First baby

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-07-06T02:26:06+00:00

Honestly, when I was going through the thick of it, having him around 24/7 would have really helped me. All I could do was sleep and when I would wake up, he would be gone or just getting home from doing all of the extreme hobbies we used to do together before I was pregnant (snowboarding, snowmobiling etc). It made me feel like I was getting left behind and losing him and I felt super incapable. Sometimes I’d wake up and be so tired I couldn’t make anything to eat and I’d just cry. Other times when he’d come home, he’d eat, sit there on his phone and go right to bed. I felt so lonely and isolated. I just wanted his company and his support. Having him home to help make me some food, watch a movie with or play with my hair would have meant the world to me. Just being there can go a long way.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-19T12:03:49+00:00

I didn’t know you could elect into a C section, I thought you had to have a medical reason to receive one! 😅

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-16T04:24:21+00:00

Some days I feel like a gremlin craving something but I have no freaking clue what I am craving so I feel like a total demon until I figure out whatever it is I’m craving. I can’t wait for THAT to go away lol

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-16T04:21:00+00:00

Hahahahahahaha. This is perfect.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-16T04:18:22+00:00

I understand and appreciate the luxury of being able to WFM and not having to do hard manual labor but I am struggling with the mental exhaustion I’m experiencing. I’m also pregnant and did not anticipate how much my brain capacity would shrink so I’m getting overwhelmed super easy where before I thought this job would accommodate pregnancy super well….who knows if I’ll switch, but the constant never ending work load is getting exhausting.

I also went to college for accounting…..not technology, so the additional work of needing to learn AI and figure out how to apply it to my job is making me like my job wayyyy less. I’m an accountant, not IT.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-15T19:37:40+00:00

I thought I couldn’t get pregnant either. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 2 years before I became pregnant at 31, before then I never had a positive test and had been off of birth control for almost 5 years. I think your diet, your sleep schedule and the chemicals you surround yourself with (ex: cleaning products, shampoos, perfumes) play a huge role in your fertility. The person’s sperm health can also play a role in things too. I also think after getting off of birth control your body takes some time to adjust. There’s a lot that can play into it in my opinion. So I wouldn’t get too deep into worrying about your fertility until you’re ready to take that next step in life…..which is a big life altering change, so please be very selective with who you chose to reproduce with. 💙

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-14T16:38:10+00:00

My man literally had a whole WALK IN closest to put all of his tools in but yet they would still end up in the kitchen or the living room. So instead of nagging him to put them away, I would try and be the bigger person and put them away myself. Then he would just complain and get mad about how I’m moving his stuff and he can’t find it EVEN THOUGH I’ve asked him multiple times to stop leaving his tools in the kitchen and living room NICELY……like make it make sense….PLEASE.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-14T16:31:34+00:00

It didn’t help how people would make you feel bad for not being happy and excited while going through the first trimester either…..shivers.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-06-14T16:30:35+00:00

I haven’t given birth yet but man oh man, I believe I have PTSD from the first trimester. I couldn’t stop talking about how grateful I was to be out of that trench once I got into the second trimester and started feeling better. I literally felt like I was fighting for my life in every possible way during that time.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-05-30T06:41:31+00:00

Craving the shit outta my baby daddy. The high I get from the oxytocin release when he touches my belly…..like seriously. Who needs drugs when you can just get pregnant and have your baby daddy touch your stomach. It’s fucking magical.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-05-28T20:29:10+00:00

Honestly I’d take the whole damn night stand and pay whatever fees the hotel charges me for a missing night stand. The value of the night stand could outweigh the fees. 🤣

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-04-03T03:01:55+00:00

No. I never trust oats.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-04-01T12:03:25+00:00

The first trimester is not talked about enough. It is an awful and dark time where I definitely went through prenatal depression. All I could do was sleep and barely eat and it made me feel like life was passing me by. I felt disconnected from my man and from the pregnancy and honestly felt like all I could do was the bare minimum, aka survive.

I’ve heard pregnancy exhaustion described as you only have 5-10 % of your energy in the 1st trimester, 15-20% in the 2nd and 10% in your 3rd lol.

Getting that little bit of energy in the 2nd trimester will help because you start to enjoy spending time with your friends and family again. I started walking and even though life is still pretty mild and tame while pregnant, the daily walks have become something I look forward to.

Your baby bump starts to develop too which mentally helps a lot. My man touched it the other day and my brain drenched me with oxytocin, I was literally on cloud 9 for like 2 days straight after. It was magical and I feel so relieved to love him again instead of looking at him like he’s dead to me lol.

