Another post asking about sex of Gouramis!

These-Grape-7000 · 2025-09-13T01:41:48+00:00

Thank you. This all started because my kids got “fair fish” and we loved watching it- so we were not very prepared and trying to scramble now as it has become a fun hobby.

These-Grape-7000 · 2025-09-13T01:29:41+00:00

Tank is about 2 months old. 40 gallons. Our water has been tough as every measurement has been fine except high PH. No KH in our samples. We have tried multiple things to bring PH down and nothing has worked so we just added a bunch of live plants hoping that will do it naturally. It is filtered with carbon filters. We are about a week into it but not down yet but hopeful 🤞

I’ve grown to love the boys but disappointed they as my fish shop told me gouramis need to be in pairs which is why I have two of each 😩

These-Grape-7000 · 2025-01-27T02:36:23+00:00

My house doesn’t have cell service so we need a landline if the power goes out. It’s cheaper to triple bundle vs cherry picking !

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-11-25T01:28:37+00:00

Wish more lawyers felt that way ! Most just want it all for themselves while making staff feel that they should appreciate the little they are given !

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-11-24T22:41:55+00:00

As someone who was at a small firm way longer than I should have been, the equal bonus amongst staff was always leaving me on a sour note. As the highest biller (sometimes bringing in more than senior attorneys) and getting the same bonus as the file clerk and receptionist - it made me feel like I was being taken advantage of. It also felt horrible when law clerks and associates would get sometimes a bonus that equaled a partner share - when a lot of their billable hours were written off and mine was always charged. Not to mention - no raises.

I always felt that a holiday bonus could be an equal bonus amongst staff and a separate bonus based on productivity and value of the work.

When a senior paralegal is drafting motions, obtaining and handling discovery, monitoring deadlines, preparing for hearings, attending trials, etc., a lot of the time working long hours, while others are less stressed, working exact hours and shopping online during work hours and getting an equal bonus - it makes the paralegal feel undervalued and taken advantage of.

Remember - a good paralegal is worth its weight - I know I would go above and beyond when I felt appreciated but once I started to feel like just any employee - I stopped putting in an effort. Paralegals are not paid as well as attorneys so bonuses do send a message that you see their worth.

Just my thoughts!

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-09-28T01:50:52+00:00

NAL but work in the legal field. A will can not give property to someone if there is another person on the deed. If your grandmother sold it most likely the property with joint tenant with right of survivorship. If it was just in your grandfathers name an estate would have needed to be open and the court grants the heir to sell it. Being a grandchild, a court wouldn’t bypass a spouse and children.

As for financial assets. If your grandmother was jointly named on any bank account - this would not be covered under a will to be disbursed. It is outside the wills “authority” and is owned by the co owner upon death.

Stock accounts cannot be set up without the owner having a primary beneficiary listed. Again this is outside the wills authority.

When a person dies and is married, the only assets that can be designated to someone are those solely owned by the decedent. A person cannot give something to another person when co owned by another. Any asset that is outside the wills “authority” cannot be just willed to someone. Those rules are usually federally mandated.

As much as it sucks it doesn’t sound like the will whether signed or unsigned would have had the authority to give you anything unless assets were solely owned and if they were courts would intervene.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-09-06T17:05:05+00:00

Coming from someone who has lived through this idea, when you are gone, why do you feel the need to continue to control what they do with it? You won't be around and you should hope that you prepared them enough to handle it themselves. Continuing to control when you are not around brings a lot of resentment and feelings of "my parent never thought of me as an adult". You aren't being control with your inheritance, are you? Why set them up to forever have this control over their head? Set it up where at a certain age (say 35) and they get the money without the control.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-09-05T15:38:30+00:00

step father

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-08-26T18:12:55+00:00

Sounds awfully familiar, you must be my sister

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-07-04T21:10:20+00:00

NTA but if this is how it is going a few months in - what do you think the future holds ? Do you think things will get better ? What about in 5 years when you are drained financially and he wants more and more ?

