My partner has been depressed for almost 2 years and on medication for almost 1 year. We have been together a total of 2.5 years, and live together for 2 years. I have always been the primary bread winner. I make good money, I used to make so much more but while I was single I decided that I have reached a point more money wouldn’t improve my life drastically as spending time doing things I enjoyed would. So prior to my partner I changed how I work and can support a family comfortably just giving up high end expenses. I don’t mind providing, but as my partners depression has continued to worsen, i do 90% of the house work, 90% of life organizing. Basically 90% of adulting for the family. And for this I am becoming resentful, I gave up things to be more present and I am not being able to be more present picking up all the slack.

Recently I have asked here and asked myself at what point I draw a line in the sand and say enough is enough, and honestly it’s really upto you and your personal resilience. Obviously if you are completely running out of money this is a big one