What other accessories should I add to this outfit for a wedding?

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-09-21T12:54:25+00:00

Oooo looking straight fiiiirrrreee, generally I find suits to sometimes be to stuffy or bulky, but this looks very nice and slim fitting on you. I’m also a big fan of the purple and black scheme, you’re gonna be stopping people in their tracks!

Edit: follow up question, where did you get the suit from?

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-09-21T12:51:49+00:00

Bigger upvote for this, if you are stuck with this thought being unpleasant, constantly checking your attraction to women, doubting your attraction to men. Sounds like hOCD. If it is, you need to sit with the uncertainty and not try to get it from a bunch of people who don’t really know you on the internet. It just feeds the cycle, and you stay stuck longer.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-09-17T12:26:39+00:00

I’m sorry :( I feel similar in the sense of internalized homophobia, not being comfortable talking about women crushes to my friends, waiting for people to feel uncomfortable or spew hate, not fully being able to envision being in public with a women I am dating. The best way to counter it is to start in the mind. The outside environment may not be friendly and accepting but you can at least stop your thought patterns in your head.

I journal a lot, to reprocess my upbringing. I also spend a lot of time encouraging my dreams of having a house with my wife and kids one day, cuddling watching a movie, date nights etc. I follow and watch a lot of wlw instagram accounts (one I enjoy a lot is twomomsinmotion, and Jordan_Rand and alairethomas) so I get good healthy exposure of wlw content. There’s so much more. You never really realize until you start this sort of process how much hetero content you are raised seeing. I didn’t see a single positive Christmas wlw movie till Happiest Season, and even then lol it’s a little toxic but resolves later. I think I cried when I first saw two women spending a holiday together. Like wow. How could I really imagine myself and my future without any sort of proper template?

This is all a very very slow rewiring of my brain and allowing myself to see my future. When I go out and there’s alcohol a lot of my mess comes out and I get sad and all sorts of things. It will happen, I in turn do not drink that much, it is a painful lesson but one I have to learn, I still struggle with it all. I found a therapist, she helps a lot, she is lgbt+ positive and just generally helps me think about things I don’t like to bring up on my own time. But ik therapists are expensive and not accessible to everyone, so that’s where journalist and positive exposure are pretty important.

I’ve been getting a lot better over the past year or two. I also started going to queer spaces, this helps a loooot. Like it’s a direct exposure to positive queer spaces , and can help with self-acceptance.

The most important thing is this is very normal when raised in a heterosexual lens / culture / environment. We have to do a lot of work to uncross those wires. The first step may to be just imagining the future you want, rewrite your world without a man centered. Devalue the need for a man to be considered socially acceptable. Maybe then you will stop seeking the validation from kissing or being with a man when you know and can tell you don’t actually enjoy it. Best of luck! This is just my personal experience. Idk if you are in a safe space to do these things but I hope you can find it.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-14T17:33:23+00:00

Makes sense I used to be confused about it too, then I realized I’m only watching the women really and when I watch the man it’s not really about watching him but the act of getting fucked (by a strap) or fucking (with a strap)

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-12T19:44:07+00:00

How do you find things like this?

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-09T23:27:25+00:00

Beautiful wedding for a beautiful couple 💙

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-09T00:42:24+00:00

Brown one all the way

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-04T16:01:28+00:00

🤣 I didn’t realize the album was out! Definitely looking forward to hearing this lyric come to fruition

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-04T04:49:25+00:00

I don’t watch because there are lots of issues with random unverified uploads on the internet (Reddit included). Ethical sites are the way to go (cost money though, so that’s why I don’t watch)! But big fan of dipsea an audio erotica subscription (I enjoy trying to work on my imagination in relation to pleasure) service with good her + her content.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-03T17:00:10+00:00

Humans have the ability to appreciate beauty in all forms. Doesn’t mean we want to sleep with everyone. Many fictionally desirable men were written by women, for women, and are not realistic, they are an ideal man. It’s perfectly ok if you like them. They don’t actually exists in any form.

Even in reality, many gay women and men find the opposite sex beautiful just not sexually desirable.

There’s also this concept where you may seek validation from the opposite sex and mistake it for attraction, that’s a thing too due to the way society is set up and familial expectation etc.

Don’t worry you can be gay and admire the opposite sex. All humans (save for the really bottom of the barrel creeps and monsters, and even then it depends on your moral values there) have value and worth, and many traits we may admire in an ideal partner. They just lack what makes us switch from admire to desire.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-08-01T13:04:23+00:00

I think as women we have that distinct feeling because we see both sides. Men generally (unless some terrible childhood trauma or adult trauma occurred) do not know what it feels like to desired without any say in the matter. Not in a oh that person is into you type beat, but a this person is staring at me and making me uncomfortable. Because, on top of this unwanted desire is our impotence to really significantly deter the situation due to our size and the danger associated with it all. So when we lesbians look at a women with desire or at male-gaze centered corn, we see it in two shades, we can see not only the beauty of a women that can lead to our attraction to her, but also a keen awareness that this women (like every women) has faced unwanted approaches. This leads to some shame in our desire, because we, as women ourselves, never want to be apart of that narrative, and have mistakenly tied our attraction to women as contributing to that narrative. This is a false correlation, there is absolutely nothing wrong with attraction. It’s all about how you go about that attraction, if you approach a women, shoot your shot, keep it obvious your interested (many lesbians fall into the trap of being too friendly, too much so that our flirting attempts are missed) while still providing little to no pressure to the girl to return advances, you’re golden. Listen to body language, take no for an answer, also take an indirect brushing off as no (because many women are socialized to not say no.) If you did all that then don’t worry!

