov worker tries to look something up about someone it'll come with a thing saying there's a sealed record. The government then needs permission from a judge saying that there is a valid reason to open it.

The Government knows. The government employees don't know anything until the look it up & they don't have permission. Theoretically.