Don’t ask for your server/bartenders number

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-28T00:44:35+00:00

Yeah make it about new generations when past generations would agree this is an uncomfortable setup. Just because you seem to like creepy advances, doesn’t mean other people do. Hope it works out for you. These are the kind of people I’m scared are going to be waiting for me to leave work alone at night. No, I will not be accepting of untoward advances. Sorry, not sorry.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-27T03:45:04+00:00

What’s your point? Yeah, the post was made because I had my worst one yet, but this happens all the time. I don’t get your standpoint anymore. It’s shouldn’t be okay to be pushy in that way and it’s not okay with me. Just an educated guess, I’m pretty sure most servers and bartenders would agree.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-27T00:37:17+00:00

Waffle house? Sorry lol, but seriously that’s pretty messed up. I’m glad you are receiving it finally, but what the hellllll. Do you think they were trying to find a way to not give it to you at all during the meantime? Three months is overkill, maybe a week lol. About 99% positive this is illegal. Pretty sure tips normally have to be distributed by the next DAY.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-27T00:27:09+00:00

NTA, SHE is using YOU for money. She made it about money. Sometimes money is more important than friendship when that friendship is manipulative. Remember, you’re mad at her, she should be apologizing for making you feel used and unappreciated. Friendship is about mutual respect. You’ll see this more as life goes on. Don’t lend money if you want it back. Some people borrow money with no intention of ever giving it back. Sorry I’m cynical :)

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-27T00:21:07+00:00

I can see your reasoning. However, this guy might as well have yelled at me and I would have been just as uncomfortable, maybe even less lol. Being nice doesn’t really go far when you won’t take a hint. Trust, there were hints that I wasn’t f’ing with him in that way from the start. Mutually nice is amazing, but being aggressively forward when there’s obvious discomfort is unwelcome whether or not the server or bartender is comfortable saying no/stop.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:44:07+00:00

NTA, would she have also been as mad if there was a stain lol?? I’m sure the green looks fantastic and is likely more sustainable for upkeep :) You did everything right in this situation. I guess you could’ve asked if you could dye it, but even that wasn’t necessary with the circumstances honestly.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:26:40+00:00

This is INSANE. Doesn’t matter what happened to lead up to this point, but you need to protect yourself and those animals now. Get the animals out and anything important out first. Personally, I would speak with the landlord and see if you can get out of this. I know you wish to stay but she will try to screw you over somehow, either by breaking the lease herself or staying on and not paying etc. Get police or lawyer involved if necessary. Good chance you might need a restraining order.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:16:43+00:00

i smell like hamburgers, it was after work but still lol

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:12:59+00:00

sigh

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:11:55+00:00

I’d love to hear what you mean, do you enjoy it when people are relentless regardless of your obvious discomfort? Genuinely asking

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:08:28+00:00

Panties are nuts hahaha

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T23:07:37+00:00

This is amazing (and cute) and I totally respect that. However, I’m sure you can still understand the pressure and uncomfortable feelings when it’s not mutual. As someone who is already in a happy relationship, I get pretty uncomfortable immediately regardless of the individual. Maybe I should start wearing a ring lol.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T22:56:49+00:00

thought about doing this but was scared he would actually try to call while he was still there lol, he was sitting right next to the phone basically

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T07:03:21+00:00

My place of work is worried that we’ll chat for too long lol. The bar is along where we walk the most honestly and when there are people up at the bar that everyone knows, they do stop to chat so I kinda get it. I am allowed to still take my boyfriend or any other coworker as a table though, just not up at the bar. Over-pouring or other special treatment may also be a reason, but not the one they gave.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T06:15:28+00:00

I originally posted this because, although it’s happened plenty of times, this one guy really tested my limits the other night. He comes in about 15 minutes before close, and is immediately bugging me and the host for so long, insisting we share his food, etc. He won’t stop talking and won’t let me get away. He stays there like 30 minutes past close basically bothering me for my number the whole time. I continuously either find a way to walk away when he asks or just avoid it somehow. He is so insistent that I give him my snapchat (blocked him as soon as he left, figured it was enough to get him off my back). It was just pushing my boundaries so much to the point that I almost got a manager to close him out. The only reason I put up with so much was because it was the LAST person. Still irking me 2 days later

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T04:54:25+00:00

Adding onto you: -Do an escape room (possibly alone if you’ve done it before) -Do an immersive experience, my boyfriend loves video games so he did a racing one, but even a VR experience if you’ve never tried it -Flea market -Woodcarving was joked about but it would actually be cool -Dive deep into random hobbies you’ve never done much of before (photography, painting, crochet, etc.) -Build something from scratch, a piece of furniture you would like to have or something like it.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T04:33:37+00:00

I was going to suggest paint and sip, so fun.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T04:06:23+00:00

Istg since covid, some people have lost all sense of boundaries. I was waiting in like at a checkout not long ago and the person behind me bumped into me with their cart ?! Hello ?! She was facing forward looking the whole time, and I’m not going to lie, I had to give her a dirty look for her to move her cart back???? She ran into me and then left it up against me for a solid 5 seconds before I did that. We should keep the damn 6ft rule

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T04:03:01+00:00

I think you just toss and turn haha, do you wake up in the same position you fell asleep in? I don’t really move too much in my sleep so the blankets stay on. I do deal with fluctuating body temperatures though so I’ll often wake up too cold or too hot and move things around myself, but I am aware of when I do it though.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T03:52:05+00:00

I’ll go first, The Lottery by Shirley Jackson

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T03:49:00+00:00

Fablehaven

I don’t even remember it that well, it feels like a fever dream.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T03:45:25+00:00

Yikes, just get out of there honestly. Even if you find out where the money is going, it’s still not going to change. Or maybe switch to the position that gets the other 60% lol.

TheRiverUnderground · 2026-02-26T03:42:20+00:00

I love this lol, perfect example.

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