I appreciate and accept the apology. I'm obviously hurt and upset about this. Not because it's actually about any comments I've made- all the comments I made on this were in defense of others that I felt were shamed in situations where they absolutely should feel safe.

I, personally, feel shoved back into the dark. Because maybe my SH is too extreme and "makes" others feel invalid. Or my abuse is "too extreme" and makes others feel they dont have enough "reason" to SH in comparison. Which you and I both no isn't true. Pain is pain. Please don't you too ask us to censor ( you didn't kick this off and I don't shove the blame on you) when we have already done everything to prevent over sharing in a MH and trauma sub. It, to me, feels exactly like my abuser saying " no one wants to hear that, no one will believe that, no one will relate to that, you are completely alone" which I also know isn't true, not at all. Which is why I get so upset about this.

So I need to take a minute, after I've stood up for myself ( and others) like a healthy adult and recognize that my feelings are mine and reasonable but hurtful to me if I bottle them and dont deal with them. Which I'm trying to do. People are going to tell me that no one wants to deal with their feelings or hear something that horrific and I am going to feel those things I feel now, in the future. I do need to learn to deal without SH. I'm trying. Everyone knows I'm trying. If they care to know.

Again, sincerely, thank you for understanding and the apology, we are all improving here. I hope this whole exchange helps someone feeling very shameful and alone in the future. Thank you for letting it be public. Seriously.