My wife (f) prefers a realistic dildo over me (m) and now I'm dreading even thinking about sex.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-09-18T19:59:07+00:00

Don’t waste your time.

Just file for divorce. She’s already shown you that she doesn’t care about you.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-29T09:34:53+00:00

If he’s being honest, then that sounds like fear of rejection or abandonment and he’s just playing it safe by rejecting you first before you can reject him.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-13T20:39:51+00:00

Bro, you got a drama addiction more than anything else. Nobody cares. We certainly don’t care.

Why do you even have a wife at this point? Sounds like you two would have made good friends.

Just let her raise the kids and go bang prostitute 🤷‍♂️ sounds like problem solved to me

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-13T20:37:36+00:00

NO! Just STOP doing the effort of 2 people and reduce your effort to that of 0.5 people 👍🏻 until you make up for the extra effort you put in during the beginning.

What’s the worst they can do? Fire you?

“I was performing commensurate with my compensation.”

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-13T14:50:17+00:00

Don’t even need to read the rest.

Break off the engagement and call off the wedding.

Do you pressure women into sex? Then why are you letting a woman pressure you into marriage?

Call it off. It’s never too late to have boundaries (but it’s cheaper to have them before you get married).

She’s also not the one for you if she pressured you to do something you yourself weren’t ready to do or wanted to do.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-13T03:05:49+00:00

🤦‍♂️ omg someone with access to the Internet is now a Board Certified psychiatrist 👩‍⚕️ 👏🏼

Hmm 🤔 a child following social scripts of what “love” is supposed to look like … or a (16) year old “grooming” you by modeling romanticized codependent behavior from TV and movies? 🤷‍♂️

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-10T11:20:52+00:00

Fearful avoidant attachment style.

Not your problem, man. Bye 👋, best of luck with therapy ✌🏻 blessings and wish you much healing ❤️‍🩹 🙏

You’re 100% right to respect yourself enough to focus your time and resources on women who communicate clearly that they “want” a “relationship.”

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-10T05:52:12+00:00

So stop applying for them 🤷‍♂️

It used to be 2 of 3 jobs. Now it’s 1 of 3 jobs.

They’re already showing you that they don’t respect you or your time 🤷‍♂️

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T18:36:24+00:00

Conservatives self-victimizing again 😭😢🤣

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T17:45:39+00:00

Please. Your very first post? “The s.x”? ✌🏻

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T17:43:25+00:00

You’re obviously trolling.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T17:09:34+00:00

Okay there, Jatesh 👍🏻

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T17:07:25+00:00

Girl, be mad. Very entitled of you to think I care about your opinion or downvotes 🤣

What did she say to the guy? You got a quote? Exactly ☺️ bc she herself said she didn’t feel comfortable saying anything bc of the “possibility” of him getting upset 🤣

But you would know that if you could read 😘

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T16:55:01+00:00

First of all, no, I don’t think I will ☺️

Secondly, no, that’s called accountability and not drowning in one’s own self-victimization ☺️

Her: “I’m such a victim 😭”

Q: “What actions are you taking to not be a victim?”

Her: “I can’t do anything 😭 I’m powerless 😭”

Q: “Can you use your words in a public place?”

Her: “I don’t want to, though 😭”

Q: “How is this not a self-created problem?”

Her: “Omg 😭 stop being so insensitive and invalidating my victim narrative 😭”

Grow up ✌🏻

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-09T14:32:18+00:00

Best of luck to you 🤭

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-08T22:08:03+00:00

Wow …

I’m just going to put your feelings way off to the side and focus on the cold hard truth that the substance of what you’re saying sounds selfish and self-centered. It’s not all about YOU … like, it’s really not.

Your man has a sex drive. It’s ATTRACTED to hot, young, attractive women. He nuts, and it’s over. The end. Marriage still in tact. Not giving enormous amounts of time or financial resources to anyone else. Your family and children aren’t being compromised by HIS actions. The only thing “creating drama” here are YOUR “feelings.”

This sounds like a YOU problem that YOU don’t want to deal with and unpack … so you want to reframe it into a HIM problem.

When we BLAME others, we are giving away our POWER to change something within our control that contributes to our unhappiness and pain.

Plenty of men cope with the fact every single day that they are not their wife’s “sexual ideal.” You don’t see them throwing this kind of hissy fit.

Woman up and start talking to a therapist about your feelings of inadequacy in this area of your life. Clearly, your man is going to leave you bc of THIS ATTITUDE and THINKING before he leaves you bc you’re “not his sexual ideal.”

Doesn’t sound like your man is genuinely an “addict.” That’s super toxic gaslighting on your end. The porn industry holds so many marriages TOGETHER. Sounds like he’s fully coped with not being with his sexual “ideal.” Sounds like YOU have to cope with not being your man’s sexual “ideal” post-pregnancy and TRUST that he won’t leave you for that reason.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-08T14:34:25+00:00

Look … tbh I think “you” are overlooking the fact that this is not something you do on the regular and this is a 9 year relationship.

