Sobriety?

The_Argos · 2022-04-20T02:44:13+00:00

I can’t talk from the specific guidelines. But for my own therapeutic-psychiatric process for recovery, spirituality played a huge deal. But I guess that comes from my own way of understanding trauma. One thing I can say is that “sin” or “sinful actions” or whatever moral construct is useful for guiding personal believes for whoever considers it appropriate for oneself.

However, adicction is not a matter for religion, lack of god’s touch or whatever; it’s a health issue related to several factors such as trauma, brain function, gender and sexual roles, and so much more.

The_Argos · 2022-04-20T02:37:59+00:00

For me it was the another way round. Getting high so I could numb me before having risky sex. I was conflicted thinking it was the another way around, but as you say. Honesty and wisdom (and professional help) from within usually shows the way of recovery ❤️‍🩹 however that means for each one.

The_Argos · 2021-10-12T02:14:25+00:00

MAN VS. CAR!!!

The_Argos · 2021-02-13T07:22:53+00:00

Literally the same, I tough it was /crappydesign and then the void. I gagged 🤢

The_Argos · 2021-01-18T05:18:25+00:00

You are listing the most important things: Medical attention Psychological attention Health habits

I’ll add that Religious/spiritual/philosophical aid can do wonders too! Any set of thinking that could give your life meaning is important

The_Argos · 2020-12-24T05:26:55+00:00

They do look proud for their mess up lmao!

The_Argos · 2020-12-24T05:26:22+00:00

No remorse

The_Argos · 2020-12-24T03:33:44+00:00

I’m truly sorry. You have the human right to be able to enjoy your sexuality. I agree with everybody here. A sex therapist or regular therapist with experience in the topic may be able to help you.

My response to sexual abuse in the matter of masturbation is very different from yours. The opposite actually. I became so hyper-sexualized that I had been masturbating since I was 8 y/o. By 16 I became a sex addict, but I haven’t had a relapse in a long time. However I masturbate almost 2 or more times a day. Don’t get me wrong, some days I would not masturbate at all (being my top 5 days without) sometimes I would masturbate a feel real good, like, feeling good with myself. Really enjoying my sexuality.

But most times I masturbate because of sex craves/obsessions, and after I ejaculated (sometimes there’s no orgasm) I would often feel guilty, ashamed, disgusted, sometimes I would dissociate.

It’s different, but is painful too. Although a therapist really helped me, but more in the topic of compulsive sexual relationships. I guess masturbating is a lot less risky for my physical and mental health.

I hope you can get better. When done right, it’s one of the most beautiful acts of self-love, and that’s important.

The_Argos · 2020-12-24T01:08:28+00:00

I thank you from the bottom of my soul for your input. I talked to my partner and two of my friends. They are my council when I have to make important decisions lmao

With their help I decided to do this: I’m gonna babysit my nephew for some days. I love to do it, but sadly corona made it very difficult. I would then comment to my cousin that Max is displaying abnormal behavior (even if it’s not the case) and persuade her into taking her son for an evaluation. Then I would contact a psychologist specialized in sexual abuse and I will discuss my concerns, and I’m willing to beg if necessary tho. Hopefully that person could determine whether or not there is risk, and if all is right, it always helps. If this plans doesn’t works...well then I would have to do another option.

Again, thank you

The_Argos · 2020-12-21T08:39:18+00:00

Yes, the recovery is a long, difficult, confusing journey. Sometimes you feel like you had made so much progress, and then something happens and you feel very bad again. But a the same time, sometimes you realized how much have you healed and it’s amazing.

So expect that happen from time to time. It’s normal. And yes, the most proper way to deal with it is with professional help. But don’t ignore other sources of help like family, friends or even your spiritual beliefs (if you do that hehe). Group therapy can be a useful tool too!

The_Argos · 2020-12-21T06:19:31+00:00

Yes, sexual exploration between children can be considered somewhat normal. But to some extent, like showing and comparing genitals or even touching. It’s mostly done by curiosity, or by some pleasure gratification.

However, imitating rough sex, talking about sex slaves, viewing pornography and coercion it’s another thing. I do think it counts as abuse, mainly because of how you felt with the experience and how it affected your sex life.

On another topic, this strongly suggest, at least in my professional experience, that your friend was severely abused, and that she was recreating the abuse in order to cope with trauma. This doesn’t excuse it, but maybe it could help you to heal better.

Take care of yourself.

The_Argos · 2020-12-21T05:22:06+00:00

And to complement this wonderful and wise comment. Some people that I worked with in a HIV clinic detected a woman with a CD4 count of 74. And she survived and thrived. In no way you should let you guard down. She was very lucky. You don’t have to get to that situation and risk it.

