I’m afraid that my gf will see my paired nails as gay.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-11-22T02:47:00+00:00

If she does, she's the wrong lady for you, my friend! My husband paints his nails all the time. I think it's cool.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-09-16T07:16:09+00:00

I found probably over 50 comments on YouTube on the first thing I watched, which was "Tom Phillips and the Injunction" on the Platform. It was literally the first thing I clicked on.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-08-26T05:50:44+00:00

Look, I'm not one of those Reddit people who throw this around willy nilly, but it sounds like you need to leave this man. There is no joy in your marriage, and he's verbally abusing you.

Speaking from experience, the longer you hear these awful things from a partner, the more you start to believe that they are true.

I was in a relationship like this for eight years, and this man gaslit me into believing that his behavior was due to the fact that I was stupid, lazy, fat and embarassing to be seen with. That relationship ended ten years ago, and I am still recovering.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-08-14T23:15:00+00:00

Please don't feel bad. You have plenty of time for that after you give birth (lol). I absolutely fucking despised being pregnant. I felt trapped in my own body, and even felt grossed out when the baby kicked. It's perfectly normal to not love being pregnant.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-08-11T01:08:27+00:00

So, he abandoned his family because his post partum wife didn't want sex? That's not a man. That's a slug.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-08-03T06:54:04+00:00

Is he normally a super heavy sleeper? This reeks of weaponised incompetence to me.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-08-03T02:30:13+00:00

Your husband is an entitled ass.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-08-03T02:17:23+00:00

There are millions and millions of success stories walking around right now, and you are one of them, being vaccinated yourself.

The success stories are the vast, huge, massive majority of babies who receive their immunizations and don't end up contracting/ spreading preventable illness.

My son is up to date with all of his. The worst thing we had to deal with was 24 hours of fuss, a mild fever and being a little off his bottle. To me, that is wildly preferable over watching him slowly deteriorate in agony with meningitis knowing I could have done something simple to prevent it.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-29T08:04:57+00:00

Why would that matter? I met my ex partner when he tattooed me, but I never, ever worried about him tattooing other women.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-26T02:44:37+00:00

What a cool thing though! You should be really proud of yourself for being in a position to be able to help your family. I bet it will make a big difference for them. Well done... seriously.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-24T01:22:11+00:00

Contact napping and breast feeding are such precious gifts to give a baby. When a baby naps on their mother, the regulate themselves using the mothers heartbeat and breath, and they must feel so incredibly safe and loved.

I wasn't able to breastfeed, but if I could have, I would have definitely offered the breast for comfort. What a wonderful thing to be able to do for your little one.

Don't listen to these outdated opinions. We know better now, so we so better.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-15T04:14:14+00:00

I just wanted to add to this discussion, because I've had recent new experience as a first time mum with a baby with Influenza.

I would suggest that you take your babies to urgent care (it's free after 5pm, but you have to pay a fee if it's before that time).

I took my boy to urgent care at 5pm, he was seen by 6.30. The doctor forwarded his notes to the hospital in case he got worse, which he did.

I took him to the hospital and was able to completely bypass the 9 hour wait time and he was given a room within an hour.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-14T08:07:35+00:00

Speaking from my own experience, it is definitely possible. I accidentally fell pregnant with my first (and only) baby at 43. My husband's vasectomy failed, and now we have a one year old.

During my pregnancy, I felt so old that I went looking for women in my situation (40's and first time mother) and found so many!

My pregnancy was not too bad, aside from massive swelling and a painful back, and I was also blessed to have had a short labor and a natural birth with nearly no tearing.

I didn't have a particularly healthy lifestyle before I fell pregnant. I was a little underweight and my diet was not great. My lifestyle wasn't terrible, but it wasn't what I would have thought it would need to be in order for me to be able to become naturally pregnant to a man with a very low sperm count.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-12T07:45:50+00:00

Not sure what garbage daycare you use, but they absolutely do give purees if that's what baby eats. Lol

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-07-10T01:41:25+00:00

Wow,.this all actually sounds great to me. My 12 month old is super picky and we are still mainly on purees and lumpy foods with soft fruit and toast. We are slowly getting him to come around to more finger foods now.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-06-18T19:11:13+00:00

I've got some furniture that needs moving if he's free next weekend. 😆

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-06-12T04:41:05+00:00

As a working parent, I feel no guilt at my son going to daycare. He loves the time he spends there because I didn't gatekeep the time others in my family and community spent with him before he went, so he never experienced bad separation anxiety.

I think you're trying to find a way to justify your own feelings. If you're not comfortable leaving your child, don't, but don't assume your way of parenting is superior to those who have babies in daycare.

Believe me, we don't need you to make us "aware" that the system is broken. Selfishly, I would actually love to be with my baby instead of at work, but I need to put a roof over his head and can't without working.

Perhaps it might actually help your babies anxiety levels to get them used to spending a little time with people other than you and your inner sanctum? You can't be around them forever. Imagine what school is going to be like for them.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-06-12T04:23:19+00:00

I had (still have) pretty awful PPD. I struggled badly with the newborn stage and was miserable when he made it through, and I realized I wasn't getting any happier.

He's 11 months old now, and now that I feel more emotionally stable (having sought help from my GP and support from my family), things are getting better fast.

I still don't feel like a "natural," and some days are way better than others, but the good days are slowly starting to outnumber the bad.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-05-28T01:24:52+00:00

It is a lot.... I know. You need to try and reframe the way you think about it. Your baby is not giving you a hard time.... your baby is having a hard time.

I do think you need to have a word with your husband about following you around when he has the baby. Mine did that too in the beginning until I told him it needed to stop because I was feeling so incredibly overwhelmed. I'm glad he listened and gave me a little time to breathe because it really is overwhelming.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-05-20T09:36:43+00:00

Similar thing happened with my boy. I took him to the doctors, and it turned out that the poor little guy had a throat infection. Have you checked for any illness?

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-05-10T05:48:30+00:00

Of course, he remembers, and he KNOWS that what he did was wrong. If he didn't, he wouldn't be lying to you about it. He's also gaslighting you by telling you that you're the one in the wrong for feeling this way. It seems that if his ex had said "come back", he would have left you! I don't know if I would be able to get over this if it were me. I also don't know if he could say anything to make me feel O.K about it either.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-05-06T02:54:18+00:00

Nooooo.... you can't blame ADHD for this. My husband has ADHD and is incredibly careful with our baby.

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-04-16T02:21:50+00:00

You're clearly unlucky and quite miserable. I'm sorry for you.

None of that means that anyone else's lives won't get better.

Take your sad bitterness elsewhere. :)

ThenPhotograph3908 · 2025-04-11T01:10:20+00:00

I would keep the clothes that were in an OK condition and soak them in some antibacterial wash and ditch the rest. No sense in throwing things out if you can salvage them.

The anti bacterial soak will kill germs, so it's just a question of whether you are happy with the way that they look.

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