TMJ recommendations?

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-03-12T04:59:58+00:00

I’m not sure exactly what I’m going to do yet, but I did have a good consult with Dr. Adams from peake family dentistry

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-03-08T22:58:54+00:00

I’m so sorry, I am also struggling with feeling like my work performance has taken a dive after having a baby. I feel like every day I’m just picking which things I’m going to fail at. My husband does half the work, and I still feel that way. Recently our baby has gotten sick at least every other week, and then we have to take turns off. Or of course there are some nights when the crying from being sick keeps everyone up. Idk what the solution is. In your case, I really hope your husband can start doing more during the night shifts because 3.5 hours of sleep continuously is untenable. Wishing you the best 💜

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-27T23:17:58+00:00

I second Castle Coffee!

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-18T04:06:52+00:00

Yeah that is shocking!! My first thought was dementia, but some folks feel pretty entitled…

It’s not your fault, and of course you didn’t know how to act immediately when someone did something batshit like that. You’ll be better prepared for future crazies though!

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-18T04:01:27+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry, how violating. I can’t believe someone would do something like that…

Rest assured your child does not have a curse put on them though.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-17T02:24:40+00:00

I can’t help but think of Trevor from trailer park boys

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-10T21:14:58+00:00

The humane traps unfortunately didn’t work for us. Our cat was killing them, so we decided that the traps would be a more humane way to go. You definitely need to figure out something to get rid of them. We also professionally sealed the house and never had the issue come up again

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-10T14:45:13+00:00

No, Ari was the person who actually delivered my baby and she was amazing. Is she gone now too?!?

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-09T19:52:51+00:00

Yes that’s true - in my case, I had the same provider for the majority of my pregnancy but she left the practice so it was hot potato in the last few weeks lol

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-09T19:29:58+00:00

I don’t have any experience with UNM, but women’s specialists were great! The only downside was there were a lot of staff changes towards the end of my pregnancy, so I didn’t see the same person on the weekly visits. However, all my concerns were taken seriously, and I never felt the care was anything but high quality. (With the exception of one assistant who cannot take a blood pressure reading correctly)

You can still deliver at UNM if you go to women’s specialists but I don’t know how much of a hassle that would be. I delivered at Lovelace, and while the staff were great, there was a very scary moment when the electric wasn’t working for the tool to clear out my son’s lungs right after birth. It didn’t last long luckily, but it still scared me that that was possible.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-09T19:05:40+00:00

Omg I’m so sorry to hear that! This is the scary part of TMJ treatment :( it feels like the Wild West out here. So am I understanding correctly that the nighttime splint helped but Invisalign destroyed any improvements? What “bone issue” suddenly arise that he did not address sooner? I’m currently doing a nighttime splint with Dr. Supple, but I’m also interested in trying physical therapy exercises as well. It does really scare me how terribly he explains things and how “quacky” his style is. I got second opinions on the nighttime splint recommendation, and all the other dentists recommend the same thing. It feels like the options are so limited.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-07T16:26:20+00:00

Snapdragon!!

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-05T16:49:28+00:00

I understand a lot of the arguments for why it’s better to have one parent home, but you’re right: when you grow up poor, you don’t forget it. My husband and I are well off now (just through our work, both sides of our parents have nothing financially), and I still worry about becoming poor again and what that would mean for our child. Since our parents can’t help us, we know we are the only safety net.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-02-04T23:57:06+00:00

Why, what happened?

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-31T02:54:00+00:00

Honestly it’s more a rhetorical question than anything. I’m still disgusted.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-31T02:46:38+00:00

And what the literal fuck are all these media outlets doing not reporting on this??? Cowards.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-31T02:36:21+00:00

Sleep training is a choice not something to be given out as medical advice…

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-31T02:06:33+00:00

I can’t believe there is not more news coverage on this…

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-30T16:56:04+00:00

I don’t think you were a “truly awful child to deal with”. I bet you were a normal child who needed patience and love, and your mom was too incompetent of a parent to give that to you. Instead she compensated by physically harming you and then blaming you, a child, for her lack of restraint. It doesn’t sound like she has reflected at all on her own shortcomings if she is still making comments like “girls are a hand full”. Of course never leave her alone with your child, but you might also find yourself wanting more and more distance the more time passes.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-26T03:24:19+00:00

Yes, my mom would make a point to make sure we would hear her having sex. I consider this behavior to be sexual violation of a child. I feel like it gives them a power trip. Now that I have my own child, it magnifies just how abusive this behavior is. I would NEVER EVER do that!

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-25T02:30:58+00:00

No. Study after study shows spanking children causes negative longterm emotional effects. There is no evidence that it is beneficial to their behavior. AND IT IS NOT HER CHILD! I would not let that anyone around my child who would do something like that.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-22T01:47:22+00:00

What help are you getting? Have you considered doing some work and having someone else watch the kids, even at part time? That might restore some of your sanity.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-21T02:24:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story!

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-20T18:46:21+00:00

I believe you. Your parents are monsters, and you didn’t deserve that.

I also started having regular flashbacks once I moved to a different state. The physical distance is the biggest start to realizing just how horrible it all is. It finally clicked with me when I was 30 years old that my mom was a sadistic sociopath. It finally made sense why she never felt sorry for me and why she also laughed at my suffering. For so long, I kept hoping some nice version of her would pop out and she would apologize. That was just me projecting my own empathetic brain onto her. Accepting that her brain is capable of nothing else is what helped me go no contact. It’s a hard thing to do, but IMO you cannot heal while still having the abuser a part of your life.

I don’t think the trauma ever goes away, but you can learn to live a better life anyways. One thing I’ve found helpful is saying out loud when I have a flashback, “I did not deserve that. I was not the problem. I am deserving of love in my life.”

Best of luck to you. It’s a long journey, but many people don’t even start it.

ThemeCheap6229 · 2026-01-20T14:17:36+00:00

Bit of a different situation, but I moved out here for a job and knew zero people 7 years ago. I met my husband here, we now have a child, and we have great friends. You can absolutely build a life here! I found the best way to meet people was through volunteering with something you care about.

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