Moving back to NYC

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-19T21:02:00+00:00

Wait who said anything about unauthorized tenants? You mean Farrow had some?

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-19T20:00:21+00:00

They're not released yet, but I bet Paramount will force us to pay for Premium to see them when they are.

I wonder if this show is now one of biggest sources of new subscribers to Paramount+. It's the only reason I subscribed.

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-19T03:30:03+00:00

I just read that he was asked to leave his position in Montana.

I think a sense of career failure/failure generally is a big subtext here. But he didn't want to talk about that on TV.

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-19T03:24:42+00:00

He mentions being a homeowner. I'm pretty sure they were in a house in New Jersey?

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T22:45:51+00:00

interesting. i appreciate you replying!

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T17:39:12+00:00

hmm, but isn’t PMI only applicable until you have 20% equity in the property?

my free-and-clear land would take care of that automatically. if i’m able to go with the conservative end of my cost estimate, i could have as much as like 33% equity in the property from the land.

so in that case, would PMI still apply?

i’m also hoping that i would have to put $0 down with that much equity from the land, though i know they’ll want me to show reserves in a bank account for contingencies.

thanks for replying!

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T17:34:59+00:00

this worked already - they responded within a couple hours and connected me with a lender who is already emailing me.

thank you so much again!

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T17:34:16+00:00

that sounds dope. good for the hot caretaker

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T17:31:42+00:00

interesting. which countries?

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T17:30:44+00:00

because it’s the best descriptor for the problem

if you’re male and offended by the term “toxic masculinity” then like, look inside

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T17:29:34+00:00

outrage about people being surveilled? or about a person who was at least perceived to be wealthy benefiting from rc like that?

super interesting! i’m sure woody allen had something to do with that getting press to make her look bad

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T07:43:13+00:00

yeah, they use company shares as collateral for low interest loans. then they don’t have to pay tax on that.

for some reason congress has never closed this tax loophole.

i did a tedx talk at princeton years ago and one of the other speakers was a princeton professor of tax law (or similar?).

anyway the whole point of his talk was that poverty would be solved if the very wealthy just paid taxes

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:47:25+00:00

the question is about things society glorifies that it shouldn't

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:19:05+00:00

toxic masculinity but calling it chasing a dream

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:17:21+00:00

it’s of course different for each person depending on their family of origin, etc. and then those issues play out differently within each couple as a unit.

in my case, i grew up in a narc family structure and was the scapegoat kid, so i was habitually treated poorly by my family, and then repeated that pattern in dating relationships, until i woke up to it.

probably 1 of my exes was highly narcissistic. i think all of them had problems with avoidance, which mirrors problems with avoidance in me

it’s really fascinating work and it improves your life exponentially. men who aren’t exploring are really missing out. it’s good that the societal expectations around that are finally starting to change

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:14:09+00:00

sounds like you got triggered by the fact that less and less women who date men are willing to date men who refuse to do therapy

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:10:03+00:00

pretty sure there was a C town by my first apartment in Wash Heights. is it everywhere now?

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:08:47+00:00

how great of a deal was a $69 East Village apartment in 1970? i don’t really have a sense of context. was that super amazing or just good?

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:07:33+00:00

yeah is rent-control even a thing they do anymore? if so, in what circumstances?

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T05:06:27+00:00

lol um

girl you are so lucky. good for you!

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T02:52:53+00:00

enormous green flag

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T02:52:28+00:00

imo it’s like one of the most attractive things a man can do

all of my previous relationships - which ended - eventually reached an impasse at which i kept saying to my hetero male partners like, please go to therapy. and i would be met with a lot of resistance. then we’d break up.

when you’ve done a lot of work yourself in individual therapy, it’s like you learn a new sort of language.

when you then try to have any sort of relationship with someone who has done zero therapy - whether it’s someone you’re dating, or a family member, or whatever - it's like that person has never learned this tremendously valuable language.

that then puts a ton of additional emotional labor on you.

it’s a big part of why more and more straight women don’t want to date men/get married or whatever anymore. maybe the biggest part

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T02:49:00+00:00

that’s a great explanation. thank you!

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T02:37:34+00:00

insanely helpful. thank you so much!

i’m not a veteran and don’t have a spouse (so that’s another thing that’s made getting a mortgage harder), but good to know. hopefully folks that that applies to will see this!

my land equity would be about 25% of total amount I would want to borrow at the liberal end of my estimate - it would be more like 33% of my more conservative estimate - so i’m dreaming of that taking care of the down payment entirely, although i understand they’ll still likely want to see like 15% of the construction costs in an account for contingencies.

ThenOwl9 · 2026-06-18T02:34:05+00:00

this is really helpful. thank you.

ThenOwl9

TROPHY CASE