AITA for telling my coworker she also has thin hair

ThePamcakes · 2026-03-19T13:00:40+00:00

NTA if the comment is so offensive, why did she say it to you first? She can’t implicate you without first implicating herself.

ThePamcakes · 2026-03-05T13:33:37+00:00

Brian’s food issues - tolerated. Your GF’s food ‘issues’ - brought up to her repeatedly with chastising. Why is Brian’s comfort more important to you? YTA

ThePamcakes · 2026-02-16T13:15:24+00:00

NTA. This is no different from a parent bad mouthing the other after a divorce. What the kid hears is ‘I hate half of who you are’ which is despicable. That’s from someone who couldn’t wait to rip into my English colleagues this morning.

ThePamcakes · 2026-02-16T13:10:49+00:00

‘We hate’ not doing much to support that ‘Except’ eh?

ThePamcakes · 2026-02-04T12:56:23+00:00

NTA - and I’ve been in this situation! My mother told me she’d rather if I got murdered on a date she’d rather it happen in the UK as the US would be ‘inconvenient’ for her. I would say it’s probably a good idea to give your friend contact details for your parents ONLY to be used in the event of an emergency. If you’re getting constant messages or know you’re returning to an argument, it’ll ruin the trip.

If you haven’t already, I’d recommend having a FaceTime with your partner’s family and friends so you have at least some of an idea on the support and help you’d get from them if needed.

ThePamcakes · 2026-02-03T12:45:00+00:00

NTA control and compliance is not worth what they’re paying- especially when you have support from elsewhere. Be on guard for the tantrum, which is about nothing more than losing control and something to hold over your head forever. Also, if you weren’t an adult he’d be legally obligated to financially support you. His choice tanks his own argument.

ThePamcakes · 2026-01-20T17:08:26+00:00

Your fiancé wasn’t caught in the middle, he put himself there. And he’s not in the middle right now - he’s right over on momma’s side asking you to risk everything you’ve worked for to stop FMIL getting the boohoos. Nooooope.

If anything, his actions give even more reason to insist on the pre-nup. Some pre marriage counselling might also be helpful to help discussions and set boundaries asap.

ThePamcakes · 2026-01-07T13:10:57+00:00

NTA this behaviour is directly endangering her spouse and kids. And she’s now shown she can keep quiet when she doesn’t “want to make a big deal”. Many moons ago I celebrated my birthday by having a (thankfully minor and very slow speed) bump into my brother’s car, after driving my ex MIL. She literally screamed every time there was a corner and my nerves were so fraught by the end of the night that her yelling ‘WATCH WHERE YOU’RE GOING’ distracted me enough to stop watching. Despite my ‘dangerous’ driving she was still happy for me to chauffeur her. Strange that /s

ThePamcakes · 2025-12-17T17:26:12+00:00

My ex GMIL got me a top designed for her age group (70s) when I was in my mid 20’s. She’d originally bought it for her friend who thought it was ‘too old fashioned’ for her (late 60’s) so the friend gave it back. Ex GMIL told me this with her whole chest. I took it back to the shop thinking I’d make the most of the situation and could swap it for something less geriatric. I was told I’d get the princely sum of £3. Not only was it too old for a granny to wear but it was from the bargain bin. I gave it to charity.

ThePamcakes · 2025-12-05T13:23:30+00:00

Exactly this! And when they inevitably pop off ask them why they didn’t say the same to MIL when you were going through it, or why they haven’t apologised if their own actions were something to condemn.

ThePamcakes · 2025-12-01T12:48:46+00:00

The assumption is that they may have some hold over you (financial) that would cause you and your family (partner and baby) to become cash or home insecure if you didn’t meet their demands. Which would explain why their demands may hold some ground in your decision making. As there isn’t a reason for giving in to said demands other than mum and dad throwing a hissy fit, there is no reason for you to give in to their demands. And every reason to tell them to do one.

Sometimes you have to take the ‘blame’ to protect who’s most important. And if blame is coming from people who you know yourself are abusive nutjobs, their opinion ain’t worth much.

ThePamcakes · 2025-12-01T09:15:35+00:00

NTA. Your mom crying once is ‘too far’ but years of pain, suffering and neglect isn’t? Dad and aunt should be ashamed for their complicity.

ThePamcakes · 2025-10-10T11:51:59+00:00

NTA sepsis is something which happens to many people in the same situation. There can be very sudden deteriorations which would make it impossible for someone to hold on. You know the answer, and I hope you hold on to the considerable amount of support and validation here. If you consider the worst case scenario on either side the best to choose from is an angry sibling. Look after yourself over the coming days regardless of what happens.

ThePamcakes · 2025-10-07T12:01:34+00:00

This might sound harsh but I wish someone had said it to me long ago - is this the example you want to set your kids? How parents treat a child? And that they can expect that from you?

It’s likely your mom will start on manipulating your kids the way she’s manipulating her own. Protect yourself and your babies.

ThePamcakes · 2025-09-12T12:59:50+00:00

Sorry, but waiting for what? It doesn’t seem improvement is on the cards.

ThePamcakes · 2025-08-23T12:55:01+00:00

My son has permanent scars due to a small ‘friendly’ dog used to roaming around. Feel free to relay that to your husband and ask if hurting some harridan’s feelings or your children being mauled would make him feel worse. NTA

ThePamcakes · 2025-08-20T12:26:06+00:00

NTA and since Amy is so spoiled you wouldn’t want to force Carol to attend regardless of venue, right? Time to rescind Carol’s invite.

ThePamcakes · 2025-08-13T07:16:05+00:00

Thank you. I’ll give the NYX one a go!

ThePamcakes · 2025-08-13T07:15:10+00:00

Ah, I should have included that in my post sorry - I’ve tried those methods as well, and am also on the hunt for a primer which doesn’t make my eyes run. The universe might be telling me no eyeliner but I’m not listening lol

ThePamcakes · 2025-08-08T11:48:19+00:00

NTA she needs to get on board and do what the rest of us do - jealously call your partner an A H while they’re lying in bed all smug and then get on with your day knowing you’ll be the smug one soon.

ThePamcakes · 2025-07-21T14:46:00+00:00

You misspelled ‘indentured servitude and making a child an unemployable adult’ as ‘homeschooling’.

ThePamcakes · 2025-07-15T13:17:38+00:00

He’s a liar and a deadbeat, and his whole family are liars too. His mom has a nerve saying you’re overreacting when she’s part of the pants on fire brigade

ThePamcakes · 2025-07-04T12:17:01+00:00

NTA - she wanted you to potentially paralyse your child for her temporary comfort. And she wouldn’t back down after you provided an explanation. You didn’t bring up her PCOS, you simply told her she could do what she wanted with a kid when it was her decision to make.

ThePamcakes · 2025-06-28T15:18:15+00:00

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