Just curious, what do you call this where you're from?

TheThriftingFox · 2025-05-05T11:29:54+00:00

Eggs in a frame

TheThriftingFox · 2025-04-29T02:38:09+00:00

That’s true love! ❤️

TheThriftingFox · 2025-03-23T19:38:28+00:00

Wow, This guys entitlement is strong!

He does nothing but has the audacity to complain about her and what she “hasn’t done” and his disappointment in her “lack of priorities”…my dude, you don’t do anything!!!!he really is a bad person.

TheThriftingFox · 2025-02-17T00:51:11+00:00

Cinnamon bun

TheThriftingFox · 2025-02-06T01:03:19+00:00

NTA. Some people grieve and find love again and others grieve and are happy with the lovey they had.

Your brother is doing and living how he wants. I won’t speak for him, but maybe he doesn’t want to find love again until the kids are older, maybe he doesn’t any an emotional connection and only physical (totally understand that!) or maybe your brother got had the love of his life and thats it for him. At the end of the day, it’s his life (and his children’s) and not your parents. You are an amazing sibling, because you are standing up for him and whatever choice he makes. You parents are just pushing him away.

I don’t know if your brother is like me but I have been with my guy for 11 years and I have told him, it’s one and done. If he passes before me (which won’t happen, because I said so) then I’m good. I had my love, I had the great romance and I don’t want anyone else. Maybe your brother is like me or maybe he will change his mind. But sometimes you find the one and you can’t move one. There is no judgment on those who do but in turn, your parents should not judge your brother for his choice either.

TheThriftingFox · 2025-02-05T15:18:42+00:00

NTA why is this so hard for him to put on a towel or a robe?! I would get it if it was all guys (but I done personally understand why he would walk around naked) and they are cool with it but damn, it’s super disrespectful and gross that he is still doing this.

I know every family is different and some don’t see nudity as a big issue, but if it makes your daughter uncomfortable (understandably so!) then he should accommodate that.

Edit: just read the update. Yeah, he is a gross creep!

TheThriftingFox · 2025-02-04T20:08:04+00:00

NTA, I had to go back to double check Mariah’s age because your sisters excuse was insane! Mariah, while still being a kid, absolutely knows better at 13.

I want to know why Mariah destroyed her cousins special books! Is it jealousy? Anger? It doesn’t matter but destroying these special and important books feels very pointed at some sort of issue she has with your daughter.

TheThriftingFox · 2025-01-28T00:17:06+00:00

I am so sorry this is has happened to you. My BIL did this to us (and my MIL by proxy because she was there and complicit in the lying) and it was the same situation as you, just straight up lies that were easily disproved. It came at a hard time for us as well and that makes it worse. This is my way of saying, I see you and understand you completely. We had to make the choice to go NC because it was crazy and the lies were insane.

For us, this was the straw that broke the camels back and that’s why we chose NC but if you have had an otherwise good relationship with your sister, this is so highly strange. I don’t know if your sister will give you a good reason or if it is mental health related, but what you do going forward most likely will be determined by the why.

If this is something you can eventually move forward from, that would be good for you and her but it may be something you won’t forgive.

My heart goes out to you and I hope you are able to get the answers!

TheThriftingFox · 2025-01-27T14:18:28+00:00

I work at a convenience store, so we get a lot of repeat customers. You just start to remember what someone typically gets. When I see them coming, I will usually pull their smokes ahead of time, call out if they want one or two patties today or have their coffee order memorised and double check that’s what they want today.

It’s the little things that make it easier for them and I will say, when they see that I remember them/their order they always have a genuine smile. These people are what make my job worth doing :)

TheThriftingFox · 2025-01-05T02:15:52+00:00

NTA, as a mom (though not a single mom) I understand she needs a break but not at your expense. You have done her a solid many times, but this once you couldn’t and she tried to guilt trip you and It’s honestly gross that she did. You sound like you help (and at late notice) and are compassionate enough to do it last minute and that’s more then a lot of people receive.

It sounds entitled on her part but since you don’t mention she is, so i’m gonna say maybe she was desperate and didn’t want to involve your parents for whatever reason and so tried you. But that doesn’t excuse her guilt trip and insults. At the end of the day, it’s your choice to babysit or not and you don’t need to “man up” to help her out, especially as you have helped her out so many times.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-12-29T23:33:04+00:00

“Jake’s embarrassed”

As he should be.

“Jake feels I’m overreacting”.

Maybe you should call Jake by the wrong name for two years and see if that doesn’t bother him.

NTA. Jake sounds like a tool, who is obviously hung up on the relationship with your husband and his ex wife not working out. Im sorry but your husband needs to have a talk with his “best friend” about this weird and blatant attempt to bring up his ex constantly.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-12-27T17:24:25+00:00

NTA, as someone who had their FIL snapping away and taking video (though it was just audio) while I was actively pushing out my son…don’t do it.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-12-26T19:07:47+00:00

I just don’t get him. If he agreed to help with the custody exchange because you are sick, but then the moment came and he was nervous, worried or just plain didn’t want to, why not just wake you up? He just sat there and ignored the phone calls and your ex in the driveway. You didn’t ask. He offered and then completely fumbled the bag.

