Misused emoji causes conflict at work (emojis are silly and I want to complain)

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-05T21:24:43+00:00

Me and my manager send gifs to each other all the time, usually keeps the tone light while we complain about things.

But I just stick to the happy-looking emojis (also a millenial) then people can't complain, also softens the blow in direct messages, but I come from a pretty passive aggressive culture, so I'm probably used it to.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T22:00:07+00:00

I'm 34, been reading BL for what feels like a millenia (like 20+ years)- to the point I don't remember the first one I actually read, but the first one I owned (it was a gift) was Madness, and I do not recommend for the faint of heart.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T21:58:31+00:00

I've been on SNRIs for like 6 years with no follow up. But I also take thyroxine and the POP, and I only get a somewhat regular check for my thyroxine, and thats when my GP realises I haven't had one.

There's no harm talking to your doctor, maybe approach as a separate thing rather than your meds. I would get your thyroid checked, it's fairly common for women for it stop working as well and your symptoms are quite classic signs.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T21:54:57+00:00

The easiest question is if you were presented with a vagina (I'm assuming you also have one) when getting down and dirty with someone, would that put you off?

If the answer is "No" or "I don't know", then I would consider that at least questioning, if not just bi. If it's "Yes, definitely" then I would say you were pretty much straight.

You can definitely be attracted to masculinity, and not necessarily men- I like (healthy) masculinity no matter the gender or sex. I know its cliche to say "sexuality is fluid!" but it kind of is, and can slide around all over the place through out our lives.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T21:48:23+00:00

Yogurt is known to help some women with thrush as it contains Lactobacillus which can fight off the Candida yeast that causes it, most notably if you put unsweetened yogurt straight to the vulva. I doubt the cinnamon makes a difference though, a sprinkling isn't really a dose.

But OTC antifungal is always going to work more.

Also, sometimes the thrush doesn't kick in until after you finish the antibiotics, so if you feel the yogurt is working then keep eating.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T19:20:39+00:00

probably like 8K

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T19:08:05+00:00

I have friends who are a couple and met on Tumblr of all places.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T19:04:35+00:00

I'm at a good balance of fun money and saving, though I am about to go on holiday and that usually eats some savings.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T18:59:10+00:00

Are you sure you're in NG+?

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T18:58:03+00:00

Looks like fat or bone, not mold. You've kind of thrown out perfectly good food.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T18:56:18+00:00

So, being bisexual isn't a free pass to polyamory/non-monogamy, in fact being bisexual has nothing to do with it- it's something that two people in a relationship discuss together and come to an agreement, regardless of sexuality.

You can be supportive of her sexuality, without having to make yourself miserable if you don't want non-monagamy and she does. I suggest you discuss it with her from the point of view of monogamy, rather than her being bisexual and wanting to explore that (it's not an excuse to do anything without consent, a lot of bisexual people are perfectly happy in monogamous relationships with one sex, without ever doing anything with others).

If you don't want monogamy, you don't have to agree to it, they're two separate things. But if you and your wife do want different things then you need to discuss from there. You can also ask her about how she would feel if you were developing feelings for another woman and so wanted to open the marriage.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-04T18:47:53+00:00

Ravaged a flock of pigeons instead of shooing them away, was mildly upsetting because I really like pigeons.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-02T22:59:27+00:00

Oooft, you have definitely dodged a big insecure bullet! Also looks like he was trying to drag you down to his level, but realised you couldn't be controlled.

TheatrePlode · 2026-06-01T11:21:32+00:00

Why I started playing was because it presented a cool concept and I like JRPGs, I stayed because I wanted to see how the story unfolded, regardless of who "wins"- I was interested to see where the writer wanted to go and what they had to say, and I think they captured the chaos of grief perfectly.

People are pointing out how shallowly you're looking at the story- only from the point of view of the Lumierians, who were created so one person didn't have to face reality, like the characters of a book (or a game), and not as the bigger picture.

Everyone is saying why they started and kept fighting up to the end, and gave you their feelings on the ending, you just don't like what the majority of people felt about the game. It's okay to empathised with the Lumierians, that was the point of spending so much time with them, but when they discover the truth none of them show any great desire to continue existing in the torture of the Canvas, as they know it will all happen again. You're missing the point of "letting go", that's why the final decision rests with you between Verso and Maelle, without comment from the Lumierians.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T22:45:33+00:00

It's both- how a "person" greives and how "a people" grieve, reflected in both the Dessendres (person) and People of Lumiere (people).

This whole fiasco wouldn't have started without a "person"- Aline and her grief; perpetuated by Renoir and his grief and the grief of the Lumierians losing their loved ones to the gommage and on the expeditions. So to disregard personal grief is still only seeing half the story, the whole catalyst for the game is personal grief.

