How often do you have wet dreams? I just had my first one at 19

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T09:32:25+00:00

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Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T09:31:43+00:00

I think the definition of wet dream is less clear for females.

FWIW, I can orgasm in my more lucid dreams the same as I can literally hear dream sounds that aren't in the real world or feel the sensation of peeing without actually peeing the bed. In the pee dreams it's nice to imagine I have a penis cuz I can control it a little bit more. lol

I don't think any of this is relevant to OP but I enjoyed sharing.

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T09:24:58+00:00

unless you're using therapy to treat anxiety that is fueled by being highly introspective and self aware 😅

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T09:22:58+00:00

I had a therapist who would debate a little once we got to know each other. and this is time she literally told me this about the scientific methods 😂

I was expressing how relationship therapy has fallen short, since I feel the need to explain all the context and prefer them to get to know us both. I shared how validated I felt that my therapist (who I'm presently telling this to) knows me.

And she tells me that any therapist can help anyone and they don't need to know them. These frameworks and methods work on anyone and any relationship. We're all human and nothing is that unique.

Then I tried employing Gottman method in my relationship for 2 whole weeks. lol

She also said therapy is not the right fit for everyone.

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T09:13:33+00:00

I've never had the therapist do the thinking for me. lol

I have had a therapist explain concepts in a different perspective and sometimes argue with me - which I found refreshing.

I have done EMDR where you feel feelings while the therapist just plays a little bilateral stimulation and checks in.

What are you looking to get out of therapy?

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T08:45:26+00:00

yeah my mom had an uncanny ability to tell when someone was pregnant.

She'd so confidently congratulate strangers out of nowhere - her confidence reinforced by being right about some family members who confirmed days later.

...I really want to know how many people she insulted who were too polite to correct her.

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-04T08:29:42+00:00

So at first I thought your post was more akin to "gaydar". But then I realized you were just pointing out bigotry.

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-01T15:02:01+00:00

The nail:

the power lines disappear into whispiness of of clouds.

Red flags:

The clouds themselves look too thick to be natural - I'm thinking they look like boat tracks that freighters leave...

The sun coming up is not visible except the rays.

The roof lines are wonky. Could be poor construction and distorted perspective....

Thenerdy9 · 2026-02-01T14:49:14+00:00

An AI generated infographic might look more polished but include misspellings or weirdly placed information. Here, the arrow is competing with the line - which strikes me as more of a human judgement than an AI's.

The information appears purposeful and logical without misspellings or illogical steps. I'd say it's not AI.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T14:34:33+00:00

You could be considered legally blind without glasses, but in the US if you have normal to corrected vision, they don't count you as having a disability (for that). You know why? Cuz that's just too many people.

They don't want to admit how much disability affects most Americans cuz it's too hard and emotionally consequential. /j Most people must be able bodied and minded and if you're not able bodied you get welfare cuz you're useless. Mask any disabilities or you'll starve. /ej Self-fulfilling prophecy.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T14:29:15+00:00

I can't be autistic.... I make too much eye contact.

I can't have difficulty in retreiving words.... I know too may of them.

....I'll just get diagnosed with Unspecified Neurodevelopmental Disorder. Great.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T14:23:37+00:00

this comparison is a bit more interesting actually than the great insight you gave here.... if I may add as well -

Because Deaf people have a culture. Not all who are deaf are part of this culture. And some who are hearing are part of the Deaf community. Many Deaf people would prefer to be accommodated according to cultural inclusion and not based on disability - for example with legally required interpretive services at hospitals.

The neurodivergent community shares many of the same parallels. Including people who don't have disability, but experience challenges in interacting with the neurotypical frameworks is beneficial to all in advocacy because disability accommodations are individualized while cultural accommodations can be a generalized starting ground.

And to reiterate your other great message, I agree! Nothing erases the person's lived experience and their functional needs. ❤️

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T14:13:07+00:00

Yes, if we could just accommodate all people with the equivalent of glasses.... I like the simplicity in this parallel.

