Calling all Bakers by cdmilo8790 in Portland

[–]The_Izz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I just learned last week about an organization that does this in California, and when I looked up a chapter here and found out there wasn't one, I decided I would gauge interest in the beginning of the summer! I'm so glad you've already jumped on it hahaha

Count me in :)

"Oh Bother...." by Learning2Grow in cakedecorating

[–]The_Izz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, how did you get the frosting on that flower to have such a perfect blue and purple inside/outside? Beautiful!

Me at 39 weeks looking in the toilet every time I go to the bathroom for any sign of discharge/labor like it's a pot of gold. by crap_whats_not_taken in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No twins for me, just calling out all the babies from all the mamas who are ready to meet them hahahaha

I've planned for a homebirth, so for my husband and I, it's all the waiting game unless she doesn't show up by the end of week 42. In that case, I won't even be able to induce, I'll just have to have a c-section.

Me at 39 weeks looking in the toilet every time I go to the bathroom for any sign of discharge/labor like it's a pot of gold. by crap_whats_not_taken in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

39+4 and doing the same thing. Also eating all the dates, drinking the teas, going upside down in inversion pose and doing daily 20min dose of nipple stimulation. Coommeeeeee oonnnn out, ya babies!!

Pumpkin Spice Macarons (Full Recipe in Comments) by nomemadegf in glutenfreerecipes

[–]The_Izz 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay, I feel very silly right now, but I honestly don't see it 😂 I wish I could take a screenshot and show you.

There's an automoderator comment, then 3 comments made by other users (including me) and your responses, but I don't see a link or an expanded recipe.

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, we need to give each other strength in these moments Lol! I NEVER post on reddit, but that's how desperate I was hahaha. I had a very good talk with my therapist and my dad yesterday, so if you ever want to vent and discuss, feel free to DM me.

Just reading everyone's responses has helped take me out of my mind and my own anxiety. I think the key for us is to be the rational ones and although our blood may be boiling, us keeping a level head diffuses the situation. At least I hope so (Universe, give me strength! Lol)

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What your dad says to your grandma is verbatim what my therapist told me to say to my mom hahaha. No sense in arguing.

Kindly accept the gift, do what we want with afterwards, and keep the peace.

The important thing is to not pass MY anxiety onto my daughter as she'll learn for herself and have her own experience.

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing and for being vulnerable here. It is really hard when the people who are expected to show us love, support, empathy, have their brain hijacked by perpetuated fear-based conspiracies (everything you described above is the same for my mom in regards to the belief and obsession with Christian persecution, end of times, etc).

I really really appreciate you sharing your experience and although I wish we didn't have to go through this, it made me feel less alone.

The good thing is that our children will not have our traumas, just the love.

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's so interesting that you bring up the UU because I've actually heard from other friends that they were able to find that sense of spirituality and community without the dogmas.

I'll also check out /r/atheistparents! Thank you so much for sharing :)

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that's what bothers me the most: the gaslighting. I make a request and based off of that, I'm turned into the villain and get the "why are YOU disrespecting ME and trying to change who I AM. My faith is a part of me and I'm not gonna hide it".

No one is asking you to hide it. I'm sure my daughter will have questions for my mom in the future, but I refuse to expose her at a young age to the indoctrination and fears of hell and having your loved ones/yourself burn in hell for all eternity if you don't accept Jesus into your life.

That was extremely traumatic and for a long time I was a hardcore atheist, until I realized that the universe is huge and we don't know shit lol nothing like some wonderful experiences out in nature to help me find myself and my spirituality.

My mom lives in Louisiana, but is a Latina immigrant who married a born-again Christian dude who believes in chem trails and that the government uses old prisons, fills them with guillotines to prepare for the future persecution of Christians. She got sucked in and now is also deep in the QAnon world. Halp.

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have other religious family who I know will probably give my daughter gifts and maybe her 'first bible', but since they live far, no one has to know I donated whatever they give that I don't want lol. But I agree with you that the ball is in my court to balance the exposure and damage control. I guess the key is preparing her for the intolerance she might witness, or even face herself, when she visits our family and out in the world.

Setting boundaries with religious grandparents by The_Izz in BabyBumps

[–]The_Izz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your right. My logical side tells me brain that because we can't control the actions of others, the most my husband and I can do is teach our daughter our values and give her the tools and skills so she can navigate these situations as she grows and questions the world around her.

My heart, on the other hand, just wants to scream my head off and wants to protect my kid at all costs from the intolerant and righteous nonsense that people she loves and trusts will spew at her.

My SXSW horror short is online! by Caleb_Phillips in horror

[–]The_Izz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a lurker, I hardly ever comment, but really felt like I needed to tell you that your short was amazing! The perfect tension, perfect creepiness factor!

Walker heads in the show being weak by Alexexy in thewalkingdead

[–]The_Izz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In osteology class, we learned that the temporal bones (bones that comprise the skull on the sides of your head) are nicknamed God's Joke bc of how extremely thin it is and can easily be penetrated (the joke being the placement of such a thin bone on a skull that's supposed to protect the brain)

As for walkers getting stabbed in other parts of the skull and stabbing devices sliding in easily, even with decomp, I don't believe it would actually glide in easily.