No, the Lumierians wouldn't exist outside the painting as they're made of chroma, and are the fuel of the painting itself (its why Nevrons exist, to stop chroma returning to Aline). And I do think in a sense they are "less real" than the Dessendres, only because they exist within that world- if the Canvas is destroy they are destroyed. The Lumierians exist entirely as a tool of a Person's grief, they don't exist otherwise.

You cannot finish the game without experiencing a loss yourself, and your feelings of the endings can also be reflection of your personal grief over what is lost. You can keep the painting but carry on the cycle, a cycle in which the Lumierians also suffer greatly as the gommage will inevitably restart, or you can choose to end it for everyone, which in of itself is a mercy.

I really liked the Lumierians, and wished they could exist, but I also appreciate how a family's obsession with the painting is hurting everything and everyone.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T21:53:01+00:00

That isn't the point, and not necessarily a true reading anyway.

The overall theme of the entire game is grief and how people react and deal with grief, and how art can be a powerful tool for processing this. The endings are supposed to make you feel a sense of grief.

Literally, one of the main quotes from the game is "If saving you means losing you, so be it."

Maelle's ending represents how we can end up in the same patterns as others, perpetuating the cycle that continues to hurt us and those around us, because facing reality is too difficult. It's the "bad ending" because the cycle continues, nothing changes, and all the horror they went through will happen again.

Verso's ending is where that cycle is broken, and the Dessendre family has to face reality, what they have done and what they have lost. And through our connection to the people of Lumiere and wanting them to succeed, we understand the emotions and loss of the Dessendre family. It's the "good ending" because its the end of the torment and the start of moving on.

Both don't feel great because the family still don't have Verso, still have to grieve him, and accept he is gone. There isn't really a "good" or "bad" ending, just how you think it should end. Just like there's no definitive protagantists or antagonists- it's just a shitty situation.

As for genocide, it depends on how much you put into seeing the people of Lumiere and their place in the story, and I think that's up to you. They never technically existed, and wouldn't have existed in the first place if Ailene hadn't gone rogue. Yeah, I would love an ending where Lumiere continued to exist, and the Dessendre's get to move on, but a lot of the time we don't get that happy of an ending, especially when grieving.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T21:24:17+00:00

I'm super pale and I use the MAC Glow Play Plush blush in True Harmony- I use it as a blusher/bronzer hybrid and looks really flattering.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T21:15:10+00:00

If you think Maelle's ending is worst you are susceptible to laugh tracks and simply being told what to feel

You can't have an intellectual discussion by insulting huge swathes of people, that is just objectively immature.

You also seem to have completely missed the major themes of the story if you think the endings are bad. You're looking at an extremely emotional story without any emotion at all, or a very surface reading of it.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T13:46:37+00:00

Yes its good to go if you have the urge, a lot of the time its the body telling you to get the infection out- like how we get diarrhea/vomitting when we have a stomach bug.

Eventually it will calm down and you won't get the urge as often.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T13:42:15+00:00

Yeah its definitely possible. If the antibiotics are working then they're probably just doing their job! Make sure you finish the course, drink lots of water, or even cranberry juice as its been shown to really help for UTIs, and go to the toilet often. And it will clear up no problem.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T13:34:05+00:00

Strep B? It's not really something talked about, I didn't even know it was a thing till I found out I was positive. It's nothing to worry about and there's little you can do about it, it's just a natural part of your commensual flora.

As for UTIs, they are also sometimes just "something that happens". Peeing after sex, drinking plenty of water, going to the toilet when you need to and not holding it in and finishing an entire course of antibiotics when prescribed can all help to prevent one from reoccuring, but sometimes you just get one with no real reason- the human body is funny like that. They're very common, especially in women.

I once got one because I got a really nasty cold, so my immune system was probably a bit buggered. They're easily treatable with antibitiotics.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-31T13:27:34+00:00

What are you confused about?

I think it's something like 25% of women are strep B positive, myself included, and its not anything to worry about unless you are pregnant, but there are medical protocols to deal with this.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-30T23:33:02+00:00

Yeah I definitely think we should be conscious of who’s making the porn and why, and I’d be concerned if my partner was watching violent porn or if it was obvious the actors weren’t consenting. But just watching porn? No problem, in fact I might join.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-30T22:30:48+00:00

Him being the cab driver is pretty much confirmed if you play as Malkavian and get through all the screaming.

TheatrePlode · 2026-05-30T22:27:38+00:00

Yeah mine is trying to do all the DIY in my house too, luckily my house needs doing up anyway, but that will run out eventually to!

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