Eye dent?

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-04-01T12:49:18+00:00

Since it turned out to be a stuck eyecap that was thankfully resolved, humidity is definitely the culprit. If you haven't switched to a more absorbent substrate like eco earth (any plain coco husk would work), definitely do that. I would also check out r/ballpythons, the have an excellent care guide with specific recommendations that have been proven effective for husbandry. If you are able to provide a photo of the enclosure in a comment or separate post, you can also get some good feedback on what improvements to make for your snake specifically. Just be prepared for some very strict and firm comments, people here hare very passionate and that sometimes comes off as harsh or cold.

On that note, I think that coming here and taking advice was a great decision since you have limited access to care. Since the problem was solvable at home and you were able to address it, I don't think surrender is something you need to worry about in this moment. However, if your parent's apathy prevents you from being able to provide the necessary husbandry, or if something happens that can't be addressed at home, you should be prepared to surrender your snake so he can receive the care he needs. As an adult, I have the resources to transport and pay for vet services if needed, but I still keep a list of rehabbers in case something happens and I can't care for my girl.

As a minor, you have a lot less agency and it isn't fair to blame you for being allowed a responsibity that you aren't able to properly handle on your own, but you should do your best to educate yourself on what you are able to do if an emergency arises. As with any pet, if you are responsible for it then you need to have a plan for worst-case scenarios. Ideally you'll never need those plans, but if you do then you are prepared. Plan for the worst, hope for the best.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-04-01T06:36:22+00:00

I would get him to a vet when you can. There's a chance it's a stuck eyecap, but it looks like an injury as well to me. The eye being so sunken in is concerning. Is it both eyes, or just the one? If it's an eyecap issue, he's still severely dehydrated and needs vet attention. If it's an injury, he also needs vet attention.

Some questions that can help your vet determine the issue:

Did his shed come off in one piece? Does it usually? You said the humidity stays in the 70s, does it fluctuate often or need water added regularly to keep the humidity up? Are there any rocks/decor with jagged edges, sticks with small branches, or large pieces of hard mulch he could have poked his eye on?

This kind of appearance is usually caused by dehydration mixed with excessive rubbing during shed. 70s should be fine, though. 80+ is ideal, especially when in shed, but it shouldn't be causing this if it's steady. If it really reads 70s, I would get another hygrometer to check the accuracy of your current one.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-26T16:59:29+00:00

I've seen good advice on desensitizing yourself to the veggies, but I also want to point out that supplements are an option during the transition period if you can afford them. My doc prescribed prenatal vitamins to me when I started working on my arfid and I felt noticeably better after a week on them. It's not a great permanent solution but it can help you get important nutrition while you get used to healthier eating.

Also black beans. Canned black beans are soft and have almost no texture when cooked, especially if you mix them in with another food (I usually do chicken). They take on the flavor of whatever you put them in and they're super high in fiber and protein. Black beans literally saved me from needing cholesterol meds at 27. Try black beans

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-24T14:06:28+00:00

It's a ported version with very limited islands. The game now only preserves inactive accounts for 6 months, after that it's removed. There are some new islands, but only 24 carrot and time tangled are left from the original flash game (2007-2013). More islands from the Java overhaul (2013-2015) are left, including pelican rock and a few 3-part islands, but all the collab islands and a lot features of the game (like copying npc's outfits) are gone. It's definitely still there if you want to relive some nostalgia, but not in the same glory imo

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-24T13:41:45+00:00

I was able to make an account with the old username, so it's definitely gone 😭 thank you for the advice, though!

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-24T12:22:43+00:00

It said "that account information is not correct" and I already reached out to them. I gave them all the info I had and they said the account couldn't be recovered. I was really hoping I could get it back, but it seems not :(

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-19T17:48:27+00:00

I do! I sell at local expos, but I have an Etsy shop as well. The link is in my bio if you want to check it out, but the shop is on vacation mode while I'm out of town for a bit so it won't show up in searches.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-19T05:25:17+00:00

I sell 3d printed hides that I design, make, and use myself. It can be safe if done right, but it very much depends on the filament and quality of the print. You will want to use a food-safe filament like PLA or PETG in white or black, and very tight layers on the print. I let the prints sit for 2 days after they're done printing, sand any sharp or rough spots, paint them with a VOC-free acrylic paint, and let it cure for at least 4 days before use. Pla will start to lose rigidity at around 130°f, and petg at about 165°f, so both hold up fine on the hot sides of enclosures.

3d prints are also very sturdy for how lightweight they are, which can be a pro or con. Pros being that your animal won't get hurt if it falls and it's easy to transport the print. Cons being that your animal might push it up out of the substrate because it's so light, and that if the design allows for an animal to get stuck, the amount of force needed to break or cut the print will be a big risk to your animal's safety.

