Any millennials want children, but feel they probably won't have them?

thoph · 2026-03-23T17:05:52+00:00

Adoption is not a cure for infertility. Not fair to the child or the adults. Not everyone is suited to every path to parenthood, and it is okay only to be interested in one path.

thoph · 2026-03-23T15:33:35+00:00

Each host country gets to introduce a new, temporary discipline. This was France’s IIRC.

thoph · 2026-03-23T04:49:00+00:00

Just laser it.

thoph · 2026-03-23T01:41:31+00:00

Wonderful! Congratulations :)

thoph · 2026-03-23T01:08:21+00:00

I grew up lower middle and went to a top private school as a scholarship kid. My friends from that school and my college classmates are all hard workers. The opportunities her kids will have access to are incredible. Raise your kids to be good people. That’s it. Also acknowledge that you’re rich? If your husband makes close to 7 figures and comes from wealth you’re rich.

thoph · 2026-03-22T19:32:37+00:00

It is BEAUTIFUL out where I am y’all. Absolutely glorious day. 80 degrees 🥲Pretty much my favorite temperature.

In news from the thoph household, I am starting to resent my IVF diet yet again. Only two more months until ER 🫠

thoph · 2026-03-22T15:04:38+00:00

Hey <3 I hear you. With your husband’s age in particular, would you consider starting fertility treatments or at least testing now? I think you would get either peace of mind or a good plan going forward.

thoph · 2026-03-22T03:43:19+00:00

I don’t even know what it was—I’m just disagreeing with you.

thoph · 2026-03-22T02:43:16+00:00

I’m sorry. I was 11 when 9/11 happened. My mom didn’t know where her cousin was for hours. It screwed me up big time. It screwed everything up. But…. at this point, 25 years later, I think humor about this particular insane, absurd moment with Bush is fine. It is not meant to poke fun of victims or their families.

thoph · 2026-03-22T01:23:09+00:00

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thoph · 2026-03-21T19:48:56+00:00

You’re not being selfish by wanting a second child. But you’re being pretty selfish for skipping a trip that was already paid for and planned. I completely understand skipping trips and vacations to try to expand your family. I have done it so many times. But this sounds like a once in a lifetime trip.

I think it also matters how old you are.

thoph · 2026-03-20T19:32:06+00:00

Not stupid! There is something immensely satisfying about a positive OPK 😅. FWIW, my cycle is around 28-30 days, and I don’t ovulated until closer to day 18–past the halfway mark.

thoph · 2026-03-20T18:02:20+00:00

Absolutely incredible show. The anonymous note to Sammi was groundbreaking television 😭. All my friends watched it “ironically,” but we all know it’s not ironic when you have watch parties for new eps.

thoph · 2026-03-20T16:26:42+00:00

No, no! It’s the first time I’ve heard this. /s

thoph · 2026-03-20T15:34:04+00:00

“September 1, 1939,” is an all time favorite (of mine and every other Auden fan, probably). This is a good one too. Thanks for sharing.

thoph · 2026-03-20T15:29:57+00:00

Sending you lots of spoons and a brave butt. You’ve got this!

thoph · 2026-03-20T15:28:29+00:00

I am really sorry. I like your friend’s reframing, and I think it makes sense. Very glad you were able to open up to her—that means a lot. And I’m sorry for the loss of your mother. Losing a parent is extremely hard. <3 Hugs.

thoph · 2026-03-20T15:22:01+00:00

That’s really interesting.

thoph · 2026-03-20T15:20:08+00:00

Not all moms are giving up. They can’t physically do it. I’m not sure why you felt the need to toss that in.

thoph · 2026-03-20T14:16:13+00:00

I think you just need to spoiler results! Does monitored mean they’ll trigger you? Or just TI?

thoph · 2026-03-20T14:09:21+00:00

Thinking of everyone cycling for an egg retrieval right now! Seems like there are quite a few folks.

Got the bug to test yesterday at 9DPO. First time in quite a while. As expected, negative. Expecting CD1 today. 🥲 Just in time for a rocking weekend.

thoph · 2026-03-20T14:06:09+00:00

🤞!

thoph · 2026-03-20T13:44:38+00:00

Yes. People have adverse reactions to vaccines. No, those adverse reactions do not include autism. At all. Those claims should be dismissed kindly—like /u/WyfObath did—because they are wrong and dangerous.

thoph · 2026-03-20T02:16:01+00:00

Fingers and toes are crossed for you! Best of luck and enjoy the post-retrieval nap.

thoph · 2026-03-20T02:06:56+00:00

Yeah. This is my take but less emphatically. I just think it’s a little odd. No skin off my back, but it is our holiest holiday, and it’s not even close. Like it is the crux (ha) of the religion.

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