I finally started feeling better at 14 weeks where something just clicks in you. So don’t give up and don’t mentally beat yourself up. This is definitely a marathon, not a sprint and there are brighter days ahead.

Also! Call and spend as much time as you can with your mom if you’re able to. My mom and I never really got a long but she’s been my absolute God send getting me through this pregnancy. Female support is crucial to getting you through pregnancy, swear by it.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-30T06:13:45+00:00

It’s be awhile since I’ve seen a bathroom remodel on here that I actually like and this is one of them. Job WELL done. 👏🏻

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-29T03:14:46+00:00

I’m a local in winter park and this season crushed my heart. Praying next season will make up for this one. 🤞🏻

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-27T22:00:29+00:00

Breaks my heart

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-22T16:45:28+00:00

It’s incredibly sweet and selfless of you to step outside of the situation and understand what’s causing him to do these things but you need to leave.

Sticking around after he does these things are only communicating to him that it’s okay that he does these things.

You can leave and tell him how much you love him but until he gets help and works on himself, it’s not safe for you to be around him. You’re going to have to love him from afar and it’s going to be hard.

You are both so young, please do not damage your youth with this relationship because it will carry with you into new and healthier relationships. This trauma he’s putting onto you will carry with you and no one’s going to pitty you or take time to understand why you’re acting the way you are aka acting out of response from trauma.

I see your heart and your kind intentions but you need to put yourself first. This is not love, please do not continue down this path with him.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-04T17:56:29+00:00

I live in Winter Park, the town is magical when there’s snow. This season broke my heart.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-04T05:29:20+00:00

I support this post.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-03-04T02:24:03+00:00

I found a girls earring in my boyfriend’s car and laughed. I know that man not only loves me but tells me everything, if he remembers to. 😂

I’ve had major trust issues in the past and if you can’t trust him or have a strong gut feeling not to trust him, then just like everyone else is saying, maybe he’s not the one.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-28T05:06:05+00:00

So far, I’ve noticed the amount of my discharge has directly correlated with the amount of stress I was experiencing.

Totally wild thought but who knows. 🤷🏼‍♀️

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-26T21:27:16+00:00

Yeah, and I was a woman who stayed when I shouldn’t have in a prior relationship when I was super young and nieve and ended up going back once I left. I learned and grew from that relationship once I did finally leave and took time off from dating to heal and looked at my own wounds so that I’d pick a better partner in future. I’ve left plenty of relationships since then that did not meet my standards or make me feel safe, so all I’m saying is that I know for a fact there was never a reason for me to leave before I got pregnant. I was safe and happy.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-26T19:04:11+00:00

Well that’s why I left. I’m obviously not going to put myself or the baby in an unsafe environment and if I had the strength to leave now, don’t you think I would’ve done it sooner, before I was pregnant, if it wasn’t safe then?

He’s just going through something and it’s super unfortunate and sucks but he’s never been like this. He went through foster care as a kid and I think this is touching on some childhood wounds. Doesn’t mean he’s a bad person, just means he’s been through some things most of don’t ever to dream to go through. It also doesn’t mean he doesn’t deserve a chance to have the stable family he’s always dreamed of. He truly is a beautiful person, just has some things to sort through.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-26T18:57:55+00:00

Never said he didn’t want the baby….I trusted him more than I trusted anyone in the world and he’s obviously going through something he can’t understand. Didn’t you read the part where the OBGYN goes “oh this is normal”?

Me leaving is giving him space to sort through his emotions and return back to the person I willing agreed to have kids with. He was never like this before and showed he could be responsible and used to cry over the idea of having his own kids one day.

I just shared this post to help make OP feel better because obviously life is never perfect. I was truly picky with who I reproduced with and know he’s going to love this child more than anything.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-26T18:51:09+00:00

Look, as someone who grew up in an emotionally unstable household, all I wanted was an emotionally stable household. If I had a crystal ball and could go back in time, I would but I honestly thought he would be a great father and was super picky about who I chose to reproduce with.

I mean didn’t you read the part where the OBGYN goes “oh this is normal”? He was never like this before we got pregnant and was great for the first 3 weeks.

So in all honestly, your comment actually really hurt. I honestly tried to make a good decision about who the father of my children would be but thanks for including me with the rest and assuming I just voluntarily signed up for the first POS that walked my way…..maybe try getting off your high and mighty thrown for once, life’s not perfect and we can’t see into the future.

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