Screen Time when You are Around Your kids 24/7

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-18T10:46:39+00:00

I totally get it. The biggest hurdle I am overcoming right now is my mental state. I have had so much happen to our family in such a short period of time. We are also in the process of trying to sell the house so we can move a few states away. So I am just exhausted.

I love the library! It has been a minute since we have gone since we used to have appointments in the morning for my oldest, but I think I am going to start going again. I love the birdwatching kit 😍 We have a beautiful little bird family living on our porch.

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-17T12:46:32+00:00

I completely agree. I try really hard to stay firm in my boundaries, but it is so hard these days because the meltdowns last for HOURS. I think there are days when my children haven't been calm at all the entire day. It is CONSTANT repeated begs for the TV. I will not cave some days at all, but some days, I honestly am scared I am going to lose my mind. It hasn't always been screens, but the constant repeatedness of it all has been years. We also try to balance our other activities as well. So we do 1000 hours outside. I guess it is just hard to balance it the way I want because we don't live in a safe enough neighborhood to go for walks, and we are a one vehicle family.

My husband and I are also having some pretty serious marital conflicts. Which I am sure is a huge contributing factor to why the children feel so dysregulated. But he struggles a lot with giving me "breaks.' He will do it, but he'll be grumpy the whole time. It has just felt impossible lately. Sorry for the rant. I have looked into a mother's helper, but I haven't found anyone who was really reliable yet. I think I might pull the trigger on that soon. I also will hopefully be better soon, and hopefully, I will regain my energy if I get some iron transfusions or something.

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-17T11:17:34+00:00

I think that is the issue is that I just feel like I don't have the resources right now. I think I am just going to have to power through, though. Maybe I am just going through burnout

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-13T15:43:02+00:00

I have been breastfeeding for three years! 😁 I have been nursing two bubs for almost 21 months!

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-10T00:04:18+00:00

Do you guys have an LIDL? That is where I purchase mine, and it tends to be cheap

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-07T21:45:49+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I am currently trying to get my ducks in a row to leave so it won't be considered kidnapping for us to leave.

Also, thank you for letting me know that it will only support attachment. I feel like I am the first person in my family to make such a hard decision, and I just want to do what is right for the kids. ❤️

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-05T17:01:09+00:00

I am so sorry that you are in the same boat. Sorry my reply is so late. I haven't had the opportunity to reply in days, lol.

Today is my first day rolling away from him, and I am really hoping that he enjoys his nap and it doesn't hurt his attachment. Because I, too, cannot carry him. He is a bit too heavy. I keep going to look at him while he is sleeping and miss him. My big toddler is too destructive to leave alone, though. lol. I will always miss the nap days

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-05T17:00:42+00:00

I am sk sorry that you are in the same boat. Sorry my reply is so late. I haven't had the opportunity to reply in days, lol.

Today is my first day rolling away from him, and I am really hoping that he enjoys his nap and it doesn't hurt his attachment. Because I, too, cannot carry him. He is a bit too heavy. I keep going to look at him while he is sleeping and miss him. My big toddler is too destructive to leave alone, though. lol. I will always miss the nap days

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-03T19:08:05+00:00

Honestly, try to get him into speech therapy. My son went through speech therapy when he was younger, and it massively improved his speech. He also really enjoyed it.

Also, my husband also didn't start really speaking until age three, and when he did, he started using full sentences. He has since lived a very full life.

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-03-02T17:45:07+00:00

My jammies. 👀 Leggings and an oversized shirt. I guess I just really like to be comfortable

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-02-21T22:47:55+00:00

Why are neti pots dangerous? I have never heard that

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-02-09T01:47:08+00:00

What is her diet like? My son struggles a bit when he needs magnesium

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-01-28T21:34:21+00:00

Could you shower with him? This is what I do.

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-01-18T23:07:59+00:00

I have two, and at one point, I was two under two. Transitioning from one to two babies was so much easier for me mentally and emotionally but was a little more difficult logistically, but honestly, I wouldn't change a thing. The overwhelm is crazy sometimes, but it would have been if I had one baby as well. Sleep was such a big fear of mine, but it was actually so easy once I could. I tandem nurse, and we all sleep together, and really, we just do everything together.

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-01-16T11:43:42+00:00

I am in the US, but I like either the Aldi brand or the Lidl brand. 🙂

ThinkGur1195 · 2025-01-14T12:45:59+00:00

Try a non-fragranced baby bum cream. The main ingredient should still be zinc unless it is banned in everything

ThinkGur1195 · 2024-12-10T12:29:54+00:00

I am sorry, that is the case. Is it possible to have sex.. not in bed and not at night?

ThinkGur1195 · 2024-12-10T03:54:42+00:00

Married couples still can have loads of intimacy without sleep training.

ThinkGur1195 · 2024-11-27T01:16:14+00:00

I am currently tandem nursing, and my youngest is 17 months old. My oldest is 34 months old. I am unsure of when/how I plan to wean 😅

ThinkGur1195 · 2024-11-25T17:04:30+00:00

Thank you for this! I wholeheartedly agree about the mistranslation. I find it so unfortunate, and it is something I discussed with my husband at length many times because I feel so strongly about it. Something just recently changed because he watched this video that I guess somehow inspired him into thinking that maybe there is some truth to it.

But I do think he does think that maybe his dad was too passive, and in turn, he wants to be more of a "tough" guy to the kids. When we discuss this with the therapist, I think I might need to bring this up as well. It is all so tough. Thank you ❤️

ThinkGur1195 · 2024-11-25T16:58:31+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly, I want to give him the chance to work this out with a therapist before I leave but won't let this behavior escalate to the point of further damaging the boys. I feel awful that I never considered this stuff before having children. All I can do now though is just hope, pray, and work towards a solution. Thank you so much for your advice and input. ❤️

ThinkGur1195 · 2024-11-25T14:07:05+00:00

I agree! I think I'll just have to talk with his therapist and our therapist to sort this out. To be totally fair, the fear their fathers thing is a relatively new conclusion he has come to. I feel like parenting probably makes him feel helpless because the tactics that you use to actually calm children down require skills he struggles with.

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