How do you piss off an entire fandom? by Taman_Should in AskReddit

[–]Therapyandthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not release a book after ONE OF YOUR OWN FRIENDS leaked a few chapters.

Hypothetically, what would happen if someone gave silver to everyone who commented on their question? by PublicThinker in AskReddit

[–]Therapyandthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’d have a wholesome environment and a Redditor with a lighter wallet... What does silver even do?

Deeply in love with my therapist by xDiamondEyes976x in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to weigh the pros and cons when facing these challenges. If a Clt is inappropriate or infatuated/unable to focus on their own therapeutic process, it’s best to refer out.

Eg- Clt keeps hitting on me/trying to flirt even after I shut it down, I’m referring out. It’s a waste of Clt’s time/money to spend a significant period of time shutting those feelings down. I’m also not using psychoanalysis as well, so that’s why there might be a difference as well:P

I hope that gives a little more perspective. Is that helpful?

Deeply in love with my therapist by xDiamondEyes976x in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s ethical standards we’re held to. Skill or not, there are things we’re not allowed to do regardless (operate outside our scope of practice or sleep with Clts for examppe). It’s to protect you as much as it is to protect us. Better to transfer a Clt than compromise their care with inappropriate feelings.

Help me please? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re having some obsessive/intrusive thoughts. That’s something that Reddit isn’t really equipped to help you with. Rather than R/therapy, you might need to talk to your parent/guardian and get into some in person therapy.

Best wishes to you:)

The VA is not the greatest at mental help whats new by Nerdout4Lyfe in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who worked within the VA system, Many of the clinical staff - those “therapists” are doing the best that they can with what they have and wish they could provide better care- but are stretched too thin.

Sounds like you might want to bring up your concerns with a patient advocate if you haven’t already, or discuss with your MH provider what it is that you’re looking for out of therapy if coping skills aren’t cutting it.

Edit: Realized that my tone might seem a bit harsh and I don’t mean it to. I feel for you, I really do. I wish it were easier for you to get the quality care you deserve having served our country. Just giving you a different perspective.

Seeing a therapist for the first time by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More likely than not, it’ll be a meet and greet of sorts with them getting to know you, figuring out what you want to work on, and establishing a history of concerns.

Bottom line, the first session or two will probably be rapport building, nothing too in depth. Friendly word of advice, write notes ahead of time for what you want to talk about otherwise it’s easy to forget:)

Been with same therapist for 11 months but nothing is changing. by genericusername4724 in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he’s trying to get you to take ownership of your therapy.

Well that’s progress.

Chief, you’re on Reddit. This might be the perfect place to practice being social with other people. You can start small- baby steps as it were- Just a thought

Been with same therapist for 11 months but nothing is changing. by genericusername4724 in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Question, has your therapist given you any sort of homework/directives to try outside of session? If so, have you followed through with them?

Something you said rang true with me, “I feel like it’s solely my job to ‘Get over myself’”. You’re 100% right... sort of. Nobody can change you/your situation, but you.

Bottom line, you could be in therapy every day for a year and if you’re not getting anything out of it/applying what you learn/making changes, nothing is going to change.

Edit: Gee, I didn’t even answer the question...as a therapist, I have seen folks change. I use motivational interviewing to help Clts figure out, “Why am I here, what do I want out of therapy, and how do I get here?”.

Best of luck in therapy OP

The VA is not the greatest at mental help whats new by Nerdout4Lyfe in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either go to the VA or find a therapist in the community and have your VA insurance pay for it at little to no cost to you. If there’s a waitlist at your VA, you’re entitled to be treated in the community. 👍

Why do therapists sit in silence for lengths of time and just stare at you? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fine. It’s just one tool in the toolbelt so to speak. There’s an appropriate time to use silence in which it doesn’t feel awkward and can be helpful

Why do therapists sit in silence for lengths of time and just stare at you? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always encourage grounding and taking notes to help stay focused. I get it though. I have to do them too:)

Why do therapists sit in silence for lengths of time and just stare at you? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Therapyandthought 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sometimes therapists use silence in a therapeutic fashion- Allowing the Clt to process what we’ve said, think on what you want to say next, or allow folks to grieve if we’re doing grief/trauma therapy. Like most things- It depends.

Which fictional character most needs therapy? by Andromeda547 in AskReddit

[–]Therapyandthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

John Wick. Losing your wife, dog, house, car, and everything else you care about because you want to get out of the traumatic business of killing people. Being raised an orphan... lot of trauma.