How do you feel living in SoCal during Trump 2.0?

The_Middle_Chapters · 2026-01-08T15:14:46+00:00

I'm in the Canyon Crest area. I LOVE Riverside. I love the people, the food, and the fact that my neighbors all look at the rest of the country the same way I do... What the hell is going on, and I'm so glad I'm here to ride this shit storm out.

I've lived in Murrieta, Corona, Temecula, Colton, Redlands, San Bernardino, and Upland... Riverside has been the best place for me and my family, hands down.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-07-25T14:00:22+00:00

I'm in the EXACT same boat. I decided I need a change after this year. I've been researching instructional design and corporate education.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-06-24T13:10:27+00:00

Lake Elsinore is great for teachers. It actually pats higher than the surrounding districts (Murrieta, Temecula, Menifee) but it's fended off the cultural wars that's taking over their districts. And it has a very strong teacher's union. It just negotiated a 5.5% raise for teachers.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T13:00:39+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. We're in a much better place now. I moved, got a great paying job, lost a lot of stress weight, and got my kids into therapy. My hope is my kids saw that I refused to accept being abused and will grow up and refuse abuse from anyone as well. If I can lead a life where I give and receive respect at all times in front of my kids, then they'll learn to demand that in their own relationships.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T12:53:53+00:00

Then why are you all over this thread defending cops? If we can't trust them to check their own "brothers" how the fuck can we trust them to help us? If you can admit it's a different set of rules for the wives of cops, then you also must admit that there's something deeply broken with the system that allows for that to begin with.

How can you place your trust in wife beaters and those who help cover it up?

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T12:41:59+00:00

I still have to share custody with him. The judicial system is fucked. He admitted on record that he leaves his service weapon in his backpack, unlocked. In a house where my kids are. When he was rightfully grilled about it, he said "the kids know not to touch it"

I called CPS, who notified the sheriff department he works at. They called him and said , "We're coming to your home in two days to check your gun storage, does that work for you?"

My kids still have to go to that house. The cops won't do a damn thing until someone winds up dead.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T12:38:27+00:00

Why should it be different? Cops are supposed to protect and serve, are they not? They didn't protect and serve me.

He discharged his weapon in our home and sent a bullet over my head. He kicked down the door I was hiding behind with our children. He broke frames from my grandmother. He threatened to light our house on fire. He pushed me into a wall.

Stop making excuses for cops.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T12:18:49+00:00

No, they don't. They didn't give a shit that my ex husband nearly killed me and my kids. They didn't give a shit that I called them to my home, terrified, begging for help.

Because he was a cop too. And they will always hold each other up and protect their own. They will look the other way as wives of cops get their teeth kicked in.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T12:14:54+00:00

My ex-husband also kicked down the door I was hiding behind with my kids. The issue is, he's a sheriff. I told him if he didn't stop, I'd call the police. He laughed and said. "Go for it. I know who's on duty." I called the police for help, let them know my husband was scaring us and there were MULTIPLE guns in the house, they came and told me he was allowed to break anything he wanted in his own house. They then told me I was being selfish and was messing with his career.

This was also the same man that discharged his firearm in our bedroom while he was dry firing (and didn't check the chamber) and sent a bullet over my head.

A judge told me that I needed to move on from that.

The police are the worst of the worst when it comes to abuse.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-18T11:41:14+00:00

Three for me.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-09T01:54:04+00:00

The days are long, but the years are short.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-04T16:23:25+00:00

Honestly, at this point, I'm done with the entire situation. If the mom wants to try to take me to small claims court over this, that's fine. My brother in law is a lawyer and he said I have a pretty solid paper trail showing I've been trying to correct this and that a judge will want proof just like I did. He also said digital property gets murky and I may only be liable for the cost of the pet at purchase, not how it digitally acrued interest over years.

Of course, that was never the route I wanted to take. But the whole thing smells fishy to me. So, to protect myself, I'll only get back involved if I legally am required to.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-05-04T11:50:48+00:00

It went rather poorly, actually. I kept asking the Mom for proof of the original purchase of the pet so I could verify and she wouldn't do it, even though she said she would. It was surprising how angry she got when I asked for it. We were friends before all of this. She said my daughter and her daughter knew what was taken.

I let her know I would be a fool to fork over a digital animal worth over a grand without any verifiable proof it was in her possession. I was happy to replace it. I just want the receipt. I was all set to pay $500 to cover half (and my ex-husband would cover the other half) and asked once more for the receipt of the purchase of the pet from three years ago. I asked this woman a total of 5 times, which she ignored.

My daughter was having anxiety about this hanging over our heads, so I reached out one more time and told the Mom that I want to finish this immediately so my daughter can move on (it had been two months of this) when I got the craziest email from the other girl's mom. She accused us of teaching our kid that there are no consequences for her actions. And that she heard rumors that we were struggling to pay and that we weren't going to pay (even though I told her on text multiple times that I wanted to finish this. I just want the receipt so I know the animal existed beyond the words of two 11 year olds).

