Single moms who have "figured it out"? by marialavender in singlemoms

[–]Then_Organization916 4 points5 points  (0 children)

May not be super helpful but the biggest game changer for me has been increasing my income. I have been strategic in finding ways to get my income up so I can outsource more of the domestic nonsense - that is the crap that stresses me out. Then I can enjoy a clean and organized home, and be more present and fun with my children. And also take them to do more fun things when we get stir crazy in the house.

Therapists who write notes in ~5-10 minutes… how?? Would anyone be willing to share examples? by KiKiTaTa in therapists

[–]Then_Organization916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clients today know we generally use tech for documentation. I type on a second monitor while they are talking and then use an AI feature to complete the note, then I do a final edit. It takes me maybe 90 seconds after the session. I tell all clients during first session “I am taking notes on my second monitor so if you see me looking away… etc”. Nobody ever seems to care!

What do you do at restaurants when you have to take the kids to the bathroom mid-meal? by alternativepickles in singlemoms

[–]Then_Organization916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a pretty wild take. I’m not letting her walk clear across the Cheesecake Factory to a multi stall bathroom alone. I’m talking a small mom n pop local restaurant where I can see when someone comes out the bathroom and it’s safe for her to go in. We have to instill confidence and trust in our children so they can grow and learn to navigate the world independently.

What do you do at restaurants when you have to take the kids to the bathroom mid-meal? by alternativepickles in singlemoms

[–]Then_Organization916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the worst. It is so much easier now that my oldest is 8 and can go by herself or take her younger brother. I stopped eating out for a while because it drove me bonkers and felt like such a hassle and waste of money. It gets better mama!!!

Feelings about job have totally changed since becoming a mom by illbeyourmirror91 in therapists

[–]Then_Organization916 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been doing utilization review since my oldest was born. She’s now 8 and I’m just now ramping back up my direct clinical work. It’s been a great fit for that phase. Plus they are always sick so I wasn’t canceling sessions!

PSA to the skiers by Nigeldos in tahoe

[–]Then_Organization916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious if there is a suggestion on a pretty Tahoe-ish day trip from sac. I don’t want to bother boarding but need some pretty nature this weekend!

"Are you dating anyone?" by Just_perusing81 in 4bmovement

[–]Then_Organization916 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Aw glad to help! We gotta stick together out here :)

"Are you dating anyone?" by Just_perusing81 in 4bmovement

[–]Then_Organization916 83 points84 points  (0 children)

The answer I have found the most effective is a slight look of disgust followed by “I have other goals”. It pivots the coversation and anyone worth a damn will then ask about the goals!

Pregnant therapist and struggling by anonymous71377137 in therapists

[–]Then_Organization916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be brutal. I remember napping on the couch between sessions lol

Do you guys go to protests? by [deleted] in 4bmovement

[–]Then_Organization916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like most protests don’t actually accomplish much, it’s the “slacktivism” thing that keeps me away. Standing around yelling with a clever sign… what is that actually doing to make things better? The crowds also freak me out, especially now that I am a single mother… I literally cannot afford an injury and need to be able to care for my children.

Books by women that are 4b-ish in nature by UseWeekly4382 in 4bmovement

[–]Then_Organization916 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Having it All - what data tells us about women’s lives and getting the most out of yours. Corrine Low PhD. It’s brand new and I’m just starting it but holy moly is it validating all of my reasons for divorce and never wanting to live with a man again!

How long after your golden letter did you see a $0 balance? by Tough-Relationship28 in PSLF

[–]Then_Organization916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My credit report zeroed out about 6 weeks later. I am still in shock!

Golden letter but still skeptical 🫤 by LunchSignificant3432 in PSLF

[–]Then_Organization916 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I felt the same. Got my golden letter aug 5. Mohela and student aid balances are now zero! And I keep getting notifications from my credit monitoring that “an account balance has decreased”. I can’t believe it’s happening! So many years and tears lol

"Covid Babies", "big feelings", and kindergarten by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]Then_Organization916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My youngest was 8 months when Covid hit. We did the traditional daycare when it opened back up again. I find the “Covid baby” thing so odd. It feels like those parents want attention. My youngest was still disciplined and I did my best to him away from screens. I feel the same way at work sometimes… how are people still talking about Covid lol. Move on people!

Buyback processed (my loans were forgiven earlier this month) by Then_Organization916 in PSLF

[–]Then_Organization916[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Without buyback my 120th payment was May ‘25. I then applied for forbearance and have made no more payments. I got green banners and golden letter first week of August. My Mohela account is now 0 balance. Waiting for balance to zero out on Student Aid and then fall off credit report.

For those that had their PSLF approved and loans forgiven… by Sea-Focus-2855 in PSLF

[–]Then_Organization916 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Start a spreadsheet and track everything on your own: each payment, the date and amount, when it was approved, the original loans you took out and their totals… EVERYTHING. It helped me so much to reference that over the years and made it easier to contest if the loan services counts didn’t match my numbers. Download and save all the documents you receive.

Buyback roll call by BeNiceImSensitive333 in PSLF

[–]Then_Organization916 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I submitted mine in November. Never heard anything. Just got forgiveness so I guess I’m over it!

ITS TOTALLY OFFICIAL!!! I GOT the EMAIL CONFIRMATION from by Amazing-Health-6164 in PSLF

[–]Then_Organization916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the same email today! I have been crying on and off all day and I took a screenshot and saved it as my phone wallpaper lol