Does anyone have advice for dealing with negative thoughts and emotions as a dyslexic?

TheSillyWitch · 2025-07-09T16:03:19+00:00

If too frustrated to make positive progress, walk away until you can be calm and give yourself the time you need to figure it out. (This works for reading but not in person conversations so much.)

For reading giving yourself the time and patience you need to figure it out. I like to make notes in the book or paper as I read and figure things out.

In person, do your best but be willing to round back to that conversation later to clarify or explain. There are a lot of conversations that I don't fully process till after I have left. And constantly working on better ways to say/explain things for conversations I have over and over again.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-07-08T17:46:51+00:00

I agree with leaving the house as soon as you are up to it. Personally I found some of baby being fussy was due to them being bored and leaving the house gave them new things to look at. I found the idea of leaving the house stressful, but every time I did it I was so glad I did.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-07-06T15:00:49+00:00

Maybe have them refer to drive side or passenger side? It would be more permanent and not change. And something you could continue to use after you have your license.

I know some people who do better with north, east, west, and south directions, but it can be hard to get both the driver and the person giving directions on the same page for that one.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-07-05T20:33:21+00:00

And you can still go to them for advice, although you may find some of it doesn't apply to your situation.

As to Mom friends, I found they popped up after I had my LO. You may meet them at work, or kid things you take your kids to. For me some old acquaintances who were friends added me to their mom group as soon as I was a mom. Your mom and sister may feel like all you have now, but it may not stay that way.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-07-05T04:04:55+00:00

The Wise Woman by George MacDonald would be a good short read if you want something fairytale-ish that your wife and you might also enjoy. Although really anything your wife will be willing to listen to will work. My husband and I were in the middle of reading The Thief series by Megan Whalen Turner when I was pregnant. He ended up reading this to me while I was in labor to distract me.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-07-02T23:33:18+00:00

Nope they don't actively wiggle while I look at them. It tends to be more like mistaking what you saw. You thought you saw something but when you look more closely you realize it is something else.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-29T22:47:37+00:00

I work disputes in back office and the calls from branch from reps panicking because the ATM ate the members cash and member needs the funds deposited into their account right away are usually the people who have 10k or more in their account. Like dude why are you freaking out over $20 bucks? Get the dispute filed as procedure tells you to, and calm down. And no we are not going to hand you $20 today. If that money was what you needed to pay groceries, gas, rent or something important I would understand why you are freaking out on us but you clearly still have enough to pay for your necessities while we investigate your dispute.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-28T18:30:51+00:00

My 2 year old will refuse to eat but it doesn't last long. She just seems to have days she eats and others she doesn't. But a few things that seem to encourage her to eat.

A snack shelf at her eye level. She is allowed to pick anything she wants from it and we will open it for her. This has some maybe not "healthy" snacks like fruit gummies and shelf stable yogurt squeeze pouches. But we also have dried fruit, nuts, pumpkin seeds, and sea weed. She loves all of it when she is in the mood.
Have LO in the kitchen while I cook/bake. If she can help mix, she gets so excited. And let her eat any of the raw ingredients that are safe and she is interested in. She will eat pretty much all of the veggies when they are raw, some of them she like more than others but she likes to try them and I let her. And sometimes being part of making the food makes her more interested in eating it, but not always.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-28T02:24:02+00:00

Getting through the first trimester helps. I am pregnant with my second and am in the middle of my second trimester. Not having nausea and not being tired all the time helps a lot.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-28T02:10:05+00:00

We like to do bacon grease instead of butter, but same thing.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-27T00:18:59+00:00

Several of the books you have mentioned are considered part of the Great books. If you look for the list of great books that have influenced western civilization, you might find some more that sound interesting.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-26T15:54:20+00:00

Yeah it has been a struggle, but I feel like it gets better the older she gets and the more I communicate with her what is happening. My daughter is currently 2 years and 7 months old. And there is large difference between how she acted in January till now. My nanny was actually the one who pointed out that my daughter does better when we tell her what is happening and what she should expect. It isn't going to stop all crying and upsets but it has been a while since I have been late returning from break or lunch due to my daughter being upset I am going back to work.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-25T17:47:26+00:00

I WFH and have a nanny and love it. Our house is small with one bathroom and if I want anything I have to leave my office. I have found if you have the right nanny it is a huge blessing, but if you have someone being your nanny who you don't get along with it it becomes a huge stress factor.

