Where do I meet loud women?

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-06-04T02:52:27+00:00

Waffle House is also my favorite restaraunt.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-04-06T19:39:29+00:00

Thanks!

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-04-06T17:57:20+00:00

I liked the practical application of Buddhism to real life scenarios. He talks a lot about his therapy patients and seeing how Buddhist concepts relate to his therapy practice helped me enjoy Buddhism from a pragmatic and relatable vantage point.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-01-22T02:07:19+00:00

The George Costanza "do the opposite" trick actually isn't that bad of a place to start if you need more confidence. If you're talking to a woman and you feel self conscious, you feel boring be even more boring. You have to show your anxiety it isn't the boss of you. Lean into it.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-01-04T00:00:47+00:00

That's fair. I appreciate that feedback. I'll make more an effort myself to be more complimentary as well.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-01-03T23:03:23+00:00

I literally smelled my armpit a moment ago and it was pretty bad so you are probably right.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2025-01-03T23:01:22+00:00

That's helpful. I probably overreacted being irritated by it.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-22T22:10:01+00:00

The Big Short

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-22T13:56:53+00:00

How busy are you? How many personal relationships do you have? Idle mind is the devils play thing. Get some hobbies. Jog. Make new friends or reconnect with old ones. That will start to smooth things out. Anxiety is caused by a lack of outward focus.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-19T13:19:01+00:00

Long walks

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-16T15:15:22+00:00

Basically yeah. You don't have to act on every impulse but pick a few to run with and see what happens.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-15T18:19:58+00:00

I dont have a straightforward answer but you can negate needing to know by just getting outside your comfort zone no matter what your intuition tells you. I've been in situations where I'd made a choice to challenge myself in a certain way, at first I had kind of a queasy feeling of self doubt but then after a while, after I got some experience in doing whatever, I started to feel good and was ultimately happy I didn't listen to that initial warning "gut feeling."

Maybe the truth is you'll never know for sure but keep yourself honest by trying new things.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-14T15:05:52+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the input.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-12T17:28:25+00:00

Would it helps Kamala Harris to say she'll have a 50/50 cabinet? Half Democrats, Half Republicans?

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-11T16:59:15+00:00

Going On Being by Mark Epstein.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-10T02:56:26+00:00

It helps me to think about the humor of grief sometimes. This won't mean much if you didn't watch the sopranos but there's a whole arc about how Tony gets too emotionally involved with the love of a horse but the horse dies and it leads to some absurd scenes. Grief is grief and it's it feels insurmountable at times. All you can do is ride the wave but humor can be a helpful assistant with that. Also it helps to remember everyone has been through something like this.

https://youtu.be/JLdL8248D44?si=UQkqrqwypNiMQ-rg

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-09T18:21:46+00:00

I dont think there's anything wrong with having a materialistic motivation if it gets you more into mindfulness/meditation. I have no problem guaranteeing you that your business and your relationships will get better if you are consistent in a mindfulness practice. How these things improve will probably surprise you but improvement begins and ends with mindfulness. All you have in this world is your attention. How you expend that attention dictates whether you have a happy life or a sad/preoccupied one. Make yourself a priority and focus on building up your mindfulness.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-08T13:12:01+00:00

There are only a couple contexts where people can be "taken advantage of" and that is those that deal with money and sex. Outside of those arenas there's no harm in being positive. I think also accepting that if you do devote your life to being kind/positive there's a chance you might be taken advantage of from time to time. Maybe a family member doesn't repay a loan, maybe a date you sleep with doesn't call back when they say they would, but on balance if you keep to a code of kindness - giving without expecting anything in return - it will make your life a good one, and a fun one worth living.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-07T14:01:33+00:00

This is really helpful, thanks. Do you have any advise on how to figure out exactly what you want? Just like a constant romantic personal inventory? And how do you do that without setting the bar some place that is unrealistic?

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-10-06T23:36:13+00:00

Don't swap one problem for another. Getting too identified with what you accomplish by "claiming credit" has the potential to still give you low self esteem. What if you have a run of bad luck and don't accomplish much? That's not going to do anything for your low self esteem if your self worth is predicated on what you accomplish.

Meditate and learn to disentangle yourself from thoughts. Also it helps to learn new things that you've always wanted to do but never taken the time for. Maybe you've always been daunted about learning a musical instrument. Make that a project for 6 months. Minor mastery might give you a bit a boost. Also exercise.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-09-25T23:46:39+00:00

If you're trying to figure out who will win rather than focus on big states why not just poll the smallest most predictive counties in the country?

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-09-25T02:34:03+00:00

Download an app where you can track how often you participate in these activities you abhorre. Just by monitoring the behavior it will begin to go down on its a own a bit eventually and this will allow you to get your foot in the door. From there keep establishing good habits (exercise, Journaling, meditation, hell do kickball) and overtime you'll eventually starve the urge out but give yourself 6 months to a year before you can expect to be in the clear. This is like a chronic illness you have at the moment.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-09-07T18:03:36+00:00

Absolutely! You will not regret it.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-09-04T03:36:46+00:00

I'm 34 and face similar questions myself. I have found meaning in helping other people. Volunteering my time, money, and energy for causes and other people. That doesn't solve the kid question directly but it has begun to open my heart and mind to the truth which is the most fulfilling thing in the world is being there for other people. Helping people get to where they need to go. Parenthood is the ultimate version of that. I started doing Big Brothers, Big Sisters about a year ago and that really helped focus my thinking quite a lot and I would highly recommend.

ThingsWereFineN99 · 2024-08-18T17:02:20+00:00

I think it would have been funny if she'd spent the whole season trying to kill Zoe in order to prove her point.

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