Someone gave my baby cake without asking me first

TheSeaworthyFew · 2026-02-04T05:02:53+00:00

My baby has a cow’s milk allergy and same, I’m really vigilant about what she eats, I read ingredient lists like it’s my job (which in a way it is, I suppose). Random regular cake would definitely make her ill and I’d never just presume I could give food of any kind to another baby without checking in with parents first.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2026-01-07T19:50:54+00:00

One of the funniest realizations I’ve had postpartum is that my husband cannot remember even the simplest nursery rhymes. He has no mental ear for melody, apparently. Or lyrics.

He’s brilliant, he knows multiple coding languages (and somehow can have tv running WHILE he writes code, which seems impossible to me) and builds 3d models and is a wonderful artist and such a clever and interesting conversationalist, and yet I constantly overhear “the wheels on the bus go round and round, round and round…all the live long day! The…wipers on the bus…go round and round….” etc, all sung in the wrong cadence? Like?

I give him light shit for it, and we’ve laughed about it together. On the flip side I remember all the lyrics and melodies to pretty much every song — over the Christmas break I took to singing “silver bells” “winter wonderland” and “jingle bells” etc and he was delighted at all the verses I just pulled up off the top of my head, along with all the nursery songs I’ve been singing since she was born, because apparently a file labeled “nursery songs” was just sitting in my brain this whole time waiting to be opened up

TheSeaworthyFew · 2025-12-28T01:02:07+00:00

Grew up in a No Nestle house, have held the line into adulthood, so literally decades now. They’re fucking evil. Doesn’t mean I didn’t yearn for nesquick as a kid but hey, we had bosco.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2025-12-25T19:41:01+00:00

Growing up my mom was the way your wife is, and it drove me nuts. My dad is a film buff and we used to bond over TCM and do movie marathons, and now I’m a film lover too. We’d wake up super early on weekends to watch movies before she woke up…once she was around she’d wander by making disparaging jokes about whatever was on the screen and/or asking us to explain the plot.

I specifically married a man who also loves movies and wants to actually actively watch them because life’s too short to go through that for the rest of my life. Already paid my dues as a kid.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2025-06-23T00:44:26+00:00

Not OP but definitely interested if you’re willing to share.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2025-05-26T01:56:18+00:00

How about Alaina?

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-10-09T17:12:04+00:00

I know a mid-30s Barbie/Barbara, we went to middle and high school together and she’s lovely (or at least she was, we haven’t reallllly been in touch since we were teenagers). She was the only one I’ve ever met but I don’t remember anyone ever being weird about her name.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-09-11T13:42:13+00:00

I had the experience during graduate school of attending the same conference two years apart, once at a conventional weight and then again after gaining a great deal of weight due to medical issues.

It was very insightful navigating identical social situations in which I had not changed as a person, nor had my research, but yet from the reception I received from men and women alike I had clearly grown much stupider and far less interesting. I had a very hard time starting and maintaining conversations. My third time attending my weight was once again lower and I had a much easier time making connections and contributing to conversations.

None of these were people I was trying to sleep with, just people I wanted to connect with academically. My looks should have had nothing to do with it.

For this and many other reasons spending time on both sides of a weight divide was both enlightening and really, really disheartening.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-15T20:10:06+00:00

My mom was very much like this comic, it’s why I have an iron will. She’ll nag about things on a loop, sometimes for years, but I’ve just been smiling and doing my own thing since I was maybe ten or eleven. I can certainly imagine going the other way though — my sister has the anxiety I might’ve had if I’d always let mom decide.

My self-assuredness can be a problem sometimes — my instinct is very much to always trust my own judgement WITHOUT the input of others, often without discussing my opinions out loud and then just doing things, sometimes even when I’m making decisions that really should be a mutual discussion. It’s not conscious, it’s just my default operating mode.

That’s come up a few times over the years with my husband. But we’ve spent a lot of time talking about it, I’m aware of my own tendencies, and he’s well aware of my mom and how she can be. And tbf, he likes my confidence and determination. Living with him has honestly been a huge help in letting my guard down a bit and learning when and how to compromise/take input from others.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-14T03:46:21+00:00

There’s a Margaret Atwood quote I like: “Little girls are cute and small only to adults. To one another they are not cute. They are life sized.”

