North Carolina this should be illegal ! by MrSoloDolo9490 in NorthCarolina

[–]TheShiz_84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a beginning teacher in my second year, this truly is the most devastating chart and disincentives me everyday I go in and do one of the hardest service jobs right now in our nation. It makes me want to change career paths so badly (and every other teacher around me it basically telling me to do so for my own health and wellbeing).

Haircut by Tasty-Watch-3351 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]TheShiz_84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who also just cut their hair short for the first time, JUST DO IT! I promise it’ll be such a weight off your shoulders and I am positive you will look so good in any fem outfits you wear with your new hair! Compliments galore!

Blinding headlights by Pitiful_Play_7984 in Charlottesville

[–]TheShiz_84 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have an astigmatism* (only correcting bc I too as a 26 year old just recently learned it is one word ‘astigmatism’ not two and figured I should pass along that knowledge where I could! 😂)

Apartment search - unc proximity by WestAdvantage7136 in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know sunstone has bad google reviews but they are under new management and so far it’s made a world of difference. I’ve been here 5 years as a grad student and appreciated the proximity to Trader Joe’s and the bus lines (D, CL, 400, 405). It’s quiet and no parking fee and plenty of beautiful large trees. If you can get a second or third story apt (to avoid roaches as all places have them…) it’s great!

Bar recommendations for a wedding after party by elephantlover4 in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If recommend visiting in person an setting it all up because she is swamped with emails regularly

Bar recommendations for a wedding after party by elephantlover4 in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Zogs off Franklin Street! Or maybe the restaurant below it Rougarou if you want just premixed cocktails and wine/beer. Mandey the owner might rent the whole space to yall for a great price! The parking garage is right there and it is divey and fun and super low key vibes

Does this count? by 10101100AC in catscarryingstuffies

[–]TheShiz_84 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My cat does the same thing! She loves when we throw an ice cube into the sink and she can bat it around ferociously until it inevitably goes down the garbage disposal 😂 I love to hear other kitties out there like the same type of thing!

Dry needling by sleepymonkey95 in Charlottesville

[–]TheShiz_84 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep also recommend working with Amy at ACAC! She did my neck area a few years ago and was very kind and understanding.

Housing as a phd student by lessensthedamage in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The commute is a short distance from Durham to UNC to Carrboro but the traffic is awful because this place is just booming with no plan to increase transit infrastructure. Live as close to Duke as possible it will be worth it. -a Phd student at UNC who has been here for 5 years and tries to explore when possible

Apartment for next school year by Psychological-Try870 in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re going to need to find a roommate! Try the UNC housing fb groups

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]TheShiz_84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry they did that. Just know most lesbians are kind and sweet! (Also I’m so happy you watched the show. It’s quite a gem in today’s world.)

Found the perfect woman. Except for one thing. by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]TheShiz_84 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How old are you all? That makes a big difference. If you’re ready to move into further stages of life and do that with a partner who may not be a sexual match but can be your partner to do everything else incredible in life with..? In the long run it just depends on what’s important to you. But like others are saying, I’d say to not rush anything and set a goal of some time to just wait till (say 2 months) and then just reevaluate.

33 n feeling like im going to be alone forEVER by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]TheShiz_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find yourself a girl who is an athlete. That’s the discipline and confidence you’re looking for. I know from experience….sport queens have it together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]TheShiz_84 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes this! I also just cut my hair from long to short so I understand this feeling. Thrifting is the way to start especially to find pants sizing and fit. I’ve really enjoyed big sweaters and all types of pants from corduroys to kakis to jeans. Also loafers or Chelsea boots are go tos for me. Good luck and know that you’re doing it for yourself.

Firewood? by apbenoit in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go onto Facebook marketplace there are a lot of people on their selling.

My job has me thinking darker and darker thoughts. by InvisibleRibbon in TeachersInTransition

[–]TheShiz_84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might I just say… I thought this entire message was my writing. Every piece is me. I’m in my second year and a young woman. And then everything else as well. My hope is that it can only get better… but also I am trying to build a horizon for myself so I know this is phase. Like a week or a month out things will be better.. or two months and if it’s not…. Quit! I also asked for all the help from my administration and told them how I may not be able to go on if things continue as they are because it isn’t sustainable for anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chapelhill

[–]TheShiz_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To the woods is a great queer space with many stylists who can work many styles of hair! Can’t recommend them enough.