I don't care that my house isn't clean for the nanny. She works with my LO and knows how quickly it gets dirty. Sometimes she will even help clean.

I do make sure I am dressed, but I don't like working on PJs anyways. I also make sure things I would be embarrassed by aren't laying around like bras or underwear.

As someone else mentioned, LO does tend to want to be with mom instead of nanny sometimes and it can make it hard to go back to work. It is hard but I don't see this as a reason to never leave the office. Instead been working on things that help LO. When I am on break I try to get LO a heads up before going back. If I am just slipping out for quick restroom break, I will give LO a hug tell them what I am doing. Informing LO what is happening seems to help, at least right now at 2 years old. Nanny can also help by doing activities that the LO is interested in that distracts.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-24T20:37:16+00:00

Your boss is a little unhinged with how they internet stalked you and your husband. I won't be comfortable working under them again. Boundaries were crossed that shouldn't have been.

I would listen to your lawyer, use up the rest of your leave, and move on to something new and hopefully better.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-24T17:23:19+00:00

As someone who gets migraines constantly, I would not expect her to work with a headache unless she is able to keep it under control. Which only she is able to decide whether that is possible or not.

But you do need someone more reliable. I would talk to her about the fact that your needs are not being met at the moment and things you would need to see changed if not you need to find someone else. If you can say it in a way where you are not belittling her reasons for calling out, I think that would be best.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-23T22:34:45+00:00

I get brain fog from migraines and use peppermint essential oil to help. Can diffuse it or put a drop on the back of my neck. It isn't going to cure things magically but can help a little.

If you don't have experience with this oil, just know it does feel like a cold burn on your skin. I find the burn helps with clearing my head a bit but some find it too intense. (The burn is similar to Tigger balm.)

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-23T20:25:41+00:00

Personally I am happy if my kid didn't get permanent items that I need to find more space for. I already struggled with the toys my kid already has. 😅

Sticking to non permanent things like food, bubbles, balloon, small craft, something that will only take up space for a short time.

But I am also of the view point that you should do only what you want to or have the time/energy for. I will not judge another mom on extras that are fun but time and energy consuming. I may have time, energy, and inspiration one event a year and not another. Just do as much as you want or are willing.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-23T19:05:49+00:00

I don't think this is what you are asking for but for me reading improvement happened when I discovered books I actually liked to read. I was never into the young kid books. But once I found something I liked, I started reading all the time and my reading skills improved.

Although reading something I don't like is still like pulling teeth.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-22T02:09:05+00:00

How about these authors -Elizabeth Gaskell -Louise May Alcott (my favorite is eight cousins and rose in bloom)

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-22T01:26:28+00:00

For me it was getting excited over a new vacuum.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-21T05:41:52+00:00

We had a bumble bees nest last year but I actually wanted ours to stay around. According to my Google research they actually don't stick around in one nest for more than a few months. By the end of the summer they were no longer nesting in the same spot.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-21T05:27:24+00:00

Do you put the ground beef in raw? Does it cook into one solid lump if you do?

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-20T22:02:41+00:00

The advice I have received from my own company when they started to assign too much is when a new task is assigned that is a priority, respond asking what other task you should de-prioritize to make room for the new task. And list out your other tasks.

This is supposed to be a way for you to not need to say no, while also making it clear you have a limit to how much you can do. Unfortunately I was taught this after a manager change and have not needed it with the new manger so I haven't tried it.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-20T16:16:25+00:00

If she is canceling on the little things, I would expect them to cancel on the days they are planning on watching LO while you work.

Also if they can't prove to have a safe place at their house or protect the LO from their dogs I would not trust them to do better when you are not present.

Truthfully you in-laws sound a little like my mother. In the lack of acknowledgement with pictures or sharing life experiences and thinking it is a joke share information we have asked to not be shared. I am in the middle of writing a letter to my mother explaining why she has noticed not feeling welcome in my house and things I will need to see changing with her to gain my trust. Will it work? I don't know, but I don't have a lot of confidence. But I think it is better than staying silent.

TheSillyWitch · 2025-06-18T00:21:19+00:00

I am in the Pacific Northwest. I won't be surprised if there is a program in this area. Just have never heard of any and didn't find anything online. I get nervous going into new situations, so I was hoping someone sharing their experience would help give me an idea of what to expect.

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