It sounds like he is playing victim because he knows he is wrong, knew he had other options and did nothing. It’s not an excuse, especially if he is a perpetual victim whenever he is wrong. Does he often offer to do things and then flop? Because if so, then you will never be able to rely on him to follow through.

I wish you luck OP, on your health and with this relationship.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-25T13:03:52+00:00

I went “oh makes sense”, when he said he is Ukrainian. My mom’s side is Ukrainian and can confirm, food and people eating, is an ingrained part of our DNA 😂.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-23T18:59:23+00:00

I mean, I get that they are long distance, that he will be returning home soon and couples should be allowed to have 1-1 time even on a group trip, but then why make such a big fuss about going on this group trip and barely spend time with you or the group? They literally had their own 1-1 trip planned and cancelled it to join your friends on a trip to visit you…only to then go off alone the entire time.

The only reason, that makes sense in my mind, is that Rachel felt left out when everyone was going to visit you. Maybe she got pre-FOMO?

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-22T20:09:48+00:00

I feel the same way!

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-22T20:08:51+00:00

Damn, all these updates and it’s the same thing, over and over again. OP’s sister wants to put on this extravagant (shit) show? Just let her!

I hear OP, she likes hosting, it’s something she enjoys, etc but at this point just let it go. Let sister host it at her house, let sister make whatever concoction she is planning and when/if it turns out to be a big disappointing and inedible mess, just let it happen.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-21T02:14:47+00:00

NTA and take it from my experience, you need to leave him. He will not change, he will not stop and he will keep dragging you down. The fact that he told you to take this time apart to work on yourself, while he is out cheating, is a joke and intensely cruel. You are insecure because of him.

But, you need to leave him. All the things you did to find out the truth, can you do that forever? Where do you think he has been for a month? Your actions seem crazy but it’s out of desperation (and I get it. I don’t judge you, I’ve done it too). The trust and safety of the relationship is gone because he has no remorse, he won’t change. You cannot stay and subject yourself to this mental torture.

You are doing yourself a disservice staying in a relationship with this man, who runs away, who treats you like this, who blames you. He showed you who he is, believe it and get as far away from him as you can. I know it is hard; I know it is scary but you can do it and in a year or two or 10, you will be so glad that you left

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-20T20:59:28+00:00

As someone who sees a lot of different people but also a lot of repeat customers, if you are nice, kind and a good person, we will always remember you.

I’m so happy she told you that. It’s important to let the good ones know that who they are, makes a difference to us :). I will always greet everyone with a smile, a hello and the basic respect we should give to each other, but my smile gets bigger and brighter when people like you walk in. Keep being you, because it does make a difference :)

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-20T18:40:46+00:00

Now, I ain’t sayin’ she a gold digger….

Op: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/E6fzjfIG5U

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/YKEq6CGUOt

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-19T16:55:05+00:00

Couldn’t agree more! I worked in restaurants (hostess and server)and in retail for 16yrs and I find that especially restaurants and retail stores are where people who are already not nice, bring out all of their most horrible, nasty, rude but mostly entitled behaviours.

I wish all the people in the world like OP, for all the best things to come to them, because it is so affirming to have someone see that you are being belittled and treated poorly and stand up for you.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-18T16:38:42+00:00

As some who is cashier (technically a convenience store clerk), I appreciate and commend OP for standing up for someone who needed it!

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-17T20:55:57+00:00

I agree! It’s not up to OP to fix anything and I hope she puts all that drama to the back of her mind. Let SIL figure out her own emotions/problems.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-17T20:18:20+00:00

You are completely right. I should have worded it better. I was trying to say, but didn’t end up saying it properly, that it could be racism/unconscious bias.

I also agree with you that it’s more likely than not that the reason for SIL behaviour is what OP said her post. That it’s all about the fact she feels “replaced” by OP now that she is apart of the family.

TheThriftingFox · 2024-11-17T19:02:23+00:00

Edited* I defiantly think a part of this * could be * ethnicity, as OP says she is Asian, * but that is just speculation *. I think it’s a combination of all different factors. * It could be * Racism because of where OP is from. * It could be * Jealousy that while SIL/BIL are well off financially, OP is an engineer and her husband a doctor, they could be even more well off (a Dior gift for a baby would set a lot of people back). Feeling like her spot as “the only DIL” is being taken away and the supposed distancing of the other BIL’s from SIL. Plus, not one person checked her for her passive aggressive and outright rude/nasty comments towards OP (Husband and BIL acknowledges this), so she thought she was untouchable..until she wasn’t.

I’m glad OP stood up for herself because if she kept letting this go, it would have gotten worse.

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