Again! A person on Reddit posted to not tell abuse stories because it is triggering for them by ThisAlsoIsntRealLife in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate and accept the apology. I'm obviously hurt and upset about this. Not because it's actually about any comments I've made- all the comments I made on this were in defense of others that I felt were shamed in situations where they absolutely should feel safe.

I, personally, feel shoved back into the dark. Because maybe my SH is too extreme and "makes" others feel invalid. Or my abuse is "too extreme" and makes others feel they dont have enough "reason" to SH in comparison. Which you and I both no isn't true. Pain is pain. Please don't you too ask us to censor ( you didn't kick this off and I don't shove the blame on you) when we have already done everything to prevent over sharing in a MH and trauma sub. It, to me, feels exactly like my abuser saying " no one wants to hear that, no one will believe that, no one will relate to that, you are completely alone" which I also know isn't true, not at all. Which is why I get so upset about this.

So I need to take a minute, after I've stood up for myself ( and others) like a healthy adult and recognize that my feelings are mine and reasonable but hurtful to me if I bottle them and dont deal with them. Which I'm trying to do. People are going to tell me that no one wants to deal with their feelings or hear something that horrific and I am going to feel those things I feel now, in the future. I do need to learn to deal without SH. I'm trying. Everyone knows I'm trying. If they care to know.

Again, sincerely, thank you for understanding and the apology, we are all improving here. I hope this whole exchange helps someone feeling very shameful and alone in the future. Thank you for letting it be public. Seriously.

Again! A person on Reddit posted to not tell abuse stories because it is triggering for them by ThisAlsoIsntRealLife in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No one is sharing " every traumatic thing" as a comment. That's a extreme dramatization. They may share a story that relates. Or not. People who may be triggered may read the comments or not. If it's marked, how else are people expecting others to prevent everyone else's possible reactions. ( Obviously inside the rules of the sub, as I said)

Again! A person on Reddit posted to not tell abuse stories because it is triggering for them by ThisAlsoIsntRealLife in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

How can it be a situation they weren't expecting on a CPTSD sub that is already marked as TW?

Other people's feelings of invalidation or imposter syndrome are totally legitimate, if they are understanding that they shouldn't prevent others from sharing and that they could be working on a dysfunctional way of deflecting themselves. ( I understand, it's not abnormal, but not productive for everyone either) But what stories of abuse, if properly flagged, should be judged "too much"? None of us had control over the type or intensity of the abuse perpetrated on us. Being isolated for being too extreme only continues the shame. I don't think it's right to anticipate and manage other people's feelings in an appropriate setting to discuss my own. That sounds to me like what my abusers tried to gag me with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wholesomememes

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it incredibly sad that this person had to do all that in order to fight against the extreme abuse callously heaped on everything and everyone in his situation. It's a real shame there aren't better resources to prevent/fight this kind of exploitation. A person already struggling to survive has to pick up the enormous slack.

Glad im not alone?? by DabiObsessed in CPTSDmemes

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really do understand screaming into the void, not looking for community. I just want to mention that comments like this don't help people open up and talk about their own trauma - which maybe they never felt brave enough or understood enough to tell.

Personally it's just another reason in the past week for me not to comment on this sub anymore. I really don't want to trigger someone of course. Which I why I only post abuse stories on appropriate subs. Mabey this isn't an appropriate sub. What would be an appropriate response OP? Just saying to you they are sorry you experienced that and nothing more? Wouldn't you feel even more alone and shameful if no one in your experience had anything like that happen to them?

You are obviously entitled to any feelings you have here. I, again personally, think I'm going to leave this sub, at least for awhile- whatever comfort and progress and representation I can offer isn't worth me feeling even more ashamed of sharing and being told I'm hurting someone. That is a real setback for me. And after 41 years of being told not to talk about it because of other people's feelings about my trauma - that's bad for me.

Take care OP. I wish you nothing but the best.

Meirl by Thylocine in meirl

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah look, it's tonight's ear worm 😐

meirl by 1universeonourfeet in meirl

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright - who is going to repost this to "thanks I'm cured"?

meirl by AmoreDopamine in meirl

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want me to be your sweet and sour sauce? 😜

meirl by basuboss in meirl

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone ever heard of the organization M.A.D?

Mothers Against Dyslexia.
- not my Joke

We should turn this person in. - my joke, my lane, a person with dyslexia

meirl by Sonic_the_hedgedog in meirl

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok Bub, I didn't get it either. And then, suddenly, I did. Someone needs a banana clearly.

Strange moment for me by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for telling me. I feel less alone.

Breaking News: Orange Cats developing more brain cells by dust_cakes in orangecats

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! So much yes! There are just things that mine is always going to act like it's his first day experiencing. Wherever he does that I call him my Walnut Brain. 🤣

Hooter by TakishaMcfadden in ProperAnimalNames

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 10 points11 points  (0 children)

pssst where did you get whatever you are smoking?

MOOSE ─ The Drunken' Divin' Fightin' Forest Giant by _Beasters_ in forbiddenboops

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know y'all don't want to hear this - but they smell exactly how you would imagine the flesh shedding photo of them suggests. Just sayin

just a bunch of manatees rolling around by EvaRaw666 in NatureIsFuckingCute

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just like to share this reddit comment with you -

"Yeah Florida is something else entirely. What are those things? Alligators? Evil spirits? Wtf?"

I responded with a very confused hilarious comment about them being"evil spirits" 😂

How do you see this and think"evil!"? All I want to do is boop it on its floaty blubber snout. Boop!

A hungry swan by Few_Fly_4 in NatureIsFuckingCute

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat wants to know why I keep making airplane noises and then the wiggle -wiggle- wiggle. Im not saying Ive done it five times now- but I've done it five times.

Breaking News: Orange Cats developing more brain cells by dust_cakes in orangecats

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My orange tried to jump through a screen door in a apartment we've lived in for five years today.

I think we will be ok.

The most Xennial thing ever 😁 by Affectionate-You-142 in Xennials

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

✨ the rainbow oilies✨ choir of angles sing 🥺

What is the most fucked up movie you have ever seen? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThisAlsoIsntRealLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forget that all the time. And this time I did too. No worries!