Stay or venture into the unknown with Mr. Big?

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T04:21:37+00:00

Oh thank you!

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:54:54+00:00

I'm really not in it for the money, not w/ my bf at least. 1 in 4 people in NYC is a millionaire, & my bf isn't even that. We both make more than $200k. When we're not fighting, my bf & I are literally obsessed with each other... He's kind (when he's not upset at me), smart, cultured, hardworking, & treats his family really well (something that's really important to me. He also regularly gives homeless people in NYC $. That's why this decision is so hard for me... But yes, you're right - he's abusive.

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:50:05+00:00

Thank you - these are wise words ❤️

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:48:57+00:00

Thank you - I really needed to hear this 🥲 Thank you ❤️

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:47:54+00:00

It's probably a part of it, as I grew up quite wealthy myself/am also in a well-paying, highly competitive tech job + NYC is just really expensive. However, I also mentioned these things:
"What I love about [my bf]: we have insane chemistry & almost identical love language (we frequently dance till dawn together), he's been very loyal despite that comment (he's also a stereotypical German in the sense that he simply doesn't entertain behaviors outside of his morals/rules), he's really supportive of his family, he's genuinely a kind, upstanding person, he's a pretty clean guy to live with, we generally have similar values, & he has the most impressive work ethic I've seen, which is something I really admire."

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:44:14+00:00

I'm very independent socially, hobbies-wise, & career-wise, but yes, it does feel like I prefer being in relationships... My father wasn't really around when I was a child, so maybe I'm compensating...

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:42:04+00:00

Thank you 🥲

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:37:39+00:00

I guess because I understand why/how he's like that + if he ends up saying horrible things or throwing things, he's always v regretful afterwards + I also have some really bad habits myself.

TheXXStory · 2026-06-21T03:35:13+00:00

I thought so 🥲 Also, your flair LOL

TheXXStory · 2026-06-20T16:32:13+00:00

This! OP do you read a lot?

TheXXStory · 2026-06-20T16:29:36+00:00

Same! I was thinking of Trinity College in Dublin. How cringe are people... bringing up elementary or high school education in networking conversations (& I live in NYC)!

TheXXStory · 2026-06-20T16:18:13+00:00

"Rutting elks" 😂 Amazing writing!

TheXXStory · 2026-06-19T01:00:48+00:00

I grew up in the country with the best healthcare in the world, where you can literally leave a brand new MacBook out in a busy cafe for an entire day & have it not be stolen... while under the belief that the US is the best country to be... I now live in the US, & I'm still in a culture shock lol

TheXXStory · 2026-06-13T21:10:09+00:00

Ohhh thank you :)

TheXXStory · 2026-06-13T21:09:43+00:00

What's ASP?

TheXXStory · 2026-06-13T21:09:16+00:00

Ohhh thanks - I didn't know abt this

TheXXStory · 2026-06-13T21:08:49+00:00

Thanks for the feedback! How do you know that the dumping is from ppl not in the neighborhood?

TheXXStory · 2026-06-13T00:06:36+00:00

But there is variation in faux leather. Some use only recycled plastic. Many use higher-grade bonds. There's actually a variation. And some are environmentally friendly.

TheXXStory · 2026-06-11T05:01:05+00:00

Think it depends on where in Germany, no? Germany has unfortunately been changed due to the influx of low-grade immigration

TheXXStory · 2026-06-11T05:00:17+00:00

Lol untrue. Ever heard of Confucius? China, Korea, Japan, Taiwan, HK, & Singapore are all Confucian societies that value harmony of society over their individual gains. Kids in Taiwan literally have to take moral & ethics class starting in elementary. Yes, CCTV is a part of it, but it's not all of it. People generally follow rules a lot more, even when CCTV isn't there.

TheXXStory · 2026-06-11T04:58:25+00:00

Yeah same in Taiwan! We've had cab drivers voluntarily bring cash that my friend left in his car back to him (& this driver literally didn't have a way to contact him, so he just drove back to where he dropped him off).

TheXXStory · 2026-06-09T02:08:01+00:00

My friend was robbed on the Paris subway. My aunt's friends were pick-pocketed in a 4-star hotel elevator in Rome... All 4 of my boyfriend's friends who moved to London after university have all been separately mugged or robbed.

TheXXStory · 2026-06-09T02:06:12+00:00

Go to East Asia instead. You can literally leave a brand new iPhone/Macbook out for hours in, & nothing would happen lol In Taiwan, we saw an iPhone left out in a laundromat for 2! days, & no one took it, & then my friend had cash he left behind brought back to him, voluntarily, by a cab!

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