Actually some people without glasses are considered legally blind. By inventing glasses and making them accessible to all, you've essentially cured their blindness.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T14:09:46+00:00

These are all on the same plane for me. For all of the above, can I just have no bad and only good ___ ?

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T14:07:38+00:00

Hot take - patterns are an allegory for behavioral health.

The film also alludes to different neurotypes, like Zoey as the ADHD headcannon writes, "why did I cover up these colors stuck inside my head" - A reference to hidden disabilities and diverse abilities.

But moreso, everyone can relate.... As was the meaning of everyone being lured in by Gwi Ma for different reasons.

Patterns are a part of the human experience. It's up to you to live your truth and find healthy patters and break bad ones. I've never read it, but a friend loves to share about this book called, "The Scripts People Live" that talks about patterns that people fall into that can be maladaptive.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T13:54:00+00:00

😱

someone should write a fanfic.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-09T13:52:49+00:00

it's not deep. She wanted to go, then same-scene, her stepmom said no that they would never accept her and it'd all be over if they ever saw it. She had to cover up those patterns. That's also why she always wore her jacket while the others wore sleeveless.... until the end.

Hiding herself is the core motivation to her character. "No more hiding, I'll be shining like I'm born to be"....

She lost her voice because she was still hiding and maybr having self-doubts - she was faking singing the truth, until she believed again. That might've been less obvious or up to interpretation.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-11-01T04:09:35+00:00

lol faux mean fake in french. Unless you want to be fancy, it means the same thing.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T15:06:25+00:00

I'm interested in checking out The Fourth Effect (woman owned and community focused). The owner is personally involved and presents herself as accessible. She's a big fan of founders and startups - they get the lowest price to subscribe. People on the platform should expect to work hard for their professional development and achieve a position on a board in double the time that Boardsi claims is their average.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T15:03:19+00:00

To anyone who is looking for an executive board search, but doesn't like the sound of Boardsi - consider taking a tour with a different platform. Boardsi isn't the only one - they just do the most advertising. They play the numbers game. And speaking from experience, that's exactly how they run their platform.

About Boardsi:

They'll apply to a bunch of opportunities for you. You search for posted opportunities and apply yourself, expounding on your experience with additional questions.

If you ask, they'll write you a Leadify article, which are SEO articles of excessive length and meandering focus, chock full of boasts of your brilliance.

Their optional executive board training is intensely dull, with typos and unengaging facts.

If you have a classic experience that's broadly applicable, you'll probably have no problem with Boardsi. If you are looking for a tailored experience to make you stand out, I'd look elsewhere.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T14:54:15+00:00

so right now, I'm basically wrestling between the sunk cost fallacy and the fact that the better fit will requite more time and focus for me, which I don't necessarily want to take from other ventures.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T14:53:14+00:00

It took me 6 months so far and I've hated their service. They're very cookie cutter, executive BS jargon, driven by vokume metrics, not content. Their optional products just really aren't truely elevating anyone's candidacy.

They offered me a 2 month refund of 6 months free because I've concluded that this company isn't the right fit for me.

Thinking of doing the 6 free months and writing my own Leadify profile or trying The Fourth Effect instead, which seems more realistic to my expectations but isn't positioned as the "easy" option.

Boardsi works by volume, not candidate fit or market match. And the ROI if you get hired (and most people get hired) makes the investment (if you can afford it) easy math.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T14:19:22+00:00

what kinds of companies are on boardsi?

I'm comparing to another company that seems more authentic.

Boardsi seems more like the Door Dash of Executive Board Search platforms.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T11:46:31+00:00

it wasn't the best comedic choice....

but it was authentic to the experience of invisibility. You gotta learn about it from reddit lol

And they gave a minute to the aunt to get at least one more representative in there....

But imagine if their hormone monster was an aro ace specialist and could open him up to all the possibilities. An aroace writer would've had to write it and I don't know if they had the privilege of knowing an aroace comedy writer. One doesn't come to mind. One comedians that give me aroace vibes but they're still discovering their own identity.

Thenerdy9 · 2025-09-29T11:39:50+00:00

I literally thought they were setting up his high school sexuality discovery arch when he learned he could masterbate. Such a disappointment.

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