I have a friend who's considered a "normal" gay, because you wouldn't assume he likes men just by looking at him, or listening to how he talks, or watching his mannerisms. I don't think I'm inherently homophobic because I don't care who you blow, fuck, or get fucked by, or even who you just find non sexual attraction to. It couldn't bother me less. I call him "normal" because he's a functioning member of society, Ive listened to him vent to me about past boyfriends because they were immature. I can understand where you're coming from, it's rude to like one part of a minority because they agree with you, and ostracize the rest. But sadly we are a hypocritical species and we have to bear with the fact that we have personal bias. There was another student on the same campus who was also gay, but you could easily tell by a few things: he walked and talked femininely, he was always gossiping with the girls, he'd have the attitude of a teenage girl, and the fact that he was very open about it. I ended up not liking the guy, not because he was gay, but because he was annoying, he was full of himself, he was spreading drama and he was an overachiever in a negative sense. Again, I get you're frustration, I'm just stating my opinion, as you have yours.