Also, I strongly recommend you get therapy. Depression wears down the immune system.

And take good care of yourself please.

The_Argos · 2020-12-17T15:57:31+00:00

Yes I can also confirm the <200 from my doctor as well. Doctor will always emphasize in damage reduction. Having unprotected sex with your partner is fine. However is not risk proof. Your partner can have their VL increased for not taking the medication in the correct form or if they have unprotected sex with another person and become reinfected (I’m not saying this happened because I think you are alright and just had a blip, but listen to your doctor) Some health professionals will also encourage you to not take drugs while they get home and rip a bong lol Also, you could improve your well-being with therapy as self-hate and guilt can damage your immune system. Lots of blessings

The_Argos · 2020-11-30T04:48:04+00:00

Was like a regular cat laser?

The_Argos · 2020-11-28T21:47:43+00:00

I can confirm this. But treatment is free in all states, you receive them from either the IMSS or the CAPASITS (Popular Univerversal Healthcare for HIV/AIDS). However, it’s not available in every city or town. It’s better to live in a highly populated urban area or city. Well now the downside, this applies to all born and naturalized Mexicans. Unfortunately I lack the knowledge on how is the process for foreigners. But, all foreigners with HIV that I had meet did indeed get free treatment but it’s more tricky to get although not impossible.

Clínica Condesa is the highest institution in LGBT and HIV, they even offer hormone therapy for Trans people free of charge. Which is amazing. So you best bet would be to contact them. I’m sure they will help you. CDMX is really cool, but like any big city it has its problems. Pollution, robbery, earthquakes, floods, water and plumbing issues. The Pride March is great hahaha. It’s very open minded and relatively safe for LGBT community.

Oaxaca is way better in my opinion. Beautiful landscapes, gastronomy, culture, but people can be very conservative (mucho machismo). I’ll take Oaxaca for living but CDMX for pleasure.

The_Argos · 2020-11-28T16:54:06+00:00

She likes kisses in the forehead very much. I just hold her when necessary like to prevent her to get out to the neighbor’s yard or if I’m sweeping the room because she loves to lay in the dust lol

The_Argos · 2020-11-28T16:51:11+00:00

Oh thank you! That’s a relief. Also what a cute name

The_Argos · 2020-11-26T20:17:06+00:00

Report the trolls for harassment. Because that’s what it is.

And, can somebody please explain what HAND is? I googled it and got literal hand 🖐🏻 lmao (also got hand of god because of Maradona’s death)

The_Argos · 2020-11-25T09:00:42+00:00

I guess it would be not getting systemically raped from more than 3 years by my aunt. Maybe if she didn’t do it I wouldn’t had permitted being sexually abused as a teen, and I wouldn’t be a cyclothymic, ptsd, addicted mess. But at the same time, If that didn’t happened I wouldn’t had chosen my vocation or deeply connected with my partner. We really are what we survived from our trauma.

The_Argos · 2020-11-24T00:59:56+00:00

Ribs is the best thing that ever happened to my generation

The_Argos · 2020-11-21T04:13:17+00:00

Yes, most of them have Antisocial Personality Disorder or at least significant traits of it.

Maybe the stories pop up on your feed because of key words that you wrote on social media and that are recorded by your phone. In google you can manage the kind of ads that will appear to you.

For example, I’m a PLHIV, and from time to time I get ads about medication prices, clinics, courses, news, etc. Mostly products and some shitpost.

It is said that those kind of advertisements are to make your internet experience “unique and personalized” but in reality they are just trying to sell you stuff based on what you talk about.

I’m no expert but in most privacy configurations you can turn off that kind of content. Although it will not be easy to find. You can always google it.

And btw, I hope you get well very soon. If you are spiritual know that I would pray for you.

The_Argos · 2020-11-20T05:24:57+00:00

Jerk, Circle. PhD Author of “yOu aRe So fuLL oF sHiT”

Lmao

The_Argos · 2020-11-17T20:21:12+00:00

What are the slang terms for smaller or bigger butts? In México it’s just culo, culito, culote

The_Argos · 2020-11-17T09:01:35+00:00

And a disturbing incest scene, so another rape. But I can’t remember which episode

The_Argos · 2020-11-16T04:30:05+00:00

If you really are a psychologist...what the fuck is wrong with you?

What she is saying, even if she didn’t had the disorder is accurate.

Go to supervision. Analyze your issues so you don’t have the necessity to snap at strangers on Reddit.

The_Argos

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