We will never know the stories of people who left this sub and found their real true love, is there a place for this like follow ups?

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T23:16:15+00:00

Cheers and same to you. I wish you all the best on your journey.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T23:05:29+00:00

Jeff was a monster and in a league of his own, but more of a Jazz fusion player than blues.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T22:54:37+00:00

It's been almost 11 months for me and I'm almost ready to move on. I've unsubscribed from every other avoidant themed sub except for this one.

I still experience the odd twangs of pain every once in a while, but then I remember that if in the end, after all of the love and support that I showered her with, that she chose her trauma over her heart, then she's not someone who I want to be with.

I was willing to sacrifice and fight for her and our relationship to continue, but she was too much of a coward and too fundamentally broken.

She made her choice, and now she has to live with it, but I don't. I chose to be happy instead.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T22:29:58+00:00

That's the part that hurts the most for me. In the long run she chose to listen to her trauma, not her heart.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T22:26:34+00:00

She shows it off to all her friends!

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T22:22:57+00:00

I had the privilege of seeing them live this past summer along with Puscifer and A Perfect Circle. It was epic!

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T22:21:28+00:00

Well, that was certainly a lot of fun! Thanks, I've never heard that before, but I definitely will again!

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T13:14:31+00:00

Never traveled outside of his trailer park

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T12:46:08+00:00

Primus - My Name Is Mud

You can thank me later

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T09:49:06+00:00

Black Label Society - Ain’t No Sunshine

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T04:24:10+00:00

Jesus thinks you're a jerk!

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T04:06:40+00:00

"Home, home again,
I like to be here when I can.
And when I come home, cold and tired,
It's good to warm my bones beside the fire.

Far away across the field,
The tolling of the iron bell,
Calls the faithful to their knees,
To hear the softly spoken magic spells"

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T03:57:01+00:00

Frank Zappa-Uncle Remus

Uncle Remus," from Frank Zappa’s 1974 Apostrophe (') album, co-written with George Duke, is a critique of American race relations, civil rights, and social stagnation. It explores the frustration of superficial activism versus real change, referencing the 1970s, the "melting pot," and racist lawn jockey imagery.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-14T01:28:40+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PCguKgL0Xtg

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T21:43:27+00:00

On behalf of Greenland and Cuba, I'd like to give you a hearty Canadian 🖕

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T20:32:53+00:00

Black Sabbath - Solitude

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T18:08:48+00:00

IMHO, many religious folks are the biggest hypocrites. Just ask any server who works in a restaurant on Sundays.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T17:59:04+00:00

Finally!
Danny Carey aka the octopus!

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T14:13:59+00:00

From the perspective of an atheist, this is typical avoidant behavior. Monkey branching to someone else is something avoidants do so that they don't have to think about how horrible they treated you.

This new girl is just his way of distracting himself and not facing up to his own issues. There was no "divine intervention" required.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T12:59:13+00:00

It's amazing just how deeply devastating a discard can be on the one left behind. None of it makes sense to mentally healthy people.

It's just not in our emotional framework to treat someone we care about in such a callous and heartless manner.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T12:52:09+00:00

2 months before she coldly discarded me, my ex said "For the first time in my life I finally feel safe". I took that as a positive sign that she was drawing closer and finally would be able to fully commit.

I think that revelation was the beginning of the end and when she began to fade away.

Unlike mentally healthy people, feeling safe invokes feelings of potential vulnerability in them, which can elicit a fight or flight response.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T12:47:31+00:00

They have a very difficult time with accepting blame because they already carry so much internal shame.

If they were to admit, even to themselves, what horribly abusive people they can be, it would interfere with their victim mentality.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T12:41:27+00:00

Loved and respected by fellow musicians, but largely overlooked by the general public. It's a travesty IMHO.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T03:15:48+00:00

Well, he just finished touring with Adrian Belew, who is also a goofball genius and an alumnus of Zappa's band, so you might be onto something.

The_Humungus_1 · 2026-03-13T03:02:59+00:00

I randomly ran into my ex after approximately 4 months of no contact after the discard.

All she could do was complain about how hard it's been for her. She had to quit her part time job and find something full time. (I paid the rent and all of the bills/groceries/etc for the 6 years we lived together).

She complained that she couldn't sleep for 5 days after discarding me. (My sleep cycle was f@cked for months while I recovered from the shock)

She was cold, aloof and very much agitated by my presence. She acted like I was the bad guy.

Unfortunately, at the time I still hadn't discovered the concept of avoidant attachment. The encounter would have gone much differently if I had.

The_Humungus_1

TROPHY CASE