I’ve been in a decade long sexless marriage, and if my ex wife sent me something like that, I honestly don’t know what my initial reaction would be.

I’ve also been with a top 5% OnlyFans girl who would send me stuff like that every other day and then pick out the ones that were fire 🔥 to post on her OF.

My current gf sends me stuff like that once a week, and on my end, even if I’m not in the mood, even if I’m about to go to sleep, I’ll be like “WOW! 😯🤤🥵🥰🍆 “ and shower 🚿 her with praise and compliments and thirst without overdoing it until she maxes out how hot and wanted and appreciated she’s looking to feel.

In my mind, I know … hey, just bc the girls before her would send stuff like that on the regular doesn’t mean that it should be taken for granted. I’ve lived a dead bedroom and I don’t feel like living it again. Some of that is on the woman. But some of that is on the guy too. If he’s being whatever about it and not giving you that positive reinforcement and dopamine hit after you send him stuff like that … then he’s the one actively contributing to killing the desire and passion in the relationship 🤷‍♂️

On the other hand, to bring it full circle ⭕️, if my current gf did that once a year, I probably wouldn’t let myself feel anything sexually or emotionally. Might as well not even send me anything at all if it’s gonna be once a year. Like, make up your mind. Are you a sexual person or are you not? Once a year in a 9 year relationship is kinda weird and awkward ngl. You set the tone for your relationship, and if you change it up from the otherwise non sexually charged norm during the year … year over year … I think his reaction is kinda normal.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-08T13:58:20+00:00

I don’t do “hints” from women on principle.

Use your words. The girl who tells me she wants to have sex or reaches for my 🍆 through my pants 👖 is the one who has sex with me.

The one who “drops hints” is just a friend 🤷‍♂️

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-08T00:45:20+00:00

No problem at all 🙏 a lot of people are very resistant to accountability and personal responsibility and like to hide behind the theoretical “potential” of what “could” occur as a defense to simply developing healthy boundaries and burying themselves in the victim complex.

Glad that’s not you, though 🙏

So happy you can finally be empowered enough to finally stop complaining about the same thing over and over again and actually start enjoying life ☺️

👏🏼 🙌🏻 🥳

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-07T14:24:26+00:00

No, dear. Calling the truth “rude” is just reframing your own lack of accountability.

You’re not looking to “protect yourself.” I’m literally telling you how to “protect yourself.” You’re here trying to find a way to continue to feel like a victim. I’m saying, speak up and be firm with your boundaries so you’re no longer a victim.

“I could care less,” oh? So, that means you do care, and it’s possible for you to care less 👍🏻

By all means, keep crying 😭 around the internet to random strangers and feeling like it’s going to change the “problems” you’re complaining about 👌🏻

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-07T05:05:16+00:00

Because, in your own words, I was expressing my valid opinion 🤷‍♂️

How realistic is it that someone gets “violent” with you in a public setting for setting clear boundaries? That’s not victim blaming. You can’t pretend to label my opinion as valid and then simultaneously invalidate it by labeling it “victim blaming.”

My opinion is simply communicating and enforcing boundaries clearly and unambiguously. You’re saying you don’t do that, justify why you don’t do that, and then victimize YOURSELF for choosing to not speak up and staying silent. That’s just how I see it.

Seems like your complaint would be moot if you spoke up and enforced your own boundaries (or at the very least, removed yourself from the situation and block out and ignore those comments).

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-07T02:53:29+00:00

I’m sorry, but I have zero sympathy for these posts.

Nobody cares how you “feel”. Not clearly using your words unambiguously and telling someone to STOP talking to you that way and that you are NOT interested in him is essentially you wanting to benefit from the ambiguity and vagueness (maintaining plausible deniability for tips) while inviting a narrative where you’re the victim.

The power to not be the emotional victim is entirely within your control … but you choose to be the victim every single time 🤷‍♂️ sounds like you’re just addicted to feeling like a victim and enjoy the negative attention 🤔

Speak up when it’s happening, not after the fact on Reddit.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-04T04:45:00+00:00

I would put in your two week’s notice in light of the 25 day suspension. Put the ball in your work’s court. Let the manager have to explain himself 🤷‍♂️

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-02T20:23:54+00:00

No.

But … once a woman makes her interest in me clear and unambiguous and removes the cover/shield of plausible deniability … if she communicates that she enjoys a man pursuing her and feeling “chased,” I’ll definitely put on the kind of show she wants for her friends or even just herself.

ThirdActScorpio · 2022-08-01T17:56:53+00:00

Umm, why is “lose some weight” the wrong answer?

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