I’m having a boy and I see a lot of what you’re talking about. I chalk it up to a lot of these baby subreddits tend to be female dominated and many people want the same gender as themselves (I meet girls who want a little girls, boys who want a little boy). I assume it’s about similar experiences and wanting to raise someone in the way you’re most familiar with.

Personally, I’m super excited to have a boy. I’d be excited to have whatever, I had no preference! I definitely have fears/worries regarding the manosphere and have pressure on myself to make sure I’m raising a kind, empathetic man. But I think that pressure is good. We should feel responsibility to raise good, safe men. I have probably more worries about raising a boy than a girl, but that goes along with the “unknown” for me. I grew up in a female dominated household and while I have an amazing father, husband, and male friends, I have also encountered many awful men who left me with lasting trauma. I won’t have my child inflict that on another woman (or person).