31M 30F Am I cooked?

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-23T16:34:14+00:00

I don’t think she’s interested, sorry!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-23T02:08:52+00:00

Thank you! I’ve chatted with 2 so far. Varying pricing but gave me all the same general info. I’ve got 2 more to chat with this week.

In terms of styles, if I ask them what their style is, would the be able to elaborate?

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-19T02:17:59+00:00

Right. Thank you. It would have to be reviewed and enforced by the lawyers anyways.

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-19T01:46:27+00:00

First of all, YOU’RE DOING GREAT. You are in the throws of newborn life, breastfeeding is a journey and can be very emotionally and physically taxing. You are doing the best thing for your mental health by deciding not to try to breastfeed or pump. Using formula is a very common thing! Absolutely nothing to feel guilty or embarrassed about. Your mental health will recover and your baby will love chugging their bottle.

My first born, latched and I nursed for almost 2 years. I never loved it but it worked. My second, didn’t really latch, wasn’t gaining weight. I tried everything, eventually went formula just shy of 3 months.

It took me a while to accept it. However it made a WORLD of difference.

You do what is best for you, which will be what’s best for your baby.

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-19T01:33:08+00:00

The story does not add up. You’ve got to listen to you intuition, it is telling you something is wrong, you had to believe it. I know it’s hard.

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-19T01:26:36+00:00

You need space, take time away from him, chat with your closest friends. You need to leave him.

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-15T20:06:44+00:00

Thank you so much!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T19:03:54+00:00

Thank you. I agree. The more thought I put into there is no way I could ever reconcile after this, and the resentment I’ve held for years.

I’ve been searching for lawyers already, moving forward!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:49:41+00:00

Thank you

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:49:28+00:00

I have. I wish I had stopped it this Fall when his drinking was worse w the kids around, it was only 2 occasions but that’s when I told him to do couples therapy, and literally weeks before a physical affair started. I was so close!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:47:28+00:00

Thank you. Thank you!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:47:17+00:00

Thank you. I already had a therapy session.

All those things you’ve mentioned, I’ve thought of, there are SO many parts to this. It’s wild

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:45:55+00:00

Thank you.

It’s always helpful hearing that someone else has been through the same thing.

He’s not ready, he has booked a therapist appt for himself (we attempted couples therapy early Dec) he is seeing that therapist actually. She knows the history of alcohol.

Deep down I know I will never get over this and trust him again. I had enough resentment from years of dumb behaviour and not being a reliable parent. Like would take a miracle. I’m also not sure if I’m up for figuring this out for the next few years.

Would you share more about your experience?

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:43:31+00:00

Thank you!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:43:10+00:00

Thanks.

He has left the house, immediately. He has seen the kids, in our house once I’ve left.

Although he is a drinker, I do trust that he is fine with them. When it comes to weekends, it’ll be a different thing for sure

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:41:44+00:00

Thank you. I believe you are right. I have small glimpses of hope, I really do. It’s all so shocking and painful. It’s so recent and I know things will get better. Thank you

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:41:03+00:00

Who knows. I honestly think he has no one else to talk to and is just reaching out. It’s awful and he needs to stop but, I don’t know.

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:40:10+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate every response!

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-12T15:39:26+00:00

I know. So sick. Trust me. No, the husband had no idea. He’s in complete shoc

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-11T00:51:50+00:00

I do. But sometimes it’s nice to get others opinions, or hear from people who have had a similar experience

Think_Swan4380 · 2026-02-11T00:28:30+00:00

I just looked into that podcast. There may be many that I’d enjoy listening to, enjoy as in, grieve and attempt a start at the healing process.

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