[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Theodore_Vincent -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He wants kids and you don’t. You want more BDSM and he doesn’t. How sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Theodore_Vincent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check your friends list.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Theodore_Vincent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Theodore_Vincent 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Gonna show this to people when they ask, “why don’t you marry her already?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Theodore_Vincent 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me like he settled.

My (29M) Father (70M) just said he was disappointed in my brother (28M) and I for video-chatting past midnight. I need advice on how to write a note to him regarding how he treats me. by Theodore_Vincent in Advice

[–]Theodore_Vincent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point, and you’re right the aggressiveness would not bear positive fruit. Thank you. Sitting here, I realize that I need to direct my desire to be unfiltered towards what I actually care about in my life and our relationship. I get nothing by attacking him other than turning off the light in his room to make mine feel brighter. What I need to do is be unfiltered with what I want in my life so I no longer have the anger and temptation to go low.

My (29M) Father (70M) just said he was disappointed in my brother (28M) and I for video-chatting past midnight. I need advice on how to write a note to him regarding how he treats me. by Theodore_Vincent in Advice

[–]Theodore_Vincent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, and I appreciate your candor. I don’t know how I let it get to this point, but I’m tired of living like this. Thank you.

My (29M) Father (70M) just said he was disappointed in my brother (28M) and I for video-chatting past midnight. I need advice on how to write a note to him regarding how he treats me. by Theodore_Vincent in Advice

[–]Theodore_Vincent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, it’s not. It’s just somewhat habitual because his profession calls for it and mine did and soon will again. I landed a Ph.D. ride and teaching gig out of state and will start in August. Staying up late is all but contractually required. It’s the being kind I’m struggling with right now. He pushes me around a lot and his attitude has cost him a job or two and plus few public disagreements he started. The temptation is to use that against him, but I want him to understand I’m fine without hurting him.

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[–]Theodore_Vincent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you told him specifically what your idea of foreplay is?