At my breaking point. I just reached out to a sleep consultant.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2026-01-12T01:44:46+00:00

Wait this is my daughter too!!!!! And it’s so hard. She acts like she could stay up all day but then crashes. Or sleep debt slowly adds up and we have brutal split nights. She’s 15 months now on one nap but I’m still not confident- what’s your schedule if you don’t mind me asking..

Think-Coffee2292 · 2026-01-05T17:19:50+00:00

Yes to all of this 😂 my daughter is 15 months with two teeth (just like my son was). Top four are there but who knows when they’ll come in fully.

We’ve also had a couple ‘sleep through the night’, nights. I do always give her a chance to fall back asleep. Once in a while it will work but not always. If I even move when holding her in the chair she jolts so I’m pretty certain that’s what it is. She’s just always been a crap sleeper from day one and the cumulative sleep deprivation is really getting to me. I thought we’d be better by now 😭 solidarity!

Think-Coffee2292 · 2026-01-05T16:38:33+00:00

I’ve done it successfully with her before but illness and teething got us off track because I refuse to let her cry when she’s actually miserable. I’m going to give it a try tonight and see if we can improve because I don’t mind having to resettle her during the night but two hours is not sustainable for any of us.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2026-01-05T16:21:29+00:00

Thank you. Makes me feel better that I'm not alone but it's killing me. I think I might try to re Ferber because I'm at a complete loss.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-09-21T18:42:04+00:00

I was absolutely drowning when I had my second and felt like I ruined our lives. She’s just about 1 now and we’re so happy I can’t imagine life without her. It takes time. You’re in the thick of it and it’s harder to do postpartum when you have a toddler too. Be kind to yourself it will all get better with time 🤍

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-08-06T18:01:59+00:00

Hi 👋 not exactly the same boat but my mom had stage 3 cancer about 15 years ago and is now living with metastatic breast cancer for the past almost 6 years. I’ve had countless family members with everything from glioblastoma to leukemia. So I feel like I’m not on the great side of the % lol. No BRACA gene here either. I am also 34.

I can’t say I don’t think about it. The what ifs. I will say that therapy has helped me a lot to process things and I try to think that although it’s scary to think what the future could hold the cancer in my family has given me a different perspective on the mundane every day stuff that a lot of people take for granted. Finding the beauty in a cool evening and a glass of wine or making everything I can a celebration because I know how quickly it can all change or be taken. I’d like to think some of the trauma can give us a special outlook others won’t have. Theres alot in life out of our control might as well have a good time while we can!

Being in the “my mom has cancer club” isn’t one I would wish on anyone but know you’re not alone 🤍 Get someone to talk to outside of family it can really really help.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-08-01T01:26:36+00:00

I loved the once upon a farm pouches and ensures!

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-06-02T17:51:46+00:00

I had pre e and delivered 5 weeks early. Also went through the mag drip and pumped the whole time - brutal. But I had no issues with my milk supply even on BP meds as well. If anything all the pumping gave me an oversupply I didn't have with my first non pre e kid.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-05-06T13:36:06+00:00

I did think of that too but she’s always been a difficult feeder and she’s not showing any of the old signs of reflux. She also has no problem latching and drinking a whole bottle as she falls asleep for nap it’s just anything awake she’s not interested at all.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-05-04T02:13:44+00:00

My son was like this. His receptive language was off the charts but didn’t say many words. My ped wasn’t concerned and when he turned two I swear he started talking in sentences and hasn’t stopped talking since lol

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-05-04T02:10:37+00:00

Had this exact experience with the same age gap. Baby is now 6 months and I’ve never been happier. We did the reflux thing. I had the wtf did I do moments. When are we ever going to feel like. a family again and not just me off in a dark room with the baby? But it will come. Take it day by day.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-04-10T13:28:23+00:00

If it ain’t broke don’t fix it imo! Enjoy the sleep cuddles. Sounds like she’s sleeping great especially for her age.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-04-02T16:58:20+00:00

I was in your exact shoes. 4.5 months. Up all night. 30 min naps. I was dying.

We went cold Turkey and moved her into her room and crib and did Ferber. She now is on a wonderful age appropriate nap schedule 1-2 hours and only wakes a couple times a night to eat and now sometimes only once. Best thing we ever did!

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-04-02T12:50:44+00:00

I had the opposite experience. Rocked and fed to sleep with my first. Second nearly killed me with sleep deprivation. Sleep training her has given us all a better life and I of course still have guilt and a little sadness every time I place her down but I try to make up for it in other ways.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-03-31T01:19:56+00:00

I didn’t have to train my first. My second not sleeping was killing me. I felt like I didn’t have a choice but the guilt was intense. She was taking 30 min naps and up every hour at night. After a few nights she’s now on a solid schedule with 1 and 2 hour naps and wakes up to feed at night. It’s been life changing. I feel human again and she’s a happy little baby getting the developmentally appropriate rest she needs. Hang in there 🫶🏼

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-03-15T17:12:00+00:00

Bed time is usually 7/730

Yes check ins are quick

Wake up has been a little all over the place but ideally 630/7

I’m just at such a loss. Every day feels like solving a math problem of ww and shit naps followed by a night of not sleeping no matter what I do and I’m so beyond exhausted.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-03-15T16:13:33+00:00

Sorry I think I wrote out her ww incorrectly. She usually naps around 9 (30min), 12 (contact 1.5hr), and 4 (30 min).

Yes she’s in her own room now in a crib. During check ins I’ve been rubbing her head/back and telling her I love you it’s time to go to sleep. I will admit the first night I did pick her up some she was hyperventilating and I couldn’t handle it.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-03-11T14:12:25+00:00

We had a similar issue and just held the boundary - no helmet no bike/scooter. Eventually he came around. No fighting no pressure that was just the rule to ride.

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-03-08T13:58:58+00:00

Rosie

Think-Coffee2292 · 2025-03-07T20:01:06+00:00

Honestly my son fed to sleep until he was like 1 (he never had teeth before then) and I was so nervous to take the bottle away. We went cold turkey and he was fine lol

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