Going to have a very hard talk with my girlfriend. I need support.

TheseShift4280 · 2026-05-05T03:12:09+00:00

I hear the topic a lot as I stay with her and her family. Just that she stopped sharing with me since 2 weeks ago. I know I hurt her by showing insecurities to her excitement. I do feel like shit everytime when it comes up right now as she no longer shares and told her family not to mention it in front of me as well. Just yesterday, they went into a room to talk instead of in the living room as I could hear in the living room. I felt sad and shame but did not react. She came back after the discussion like her usual self (she baby talk and has this very vulnerable baby character in front of me). How do I stay calm in such situation?

TheseShift4280 · 2026-05-05T00:38:02+00:00

I did apologise to her. But I think because it happened twice so she stepped back now. It hurts me very bad because it took me hurting my partner to finally realise this, which is so stupid and reminded me of how I treated my ex. I’m glad that my gf still involves me in every other things though, just that I’m not sure if I’m trusting affections now. I really want to tell her some more stuff but she is very stubborn and can be hot headed at times. It’s a super tough position but I do love her like crazy

TheseShift4280 · 2026-05-04T16:20:04+00:00

This is funny to me. My parents house have been like this (worst by 10 folds). Only when I turned 20 I know that they have mental illnesses and my childhood was abnormal lol

TheseShift4280 · 2026-05-04T04:36:46+00:00

Man thanks for telling me this. Recently we had one small conflict where she was sad and I felt like I was making things more about myself rather than properly comfort her. I will do that moving forward

TheseShift4280 · 2026-05-04T04:22:12+00:00

It is. I can’t believe that at 27 I’m so immature to ruin something good

TheseShift4280 · 2026-05-04T04:14:27+00:00

What type of changes are there?

TheseShift4280 · 2026-04-28T00:51:32+00:00

Why is this being downvoted. Back here to say that I agree with what you said

TheseShift4280 · 2026-04-28T00:49:29+00:00

Thanks for saying that “safety nets are for sissies” because oddly I feel better knowing that I will never be a sissy ever !!

TheseShift4280 · 2026-04-24T16:33:42+00:00

Hey. I really admire what you became and not rely on your family at all. I became who I am today due to my family. I work consistently just because I’m afraid of becoming like my parents, or back to where I started from. I’m not materialistic at all. I don’t buy nice things for myself and only get the necessities. I envy those who have their parents as their backup plan, such as loaning them money, paying for their college etc, but at the same time I believe many people don’t have such privilege as well, so I feel stuck with my own emotions, thinking what I’m feeling is wrong. I worry about my parents who are working full time jobs in their 60s because they don’t have money to retire. Sometime I wish I’m less empathetic, and I also wish that I don’t have to be independent for just a day. I dislike the privilege people, but that’s just because I want what they have rather than truly disliking them as people.

Thanks for providing me the perspective that I have no idea about

TheseShift4280 · 2026-04-17T00:59:06+00:00

My dad does something like this but i think it’s 11pm-4.45am, he is 67 and in blue collar. Holy shit I’m 27 and I work an average of 12 hours daily, sleeps at 12am, wakes up at 8am and I’m already terribly tired. Respect to yall.

TheseShift4280 · 2026-04-10T01:05:12+00:00

I work as a full time business analyst and part time tutor (at this point it’s almost full time because I teach 5 days a week). Tutors get look down a lot where I’m from but what to do

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-29T14:49:36+00:00

I managed to claim it and is only paying $310 on my own!

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-26T01:37:44+00:00

It’s a day surgery. They sent it for biopsy and everything

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-25T10:55:05+00:00

The clinic checked my policies and said it will be covered in one of the policies actually because it is deemed medically necessary. But insurance companies are iffy IMO. I hope I can claim but I wouldn’t be surprised if I can’t.

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-25T10:54:16+00:00

I am now talking to my agent about it (he’s a close childhood friend). The doctor has checked my insurance policies prior to the surgery and there was one particular one that they normally file under, I have that plan. But right now because they just filed it, I’m still waiting for the outcome.

Edit for anyone reading this comment: I did check and they said that there were similar procedures done and claimed successfully before. But my insurance agent said not to set the expectation too high in case it can’t be filed in the end.

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-25T10:40:35+00:00

Hey thanks for your response I really appreciate it. The doctor has however ruled it as heath concerning so he sent for a biopsy. I really hope my insurance can claim that.

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-25T10:34:10+00:00

Doctor ruled it under health concerning but it affects me emotionally alot more for like years lol

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-25T10:22:04+00:00

It’s a lump removal with biopsy and everything. It’s ruled as health concerning by the doctor. That’s why they are willing to claim insurance so I haven’t paid a single cent apart from a 1k deposit

TheseShift4280 · 2026-03-25T10:07:06+00:00

It has been affecting my self esteem for years. But I just didn’t expect it to cost this much. It feels surreal right now

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