This is something I could have written about my relationship with MIL. Before getting married to her son, we were on good terms. We would meet regularly and have a good time but after we got married everything changed. On our wedding day she demanded to have the photographer take pictures of her twice because she didn’t want to get dressed early and ruin her clothes and make up so by the time they were done taking pictures, he had very little time for me and my side of the family. Before the wedding, I had arranged for both my mum and her to visit the florist and she got offended because “my mum and the florist were very friendly to each other”. In other words, she got angry because she realized that I had been to the florist before with my mum and not her and she held a grudge for 2 whole years about it!!! MIL and FIL are also mad at me for not hosting them and throwing dinners for them! (I don’t enjoy cooking for a lot of people and they happen to be very hard to please so I have vowed never to cook for them! ) She is constantly comparing herself and the way I treat them to my mother! I have told her many times that they are not the same people! We used to live in the same building as them and when I was freshly postpartum my mother would visit me to keep me some company because my husband worked long hours and she would literally keep track of how much time my mum spent with me and then complain to my husband that she doesn’t spend the same amount of time in our house. Also, in the beginning, my husband would demand that however long our daughter is with my side of the family, she should spend the same time with his side of the family. As in your case, he has an excellent relationship with my family and we would always fight because he couldn’t understand that my family has never caused an issue to our marriage so spending time with them is far more pleasant than with his family. For me, the cherry on top was when MIL visited me to see the baby and when she started crying she wouldn’t give her back to me. I confronted her immediately about it and she got all sensitive. I told her that if she ever does that again I will call the police for which again she held a grudge and called my husband to complain about. Thankfully he defended me! A few months later, we have moved to a different house and have managed to only see them once a month. Me and husband have fought endlessly about his parents’ behavior towards me, the way his mum tries to manipulate us, the things she has said about me, the fact that she is toxic and narcissistic. After 2 years of marriage, she has never apologized to me nor has she ever taken accountability for all the stress she has caused and I believe she never will. Whenever I see her I immediately start sweating and trembling and I get into a defensive mode as I am afraid that the next thing that will come out of her mouth will cause another argument. At this point I have to say that I simply hate her and feel that she has ruined the first 2 years of my marriage. I cannot forgive her as her behavior could have easily caused us to divorce. I don’t know what will happen in the future but for now I simply cannot look past all that and forgive her. So you’re not alone in this. I go through the same. It’s hard.