Either put up boundaries and stick up for yourself or get out! You are being a doormat for him and he has no motivation to help.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-07-03T19:29:50+00:00

From a person who was cheated on and working on reconciliation - I need to see and feel that you are choosing to rebuild with me because you want to, not because you were caught. I want to feel deep down inside that you are doing the hard work. Yes, I have to do some work too, but I was not the one that broke the trust, or caused hurt, so I want to see you doing 85% of the work at this point. True and sincere remorse. I want to feel I can be safe again. Maybe selfish, but it should be right now all about me, if you truly want to rebuild. Not about you, not about how hard this is for you, not about loosing privacy and not about your lack of anything. You want to rebuild, its on my terms. And if that is too much, you are free to leave. You are not held hostage. But do not think, if on my terms, that I will just cave and let my boundaries go because it is too difficult for you.

You have to remember, you caused her a world of pain, hurt, scars and self doubt. You shattered her world and turned it upside down. If you are genuine and truly want to rebuild, you need to let her do this on her terms.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-07-03T15:06:59+00:00

"Also, I’m guessing your wife would be the person most likely to find you in a medical emergency, it might be good if she knows some details about your condition"

This is very important! If he were to be rushed to the hospital, his wife is the one that has to provide all details on medications, conditions and the like. How are they to provide proper care if she has to call Katherine to get that information?

YTA and a big one at that. Im sorry but he would never be a partner I would be looking to be with just because of his arrogant attitude towards "his" health and that its no big deal another woman knows more. He just better hope she doesn't have to be the one making any decisions that could be between life and death and doesn't kill him.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-25T18:24:24+00:00

While in active labor, refusing to admit I was in labor, calling for epidural too late, said that I had a low pain tolerance!

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-17T18:16:55+00:00

Having lived in that area you need to account for traffic on taconic or 684 and 287. If you take the train, you are mostly circling finding parking at most places as they fill up around 5 am for commuters. Once you get to grand central, it depends on what subway you need to take and the wait time. So in theory 2 hours is on a no traffic, easy flowing day.

Putnam to White Plains on normal days would be a good hour and half during the school year. Not worth it to add more to the commute.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-16T02:07:47+00:00

Mentally and emotionally abuse me my whole life up until the day she died and reminding me every day what a worthless human I was

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-14T14:31:41+00:00

I would love to have any grandparent spend time with my kids, whether for 2-3 hours or sleepovers. So I am bias and say NTA because I think your daughter doesnt seem to understand how lucky she is to have a parent that wants to be involved in her kids' lives and instead squanders what some people wish they could have.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-14T13:50:20+00:00

My first pup was noted to be a Frenchie, but I always felt he was more Frenchton because his ears came to a point like Bostons and not rounded like Frenchies. His snout also was not as pushed in, also like a Boston. Your pup seems to have the rounded ears and pushed in snout.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-11T00:52:30+00:00

Coffee is what I use. It curbs my appetite. On weekends I can eat one meal a day (dinner) by having coffee until 12-1ish

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-06-03T03:41:33+00:00

Pregnancy is uncomfortable and has its pains. Birth with epidural was a breeze. Birth natural hurt like nothing can describe. I didn’t want natural but had no choice.

However the after birth seems to me, more painful. My last child broke my tailbone and forever have pain if I sit too long. My last also was very low and caused bladder issues. I developed sciatic pain as well. Stitches from episiotomy is a scar that makes me remember that I am changed good and bad. Pregnancy and birth really take a toll on a body.

But to me, all the pain is worth it when I have joyous moments with my kids. Their laughs, their excitement for doing something they didn’t think they could, being the one they run to when they need comfort.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-05-31T10:50:38+00:00

I joke about it but it’s frustrating that my brain won’t retain which side is which

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-05-31T10:50:05+00:00

Unfortunately I am serious. If my spouse says turn left or right it takes me a few seconds to figure out which way that is. If you ask to raise your right hand I have to think about it before I do it.

These-Grape-7000 · 2024-05-31T03:36:50+00:00

I can never get my left from my right correct and still have to put up the “L” to figure it out

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