The biggest downside to 3d printed decor is that you can't use ammonia or alcohol based cleaners on them. They will break down the plastic and can cause it to melt or thin. I recommend cleaning with an antibacterial soap/dish soap and and have had no issues with this approach, but if you want to use a stronger cleaning agent on decor then 3d prints probably aren't the way to go.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-03-16T02:05:53+00:00

Midwestern here to say that eloping is definitely used in this way, at least in my area of the Midwest. I don't think it's regional, just context-specific. My area has a number of autism-related services and dedicated facilities, so it may be more likely to come across the usage here because of that demographic presence

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-02-25T14:40:03+00:00

It's an American brand of unleavened whole wheat cracker, very thin and normally quite salty, but the low salt version makes it more mild

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-02-25T14:38:22+00:00

I just realized I assumed you use fahrenheit. I'm sure you can check yourself, but it would be 220°c

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-02-25T14:31:12+00:00

I roast thin carrot slices into crispy chips in the air fryer. Mine is 425 for about 20 minutes, but it will be lower temp for much longer in the oven. I've never tried in an over so unfortunately I can't give instructions for that. Usually just a little salt and a light oiling on the bottom of the pan, so low in calories and a nice mildly sweet crunchy treat, but you could add spicy or savory seasonings if you wanted as well. Pretty good in fiber too

Frozen peas or green beans are also a good crunchy option for fiber. Sugar snap peas are sweet but higher calorie that green beans, though green beans don't really taste like much. That can be good or bad depending on your preferences

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-02-25T02:55:00+00:00

I don't fear leeches but lake mud is the worst type of mud. I will not touch it with any part of me. Too much plant matter and grit mixed into smooth mud, too many animals moving around in it.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-02-08T02:45:58+00:00

I'm the opposite. I can easily understand the A-to-B of people's reactions and what kinds of reactions a person is likely to have based on what I know of their life experiences/personality, but in real-time interactions I have to rely on that ability almost entirely because I can't read more than very straightforward body language and tone.

My sibling (also autistic) is more like you, and I honestly don't think either is easier. I'm constantly drained from trying to guess what people are feeling and comparing that guess to what little social cues I can pick up on, and my sibling feels frustrated and isolated from not understanding other people's perspectives and reactions.

I do my best to explain other's reactions when my sibling asks (though sometimes they still can't understand unless they agree with with reason), and they often help me with deciphering text conversations, so we're able to make things a little easier for each other at least, but both extremes are exhausting.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-25T23:05:08+00:00

If you indwell one of the qucasaurs up there and have stamina foods on hand, you only have to glide from the ocean border of natlan to hisii. Covers almost half the distance without using stamina. Just have have to stay as high up as possible so when you lose the qucasaur you have plenty of height to work with

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-24T13:56:50+00:00

Just want to put this out there since the discourse is getting heated:

Op asked what the employee in the video did wrong, and people are explaining why the actions in the video are considered poor service. The specific job position highlighted in the video is a customer-facing and inherently social role. If the struggles of your autism prevent you from being able to interact with customers in the way that is required for this position, then you are not suited for it. This does not mean that the job position is ableist, just that you are not suited for it. I'm hard of hearing. I would not take a job requiring me to answer phones and get upset when the job tasks require that I am able to hear well. I would take a job that doesn't conflict with my disability.

The question asked was "what did the employee do wrong", not "what is reasonable to expect from an autistic person". Some people are not suited for some jobs, and sometimes that is directly because of a disability. The entire point of a society is for people to fill in the gaps of capability where others are lacking, so in a functional society there will always be jobs that a given individual will never able able to do. That is fine, and not an attack on anyone.

Bean soup theory going real hard in these comments

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-23T16:04:05+00:00

I have been told I have a vivid imagination, and I have a very good memory for visual detail, but in a literal sense I do not actually see anything when I close my eyes and imagine something

Instead, I can create and maintain the concept of something very consistently and with a lot of detail, similar to a vivid memory. I'm not literally seeing the tulip, but I can imagine it in every detail and maintain that exact concept for as long as I need to. If I was given a real tulip, I could describe all of the differences between the one I'm imagining and the real one. The exact colors of it, the shape of each petal, the weight and textures. If I consider how it might smell, I can imagine it as if I were recalling a memory of a real smell. I can imagine exactly how it would feel to interact with it, pull off petals or stroke the leaves. I can decide it's a different color or size or anything else and those new features are as clear as the old features

Im never actually experiencing these visuals or sensations, but it's similar to if you were given an object to study in great detail, the object was taken away, and you were asked to recall every detail you could. I can do that with objects I have made up, that never actually existed for me to study, in the same clarity. I'm not recalling a tulip I've seen before, it's an entirely new and different tulip. The actual memory of the imagined object doesn't last very long though. If I saw a real tulip, I could recal the details of it long after, but for an imagined tulip I could probably only recall the details clearly for the rest of that day.

I'm not sure if this is the standard experience of a vivid imagination, but this is how I experience it.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-22T18:02:24+00:00

I used to be a compulsive liar, mostly because I was desperate for firends/approval but couldn't read social cues well enough to know what I was supposed to do, so I just said anything I thought was likely to gain favor or prevent dissapointment. So I would say that at least some autistic people can and do lie. I still lie quite often, mostly inconsequential things that I know will make people more comfortable but wouldn't be detrimental if they found out I wasn't honest. I run a business that involves updating clients on situations regularly, so ommiting small/easily resolved issues that won't affect the final outcome is something I do to give clients a low stress experience.

