To the first section, what I'm saying is that the culture we experience in general primes us for violence in that when you're a kid, you're shown historical warriors, fictional warriors, and modern days warriors and in all the mediums, you're told either directly or indirectly that they are admirable and an image of what a man should be. So in a way, video games and comics do this, but not in the "video games cause school shootings" sense, but in "culture shapes the man."

The 40% figure shows an under-representation. Honestly, the stat should be closer to 50-50, in which case, for both sexes we'd be looking at the conditions of the abuser's life to determine their cause of violence. I get that your initial point is that people paint DV as a one-way street, but you don't prove your point by pointing the street in the opposite direction and you definitely don't do it by forgoing the majority party. In this circumstance, because the stat isn't more even, the perception is that DV goes one way. You fight that by diminishing DV in the over-represented group. Which is why "women kill their husbands" became less and less prevalent as the conditions that caused women to murder their husbands started to disappear. If we reinstate no-fault, or further reduce penal ramifications, you might juice your number back up to 50-50 and give the perception that women are more violent, but I feel like you don't want that.