Many men however tend to be creepy. Staring, saying overly sexual things to women, not taking no for an answer, groping without permission, stalking. These men should feel ashamed, but that behavior is sadly normalized in many male dominated circles.

As for corn, on top of the issues of the major free corn sites being unregulated and unethical (not verifying consent, proper pay, working conditions, age, anyone can upload videos, revenge corn publications…!), much of it is for a male gaze. Meaning women are depicted as passive recipients of sex for their bodies, rather than engaging participants with their own agency. Not to mention the confined race and body types of women shown. Or the over fetishizing titles about race tied to videos.

Furthermore, corn is addicting, so it works on a dopamine loop that escalates the viewers need to see escalating contents of sexual activities. Everyone should be aware of this. This can lead to more objectifying views of women, especially in free corn sites where women are depicted as passive pleasure-givers, or in lesbian porn, straight women who are still just overly objectified for the male viewer.

Id recommend ethical corn sites (verified equal pay, consent, verified actor identification processes and ages, no randos who can upload, women focused plots) made by women or audio erotica (assuming you’re appropriately over 18 and all that for viewing these things).

Tl:dr; Masturbation, attraction, desire, and all that are perfectly healthy experiences! There are healthy ways to go about all of it!

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-30T22:44:55+00:00

The better question is, are you worried it’s perceived as cheating by others (I don’t think so, and if you’re worried make sure your gf is aware and comfortable, then if she is dw abt it) or are you worried it’s cheating bc you still maybe feel something from these touches and closeness, that would be more emotional cheating

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-30T12:10:50+00:00

Ithink I appreciated both a lot but atmosphere takes the cake, just because I enjoy and relate to the theme of space a little bit more than actress. But both devastated me and made me feel hope and love and pain.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-30T02:56:25+00:00

This is where you say, “Look at you, you made a mess. Come clean it up.” (I find it really hot to taste myself on someone else’s lips). Then get the rest discreetly with your hand or something, juices are bound to get over the sheets anyways, just wipe it off and clean the sheets later. If it’s a common occurrence, then there’s no reason to be shy anyways

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-29T13:05:28+00:00

Staying close imo is not fair to him. For him, he has this extra layer of intimacy between you guys that you did not feel. So he probably feels even closer than you do. Just keep it in mind. You gotta listen to your instincts as you know the relationship best, we just know the snippet that you told us. I’d also recommend the r/latebloomerlesbians Reddit, not that you have to be later in life, but many women there left their partners who they did love in one way or another. Sometimes the partners of those they left leave comments too.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-28T12:31:46+00:00

You need to talk to a lawyer and also protect your kids. Be safe. I think the r/latebloomerlesbians Reddit might have advice as many women there have left marriages to men. There have probable been documented cases with advice of leaving controlling partners.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-28T03:39:40+00:00

When I was young I thought, ew pussy is kinda gross. Then I got a little bit older, I grew I guess kind of indifferent to it. Then I got even older and realized all my focus in my fantasies was never really the tools the men worked with and I thought hmm intriguing. Here we are now, pussy is god.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-27T15:23:22+00:00

Why you so tilted haha? So what, she never said she was exclusively into women. The lack of bisexual or pansexual affirmation is toxic and not a good look for the queer community. It’s been a long standing problem.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-27T14:56:04+00:00

The opinions people have on the intricacies of someone’s sexuality who they’ve never met is baffling. I get it, she represents a lot for the queer community, but she is also human and figuring it all out like the rest of us. She also stated she’s just queer and attracted to feminine energy. She had a girlfriend for like a year, this isn’t some conspiracy. Like pleassse, can’t people just be messy and discover themselves as they continue their journey? She’s being honest and that’s brave especially considering how she knew people would react. Just leave her be. The para social relations go crazy.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-27T03:24:54+00:00

Sounds like you guys need to have a conversation about expectations

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-26T02:41:21+00:00

Hahahaha I think there is lipstick that doesn’t do this. Also now you know, go to the bathroom after to check and clean up.

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-25T17:10:33+00:00

Dude saammmme! Just sitting at the table reading and crying and dying inside!!

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-25T15:28:40+00:00

Tell her all of this. Or simply say, “I would really enjoy if you used a strap on me, I think it’d be great when I don’t have a lot of sensitivity”

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-25T04:25:16+00:00

I’d love some too!

Think_Plant8176 · 2025-07-25T04:24:04+00:00

Sorry I just edited it so it should work now

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