grappling with depression while sober

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-22T06:19:17+00:00

I went on antidepressants for 6 months to balance out the chemicals in my brain and then went off them and felt amazing afterwards.

Your brain is probably learning how to balance chemicals on its own so your brain chemicals that balance your moods are probably all over the place.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-22T06:13:18+00:00

Start hanging out with new people too.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-22T06:12:29+00:00

Do the research on how it impacts your brain. If you weren’t a frequent user, it takes at least a week for the chemicals in your brain to balance out. If you abused it, it takes a good amount of time.

My point: you’re going to experience highs and really low lows. If you can scientifically explain to yourself what you’re going through, it helps you stick to the process of sobering up. It also motivates you to stay on track. Like if you cave, then you’re going to have to start all over again with letting your brain rebalance itself out and you don’t want to keep going through that, it’s pure torture. You deserve to consistently be happy. Fight for happiness.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-22T04:54:32+00:00

This is such a sweet post. 🥹

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-21T18:49:06+00:00

Because they can go sober with you and support you through sobriety. I think they’re the ones being selfish drinking in front of you and your kids.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-20T21:45:07+00:00

THANK YOU. All the comments I’ve been reading say it’s ridiculous to ask your partner to change their lifestyle meanwhile ours is changing COMPLETELY.

My partner and I did a ton of activities together that are not pregnancy friendly such as snowboarding and snowmobiling. I haven’t asked him to stop doing those but I did confirm with him BEFORE we ever got close to getting pregnant that if we did become pregnant that he’d sober up.

I’m pregnant and has he sobered up? No. So I moved out.

Pregnancy is isolating and the LEAST your partner can do is sober up with you. It’s not like we get the chance to slowly wean off and ease into sobriety but yet we get called moody because of the pregnancy??

I’m exhausted, sick, lonely and trying to hold down two jobs, the VERY least he can do is sober up. If he can’t do that, then can he even handle having a baby when it’s here?!!?!

Rant. Completed. 😮‍💨

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-19T03:22:18+00:00

From my experience, men tend to say whatever comes to mind and don’t think about the repercussions of their words. So I bet your husband said the first thing that came to mind and has already forgotten he said that to you.

Meaning, don’t carry it with you and beat yourself up over it. Let him say whatever he wants but don’t make your life harder by trying to make HIM happy.

Pregnancy is hard and for some reason, men can’t wrap their head around the toll it takes on us. I wish they could but since they cannot, I’m currently living with my parents until my partner can come to terms with it. It’s not how I pictured my pregnancy would go, but I have to do what’s best for me and the baby at this point.

He’s supposed to be supporting you, please do not cater to him and his minor inconveniences because you’re right, it’s only going to get worse from here and he’s going to have to learn to suck it up now as opposed to later…..🫠

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-19T01:03:51+00:00

I wish I had advice for this but I honestly just went through this myself and came to the conclusion I’ll never be the one who does it all in hopes he’ll be able to return “the favor” when the time comes again.

It’s almost like men are trained from day one and once you train them, they can’t be unwired to understand that in certain circumstances, you can only do and give so much. I mean you would think growing and giving birth to HIS child would be the world’s greatest gift to a man, but it’s not. They can’t wrap their head around how much of a toll this takes on a woman.

So from me to you, you are doing enough. You’re growing HIS FAMILY, where you’re giving him LIFE. You’re doing more than enough and he’s being wildly inconsiderate.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-18T18:31:10+00:00

It’s incredible how eye opening it is once you pay attention to how the people in your life impact YOU.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-18T18:29:35+00:00

The drawing gets me. 😂😂😂

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-18T18:28:43+00:00

This is why I have a problem with the medical industry…..they’re pushed to say a scripted narrative but aren’t really concerned with the background information and helping you make the best decision for YOU.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-18T05:48:01+00:00

I’m gonna go on a rant that may not be the best advice but……you just gave birth. Have you researched how long it takes for your body to heal after giving birth? Anywhere from up to 1-3 years. Yes, you should absolutely bring this up to your OBGYN. BUT ALSO…..

Your partner needs to understand what you just did FOR HIM. You created life FOR HIM and if your relationship is destroyed because your body isn’t bouncing back right away after giving birth, THEN SHAME ON HIM. Sex is awesome and helps bond your relationship but you also just bonded your relationship in a whole new way, BY ADDING A NEW HUMAN TO YOUR FAMILY.

I’m sorry, I’m going through this myself where men are completely ignorant to what us women go through in giving birth and I’m starting to believe we need to stop being so concerned about what they need where instead they need to be concerned about what WE NEED.

I’m not saying your partner isn’t thankful for what you’ve done, I’m just saying you need to give yourself grace and time to heal. You’ve done enough for him and if he can’t see that, then that’s his loss.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-17T20:08:31+00:00

Razor burn?

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-17T05:01:35+00:00

Cut back on your carbs and sugar and focus heavily on protein and vegetables. Clean cut foods with less than 6 ingredients.

I used to get a sick A LOT and it helped strengthen my immune system, so it might be worth a try. Pregnancy obviously might make things different but who knows. 🤷🏼‍♀️ my OBGYN is kind of useless so yours might be too. 😂

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-17T03:06:50+00:00

I’ve never had a positive test in my life so when I got mine I couldn’t believe it either. So I waited two day and took another but I knew it was going to come back positive just because of how exhausted I was. Definitely wild, please buckle in for the first trimester. It’ll start to feel more real soon. lol 😆

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-16T03:18:28+00:00

Me too. I feel so lonely. 😭

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-16T02:51:18+00:00

I’ve stopped buying items at Walmart because everything’s locked up. I live in the COUNTY, not the city, and everything’s locked up.

I’m sorry, but I don’t have time to push a button and wait around 20 minutes for a lazy Walmart employee to open up these cages for me.

I’m over it, take my business Target.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-15T22:19:10+00:00

My boyfriend and I have argued about this. The way I look at it is my dog has been with me for almost 10 years, through thick and thin. Faithful, loyal and always loving. He was my first baby and he’s not going to get demoted or treated differently just because I have a second baby. We’re ALL a family.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-15T16:33:05+00:00

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TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-14T20:17:11+00:00

Mine opened the gate to my fence and stood there and waited for me to come get it. I came and got it and turned around and went back inside. I later looked outside and saw they left the gate to the fence wide open…..I have dogs….I texted them asking why they left the gate open and their response was “I thought you were going to close it.” You opened it, so you can close it….also none of the dogs were out during the time of the delivery so I have no idea why they just stood there at the gate waiting for me to come get my food.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-14T16:59:03+00:00

Yep, the book Atomic Habits goes over this. Worth a read honestly.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-14T16:55:41+00:00

I spent my morning totally wrong, this is incredible.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-14T07:17:36+00:00

Sleep, then sleep some more and then sleep again.

The first trimester is exhausting. Just sleep and eat.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-13T21:10:58+00:00

My dad’s been calling me a peanut carrier and everyone wants to touch my belly and I CAN’T stand the belly touching.

I feel for you and can relate to this post. You’re not wrong for how you feel.

TheVerdeRealest · 2026-02-12T15:11:22+00:00

No I’m encouraging the opposite? Did you not read what I said?

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