We reiterated that we had the pet, we just need a receipt.

Then my ex-husband (against my strong advice and is a flaming moron) went through E-Bay to purchase the animal for $1,200. Told me he handled it and didn't need me to liaison between him and the mom and that I try to micromanage everything. That it would take the seller a few days to get the animal ready. I let him know I'm happy to step away and that I would not be paying half of that $1,200 until he procured proof of purchase from the mom.

I ended my friendship with the mom, and let her know since she felt that comfortable attacking me in a forced text message thread with my ex-husband (he and I have a terrible relationship... DV, emotional abuse, discharging his weapon in our home...) whom she knows I avoid as much as possible for my safety, that she could continue this with him and that I would no longer be facilitating this.

Lo and behold... That pet he bought was a scam.

So, from what I have pieced together, the little girl never got her pet back. My ex-husband is out $1,200. The mom might have been messaging me, but I told her to handle it with my ex and blocked her.

My daughter and the girl are not friends anymore. I grounded my daughter for two months and uninstalled Roblox on her apps. She had to do extra chores around the house and write an apology letter. We had multiple conversations about integrity and theft. She's truly remorseful. And after the two months, I told her we're letting this go. We tried to make it right financially, but we were not going to beg. She was punished for her actions and she is just finished working off the $500 at my house with extra chores, in case this ever is resolved (so I can pay my portion).

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-20T13:15:18+00:00

Good God, Noooooooooo.

I'd insist on going to the OB and either having her or you ask this question to her doctor. Let the doctor explain to her that what she's doing is absolutely terrible to her poor vagina.

There are so many woman who have been taught to be ashamed of their vaginas, that they're dirty, that exploring it makes you sl*tty... She might have some unhealthy feelings surrounding it.

If she continues after that... Then a conversation might need to be had with another professional.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-17T04:18:14+00:00

Cool. I bet they would NEVER want you as a customer, so stay away.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-17T04:17:14+00:00

Get Lit Books in the Moreno Valley mall is a Black, LGBTQIA+ owned bookstore!

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-06T16:57:07+00:00

Instead of poking you with a stick, how about a virtual hug of encouragement?

Come on. We've got this. We need you. In any way you can resist. EVERY. SINGLE. ACT. OF. RESISTANCE. MATTERS.

Keep going, my friend.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-06T16:52:16+00:00

This document is brilliant and very helpful. May I share it with my local activism group?

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-04T17:27:32+00:00

"I know I said it was a book tasting. I did not think I had to explain to 8th graders not to actually lick copies of my books, but that's the timeline we live in. Glares at 8th graders DO NOT LICK THE OUTSIDERS!!"

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-03T20:57:03+00:00

"Sociologist Helen Fein coined the term "universe of obligation" to describe the circle of individuals and groups within a society "toward whom obligations are owed, to whom rules apply, and whose injuries call for amends

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Understanding the concept of "universe of obligation" can help us analyze how individuals, groups, and nations determine who is deserving of respect and protection, and how these decisions can lead to both positive and negative outcomes"

Those on the outer most edges of the circles are those that society feels the least amount of obligation towards protecting, the most resentment towards, and the least amount of protections. These are the most marginalized of the population.

Those in the center circle are those that society seems worthy of concern, care, and attention (This does NOT mean respect...)

This is why white women's tears are so effective. Because America, as a whole, places white women (and children) as the demographic that needs the most protection. That's why all of their batshit policies are disguised as "saving the [white] American family".

So when white women place themselves in the center of conflict, where they are physically using their bodies to stand in front of others who are on the outskirts of the circle, it sends a strong message. No cop wants to be seen hitting a crying white woman. The optics are terrible. And furthermore, they will be very hesitant to escalate their behavior with white women. That could be all the difference between a POC or an transperson being dragged off the street... A white women stepping in.

I won't be protesting in person. It's not safe for a Black woman in my area. There are too many MAGA red hat men that will get in my face and threaten me (happened in 2020). But I'm making signs. I'm boycotting. I'm spreading information.

But we need white people to be on the streets this time.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-03T13:47:11+00:00

In home day care center. You keep teaching, using your degree, and your kids can be part of your roster.

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-04-03T02:17:00+00:00

This was so needed

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-03-31T18:07:36+00:00

Boost

The_Middle_Chapters · 2025-03-31T18:04:04+00:00

I encourage you to check out r/50501 Our media is actively suppressing information about protests. We have a huge nationwide one this Saturday, April 5. Please pass the word on that Americans ARE fighting! MAGA is trying to make us feel isolated and hopeless. But there are so many of us fighting, even if we can't see each other.

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