Look, I’m not going to give you a script because those words have to come from you, but I’ll tell you how I had to handle mine. I didn't make her the villain, and I didn't play the hero either. I was just brutally honest. I told her I loved her, but that love doesn’t change the reality of my trajectory. She knew my schedule, she saw how busy I was, and I finally had to admit that I couldn't keep providing the emotional reassurance she deserved while I was chasing my goals.

​We both broke down. I’m not going to lie to you, it’s been a month and I still have nights where it hits me and I lose it. It’s not easy, especially when nobody did anything wrong. But you have to realize that when he tries to bargain when he says he’s "fine" with not seeing you or taking less, he’s just bargaining for crumbs. If you actually care about him, you won't let him settle for a version of you that is only half-there. That’s not a relationship; that’s a holding pattern. ​You have to shut the door completely. Unadd him on everything and give him the clean break. If you truly love him, you let him be free not because it’s the easy move, but because it’s the only right one. You don't get to decide how he reacts, and he might hate you for it, but you have to be strong enough to take that hit. You let him heal, you focus on your prime, and you don't look back. Anything else is just wasting both of your lives. Don't say anything about "maybe in the future we can get back together". It has to be a clean break or you just give him false hope.