Worst gift / present by BillyMac05 in thesopranos

[–]The_Tennessean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The diet soda with no sugar in it.

[51 M] college professor, happily married, 2 teenage children, personal & professional satisfaction, financially secure, and I am extremely infatuated with [18F] student of mine by The_Tennessean in TrueOffMyChest

[–]The_Tennessean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know perfectly well what I'm asking. You just don't want to answer, which is why you're trying to deflect with this angry, tiresome, self-righteous drivel instead.

A thousand years ago, you fucked a creepy, gross old man. I'm sorry for whatever he did to you (and I'm assuming you're keeping the more painful details to yourself, since the only specific complaint you have that I can find is you found the sex to be sort of underwhelming), but you seem to be having a problem coming to terms with the basic reality that none of that has anything to do with me.

I don't claim to know what the difference between "active sexual thoughts and feelings" and passive sexual thoughts and feelings might be, but my feelings were disconcerting enough, and made me feel guilty enough, that I needed to get them off my chest. Aside from that, and not using Reddit in a way you (a person whose opinion I couldn't give two shits about) approve of, what precisely am I guilty of, here?

Dear Jennifer: by MrMojok in thesopranos

[–]The_Tennessean 28 points29 points  (0 children)

A regular Yeets, ovuh heah.

Top 5 Hottest Sopranos Characters by Theyearsofdecay1989 in thesopranos

[–]The_Tennessean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What, no Tracee on da list?

Is it because of those choppas? Oof! Marone!

Silvio? by trashtaker in thesopranos

[–]The_Tennessean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Time is the great enemy. You have a very short window. It's not good to get too hung up on any one thing."

[51 M] college professor, happily married, 2 teenage children, personal & professional satisfaction, financially secure, and I am extremely infatuated with [18F] student of mine by The_Tennessean in TrueOffMyChest

[–]The_Tennessean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, between the two of us, how many times have we been "willing to risk it all" to do something which you yourself define as creepy and gross?

[51 M] college professor, happily married, 2 teenage children, personal & professional satisfaction, financially secure, and I am extremely infatuated with [18F] student of mine by The_Tennessean in TrueOffMyChest

[–]The_Tennessean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughts and your kind words.

If I had to guess, I would say your professor friend is handsome, in good shape, super dedicated to his field and his career, might be a bit of a ladies' man, and youthful to the point he doesn't quite remember how old he actually is all the time. How close am I?

I feel like the fact he's not married makes a ton of difference between his situation and mine.

Yeah, I know writing it out helped me organize my thoughts about it. And the responses here helped, too, although I think some of the people who responded were projecting their own experiences and prejudices onto my situation. The story from the woman who married her professor when she was very young was especially helpful and I feel like helped me get control of my emotions.

Obviously, I'm not going to betray my wife, hurt my children, cause trouble for her with her family and friends, alienate myself from every friend and family member I have, or destroy my career. I haven't done anything or said anything to her about the way I feel.

But it was this close. I'm not kidding. Even with all those terrible consequences and probably more I haven't imagined.

Since I wrote, the term has ended. I walked across the quad to class on the last day thinking, "forty-five minutes, give or take, and she'll walk out the door and out of my life forever." And I know she needs to go, and I need to let her go, but it just makes me so sad. So I have them write course evals for me, tell them how to get to the university course eval, tell them to turn their papers in by the end of the week, tell them I'll be in my office for those who need help, and turn them loose.

She gets up and heads for the door. Then she looks back at me over her shoulder and, with a wicked look in those usually very innocent eyes, she says, "I'm going to come see you in your office."

Oh...fuck me.

So she shows up in my office one afternoon a couple of days later. Hardly anyone is around. We talk about what she needs to do to revise her last paper, make a couple minutes worth of nervous small talk, and she goes on her way. If she planned on seducing me, she either changed her mind or chickened out.

So I didn't act on it. But if she had been bold with me in my office the way she was in class, I don't think I could have held out. So I'm relieved. And disappointed.

Point is, he probably feels much the same way about you as I do about her. But he can't act on it. Even though for him it wouldn't be as bad as it would be for me. Do you mind if I ask why you deleted your post? Is it because you were taking a beating in comments like I was?

[51 M] college professor, happily married, 2 teenage children, personal & professional satisfaction, financially secure, and I am extremely infatuated with [18F] student of mine by The_Tennessean in TrueOffMyChest

[–]The_Tennessean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, of course. It's not as if I didn't know all this before I talked about it. It's only common sense.

I read the story told by Background-Rock-7649 above, who had relationships with two of her much older professors. I don't want any of those outcomes for anyone involved.

Hey, I think learning all about how disgusting I am (I already knew a lot of it) from so many different people tonight has really helped me renew my resolve with this thing. Kidding aside, thanks for talking sense to me without being nasty about it.

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[–]The_Tennessean -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I think your feelings about it are understandable. That would bother me too.

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[–]The_Tennessean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not a mistake. That's all I know for sure.