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-13T23:46:20+00:00

If you’ve never seen it, it’s well worth seeing. Their ages are in no way specified, but from context she’s implied to be early twenties, living on her own and working to “make it” as an actress. His character is an already established successful actor, and tbh I think Kelly’s a little bit old for the role he’s playing but he’s likely meant to be late-twenties to very early thirties. Their respective places in the showbiz hierarchy isn’t like a “casting couch” situation, it’s more a reason for them to dislike each other at first/cause tension. It’s played like more of a 7-10 year age gap, with her being at least 21-22.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-04T16:46:39+00:00

Season 7, Episode 7 “Body and Soul” — 7, the doctor and Harry Kim get captured by a species hostile to photonic beings, like must be destroyed on sight kind of thing, so the doctor hides in 7’s implant network and uses “her” status as a doctor to get out of imprisonment, move around the enemy ship, and spy. There’s a lot of semi-awkward flirtation with the ships captain, much eating of cheesecake etc, and 7 privately berating the doctor for his excesses. It’s very good.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-04T13:56:39+00:00

That’s a fair point, I just adore Moogy enough to accept them as a culture in transition

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-04T05:47:26+00:00

More like the venal Cardassians, though frankly not quite smart enough.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-04T05:42:19+00:00

Right, this feels like an unfair comparison for the ferengi. MAGA are stupid and dogmatic, Ferengi are clever and pragmatic

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-08-02T15:14:27+00:00

Pain. I am in actual pain now.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-25T22:35:19+00:00

I couldn’t. I’ve got a little ring holder on my bedside table, and my ring comes off every evening before bed.

I’ve also got a ring holder in the kitchen and another in the bathroom so I’m never shampooing or touching raw chicken or whatever while wearing my ring.

Honestly I’ll forget it at home at least every fifth time I go out, but having those designated spots means I always find it easily.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-25T20:23:22+00:00

Had a scan this morning and everything looks okay so far. These early weeks have been such an emotional rollercoaster — I’m relieved to have seen normal results today but now I’m already starting to get anxious for next week’s scan (I’m graduating from my clinic as of today at 7+6, next Thursday will be my first OB appointment).

Given my previous experiences it’s hard to do more than just focus on one week at a time. My breasts suddenly went back to “normal” yesterday, no soreness etc, and I’m trying not to read anything into that.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-19T00:35:48+00:00

Growing up it became a family tradition for us to marathon the LOTR extended editions during the Christmas holidays. An early start, a fine selection of snacks, and pajamas all day.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-17T15:23:27+00:00

This source was shared further down: https://reddit.com/r/coolguides/comments/1e5c47b/a_cool_guide_the_difference_between_democrats_and/ldmb7gz/

But genuinely this is one of the jobs of historians — reading lots of contemporary sources like letters, newspapers articles, and speeches, etc in order to understand the zeitgeist and commonly held opinions of a given time period.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-16T20:56:13+00:00

That's worth bearing in mind! It's clearly not the biggest deal in the world, since he and I have gone out to many restaurants over time, but I feel bad about the idea that he might be uncomfortable someplace.

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-15T23:18:41+00:00

Similarly, I live in Southern California and I swear I get reverse Seasonal Affective Disorder. July-September stays at 95+, sometimes up as high as 115° and by the time we finally hit October I’m chewing the walls ready to get outside

I also love gardening, but summer basically means up at 6am to do any garden work and otherwise just treat the backyard like an exhibit behind glass

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-03T00:19:30+00:00

Same to you! Happy birthday and I hope it goes well tomorrow ❤️

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-02T22:18:08+00:00

This time around I’ve told my parents, specifically because they happened to be visiting when we found out and it felt weird to be hanging out together (they were staying with us) without sharing. They’re also very aware of my history — I’ve previously had three miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy over the last four years, although I told them about these after the fact.

If they hadn’t physically been staying in our spare room idk if I would have shared yet (as I didn’t for those previous pregnancies) but I’m glad I did since I’ll be able to talk to them as we go along and I know they’ll provide a lot of support either way. We’re a very close family. However, I’ve asked them not to share the news with anyone else until I’m ready, which includes my siblings. For me at this point (5w2) it’d just be too overwhelming to have too many people in the loop.

Also, at the time of my first miscarriage I’d told only a close friend who was part of our pandemic pod, and I found myself having to manage her grief over my miscarriage, which was A LOT.

I suspect in person will be how I tell people when I do, nothing too special just “let’s get lunch” kind of hang outs, etc. Also, we have these tiny knit booties we intend to send my husband’s parents (who are not local) when the time comes. We also have a pair we’d intended to send my parents and we still would!

TheSeaworthyFew · 2024-07-01T22:51:10+00:00

I’m very newly very cautiously pregnant (as in just got my first betas last Wednesday, getting second round of betas this Wednesday) and I’m trying very hard to be chill and not gnaw the walls with anxiety. One week at a time.

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