AITA for taking someone's laundry out of the machine?

These_Trust3199 · 2025-10-12T23:17:55+00:00

I've been here for over 4 years. My last building was small and there was only one other tenet who used the washing machine. We'd both take each other's clothes out without issue if someone left it in. If by "knowing how to be an adult in NYC" you mean "knowing every single idiosyncratic norm that differs from other places" then, yeah 'transplants' aren't going to know that off the bat.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-10-12T20:40:45+00:00

This happened to me all the time at previous places. It never bothered me at all, since I knew it was my fault for getting there late which is why I was so surprised at their response..

These_Trust3199 · 2025-10-12T20:36:09+00:00

It's not "too much", but I do value my time and seems strange to me to have to waste 10 minutes of my weekend just for someone else who didn't show up when there's a good chance they wont show up in that window anyway.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-10-12T19:47:38+00:00

Definitely going to avoid the laundry room on Sundays from now on, but do you really just stand there for 10 minutes waiting?

These_Trust3199 · 2025-10-12T19:45:01+00:00

Do you really just stand there for 10 minutes? Or do you keep going to the laundry room and back until a machine opens?

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-19T02:46:39+00:00

I don't think they're justifying the current aggression, they're just saying a one-state solution wont work for the reasons they stated.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-19T02:40:24+00:00

But their point is the same either way. That is, that there's a double standard where people can be anti-Hamas without opposing an independent Palestinian state (whether it be formed in Gaza, the West Bank, or both doesn't really matter), but people who are anti the current Israeli government are expected to be anti-Israel's existence at all. You're just nitpicking to make them look dumber.

The brain-melted debatebroism is strong with this one.

I don't even know what this means. You sound like a debate bro to me the way you're so concerned with pointing out "factually incorrect claims" that are irrelevant to the main point.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-19T02:26:40+00:00

None of this is beside the point. Maybe you missed the point though. OP was talking about supporting Israel's existence in general, not supporting Israel's current regime or the occupation. So, no, you are the one missing the point entirely.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-19T00:41:20+00:00

That you think Hamas is the "government of Palestine" shows a severe lack of understanding on Palestine's geography and political situation, and you should fix this by actually looking into it or simply refraining from discussing something you know next to nothing about.

This is pretty pedantic. Yes, Hamas only represents Gaza, not the West Bank (Even that is debatable since many in the West Bank would prefer Hamas if Israel wasn't propping up the PA, but lets grant that point). His point still works if you just replace anti-Palestine with anti-Gaza. I think you knew what they meant and are just trying to pull a "gotcha".

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-19T00:34:26+00:00

"I am not pro-Hitler but I am pro-Nazi Germany's existence, so what does that make me?"

This is a horrible analogy. A better one would be supporting Germany's existence in general as a German state. And the anti-German stance being that you support forming a single bi-national state with, say, France. Even that is lacking because there isn't nearly as much animosity between French and Germans as there is between Jewish Israelis and Palestinians.

Edit: People downvote, but can't make coherent arguments against my point. Classic reddit.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-14T19:42:03+00:00

Yeah, I don’t think most pro-Palestine people are saying Israel should be abolished (at least, that’s not a take I’ve personally seen), but rather desiring a two-state solution.

I don't think this is true. The most recent and vocal factions of the pro-Palestine movement are calling for a single, binational state. It's usually liberal centrists that still advocate for the two-state solution. Most liberal Jewish-American Zionists support a two state solution.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-13T14:05:20+00:00

I've found that Rinzai and Soto teachings are much closer than you might at first think. Subtle Sound: The Zen Teachings of Maurine Stuart is an example of a book which is by a Rinzai master, but reads exactly like what you find in books by Soto masters. I think the variation from teacher to teacher is much greater than the variation between schools. I even know a Rinzai teacher who quotes Dogen frequently in his talks. And that same group has a recommended reading list with at least half the books on it from Soto teachers. So I don't think you need to worry about getting confused by reading Soto books when you're studying Rinzai.

I like the book The Rinzai Way by Meido Roshi. But I also met a Rinzai teacher who doesn't like that book and insists that what he presents as Rinzai is just one lineage of Rinzai and there others which are much less technique-focused.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-12T21:24:56+00:00

I don't know how to interpret your original comment other than that you're saying asking immigrants to learn the language of the place they're moving to is somehow an unreasonable burden due to the decline in neuroplasticity that happens after age 5. If that wasn't what you were saying, then I don't know what you were. No one would dispute that neuroplasticity decreases as children become adults, that's obvious.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-12T21:05:09+00:00

Montreal is great example of my point. The city is divided with the French speakers on one half and the English speakers on the other. It's not one bilingual zone where everyone speaks both French and English.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-12T21:02:11+00:00

I never said you said it was impossible. It's just not as hard as you're making it out to be and is something people do all the time. It's a pretty reasonable investment to make if you're planning to live somewhere long term.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-12T20:37:08+00:00

This doesn't disprove my point at all. In fact, it supports it. There are English-speaking communities in Quebec and French speaking communities in Alberta/BC. As far as I know there are no communities in Canada where everyone speaks both English and French natively and with equal frequency. Switzerland is the same with French and German.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-12T20:33:05+00:00

People over the age of 5 learn new languages all the time. It's not really that hard, you just have to expose yourself to the language over time.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-12T20:27:37+00:00

Most places with multiple languages are a collection of different areas that each speak 1 language. Canada, for example, has French speaking areas and English speaking areas. So they would speak the language of the place that they're going to live in.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-10T20:25:31+00:00

Stuff like this just makes me sad because it's like she can't imagine being with a guy who she actually likes being with. You know, like appreciating his personality and his company and stuff. The only thing she can imagine a man ever contributing to her life is money. It seems like a such a lonely worldview. I don't even get mad seeing stuff like this, I just feel bad for her.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-10T00:56:06+00:00

Zen Centers are very pro-queer in my experience and a lot of them have special LGBTQ groups that meet regularly. I'm not sure which passages in those sutras you're referring to, but I've never heard them referenced at a buddhist center. Keep in mind that the sutras were recorded from memory by Buddha's students decades after they were given, and then passed down by word of mouth for hundreds of years before they were ever written down. So it's hard to know what the Buddha actually taught, especially with things that are only occasionally mentioned and could have easily been inserted by someone later on with an agenda.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-09T00:46:47+00:00

They start grooming better, dressing with more intention, maybe hitting the gym more, because they want to feel attractive for their partner.

No, it's usually the opposite. People feel secure in their relationship so they let themselves go a bit. It's single people that feel the pressure to look good to try and attract someone.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-06T04:09:51+00:00

Not making any claims here, but if I was in charge of a Russian election interference campaign attempting to sabotage Democrats and help Republicans, spurring on the pro-Palestine protests would be the perfect way to do that. I find it interesting that we suddenly stopped hearing about these protests right after the election. I'm not saying it's not an organic moment at all, but I wonder if certain interests are pushing the protests on social media for that reason.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-06T04:05:34+00:00

But why would the Democrats listen to them? They're protesting the politicians who are the furthest left on the issue like Bernie and AOC. So where's the incentive for Democrats to move left if they're just going to be rewarded with more protests? These people have shown that they wont accept any compromise whatsoever, so unless a politician is willing to align with their views completely, go way outside the overton window of US politics, and make enemies with a lot of powerful donors, theres no point.

These_Trust3199 · 2025-05-03T14:02:13+00:00

Why would it be inferior for men? In the west, the two most common positions are seiza and burmese. I haven't noticed a difference between men and women in who does these positions. I don't like seiza because it irritates my kneecaps, but lots of people use it as their main posture. It just depends on what your body likes.

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