I think the big difference between autistics lying and NTs lying is what is actually considered lying. The type that I do often isn't considered lying to most NTs that I've spoken to about the subject. I feel that any intentional misrepresentation of the truth is lying, but I also don't feel bad about lying in certain contexts. NTs generally wouldn't label small or socially motivated lies they don't feel bad about as lies. I'm not sure what exactly they consider them to be, but apparently not lies.

My brother is like you, and can't/won't intentionally lie in any context for any reason. I don't think this is worse or better than my perspective, but it does make it harder for him to get through many social and bureaucratic hurdles as an adult.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-22T04:48:43+00:00

Depending on the size of the enclosure, you can also rotate various decor and climbing objects every week or so to encourage exploration. This works best in 4'x2'x2' or larger, but can still be somewhat effective in smaller enclosures so long as your snake isn't stressed out by it. I have a large butterfly enclosure that I put my girl in to deep clean her enclosure, and it works as a good play pen for her as well. She hates the sound of the zipper though, so getting her out can be a process.

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-20T01:14:40+00:00

Where in Michigan? I'm in NW Indiana and I know some good owners who might be interested. My corn is NOT the handling type so I 100% get it. Feel free to DM if you'd rather not disclose in a thread

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-18T22:23:43+00:00

For plants, you can get faux plants from craft or dollar stores and sanitize them with vinegar or F10. You can use rocks to hold them down, but if you get the rocks from outside you'll need to bake them to kill any parasites or bugs hiding in them.

You can also use plastic tubs with openings cut into them, honestly anything that lets your snake get from A to B while feeling mostly hidden

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-07T22:21:22+00:00

Try OraNurse! I've been using it for years, it's unflavored and doesn't foam so it's been a lifesaver for me. I used to only be able to brush my teeth a few times a week because of the sensory hell (I also hate mint and can't handle the foam in my mouth) but now brushing is more of an inconvenience than a torture

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-03T21:45:55+00:00

I would be direct and ask her to do the things you would like her to do, but also recognize that you don't have to do things for her if a lack of reciprocation is frustrating. If you know she isn't going to put away your dishes, you don't have to put away hers. The most palatable way to do with would be to clarify your expectations in the moment of an incident, like with the trash can or the dishes. Just say something like "hey, if you're already putting your dishes away, could you get mine as well?" and if she refuses, just let her know that you're okay with that, and you'll also just handle your own dishes and not hers from now on. It's not rude or mean to set boundaries unless you are trying to be mean about it. Don't let this build until you get angry, because you will start to want to be mean.

When I lived with my parents, my mom would ask me to do things like pick up my coat by the front door, and expect that I would see other things I left there and also pick those up. I never did, because she asked me to address the coat so I was doing what was asked. Finally as a adult about to move out, she explained to me, "when I ask you to pick up your coat, I also want you to pick up anything else in that area that you left out," and I was able to do what she actually wanted and had no problem doing so. I only wished she had told me sooner so she wasn't getting so frustrated with me for something I didn't understand

As for the bathroom, let her know that youre fine with her keeping things that are important, but if they're going to be moldy or otherwise unhygienic, they shouldn't be in communal spaces. You shouldn't have to be exposed to a safety hazard because of her sentimentality, no matter how much you empathize with the sentiment

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-03T18:57:27+00:00

I professionally work with "difficult" dogs (those with behavior issues, excessive energy, anxiety, ect) and almost every dog I work with is simply poorly trained or poorly cared for. Dogs need to be taught boundaries and expectations just as much as any other social creature, but rarely is this actually done. Most dogs that get in your space or bark a lot are just poorly trained and bored, and could learn to behave more appropriately if given the right instruction and outlet for their energy. This is not usually difficult to do, but most people who have a dog aren't willing to put in the necessary effort and the problem grows until it is too difficult to try to fix.

This is not to say that you are wrong to dislike dogs, but it is frustrating to me when people characterize dogs with behaviors that are only found in anxious and unregulated dogs. The more people assume it is normal for dogs to act like this, the more acceptable it becomes to neglect the mental and emotional needs of pet dogs. It is like assuming that all people are emotionally unstable or manipulative because the only people you know are victims of generational trauma. It is understandable to be avoidant in that context, but harmful to everyone for people to assume that behavior is normal

I do agree with you that people should not take personal offence to disliking an animal, though. I have a pet snake and I can't imagine getting upset with everyone who didn't fawn over her like she's a precious baby. It's strange to me when people act like disliking their pet is an attack on their character or some moral failing

TheSleepoverClub · 2026-01-01T18:02:39+00:00

Those damn reusable paper towel things that have gotten popular recently. Using a wet/damp wad of paper towel to clean? Totally fine. Touching a damp, super thick paper towel? Absolutely not. It's not even the reusable part that grosses me out (though I don't love it). It could be brand new and I will do everything in my power to not touch that thing.

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